I recently found out he was e-mailing old girlfiends. He said he stopped. I check his email every now and then and its clear but how do I know he didnt create a new e-mail account? I feel really conflicted. I dont know how he would react if he caught the keylogger. So how effective are they at being invisible?
2006-12-08 10:34:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he discovers it he could use it as grounds for as divorce claiming you invaded his privacy- EMAIL is like MAIL. Its only intended for the one its addressed to. But on the same hand, you could use it as evidence in court that he has been unfaithful. So....be careful. Dont listen to assssholes who claim that youre insanely jealous- theyre just assssholes. But if youre snooping, you probably have REASON to snoop. Just hope that it pays off in the end, either way- no matter what youre going to be hurt- if he is innocent of cheating then you will always feel guilt for not having trusted him, and if he is guilty, then you will still feel guilt over having found out- either way- seems there is a lack of trust on BOTH your parts- he and you. Thats not love. And as for how effective are they at not being found, it depends on his intellect- all he would have to do is search for it, could be as simple as doing a search for recent files created and then seeing how the files are in a directory that he never created and there ya go....be careful. You can bet that if he IS Cheating, that he is being careful because you already confronted him on the emails. So if he is cheating, he is watching his back. And you can expect him to be more than angry if youre caught spying on him. Men tend to freak at that shiit.
2006-12-08 10:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by . S 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You didn't mention what the emails say. I would be worried if he WASN'T friendly with his exes. If he's just saying "Hey, what's up? How's life treating you, blah blah blah," and ESPECIALLY if he's saying things like, "Yeah, everything's going great with me and my wife..." Then YOU are the one with the problem. I have ex-girlfriends that I would NEVER stop talking to. There are reasons why they are exes, and they will stay that way, but that doesn't mean we can't remain friends.
If he's been romancing them, then either you need to re-evaluate the terms of your relationship (i.e. make it an open relationship where you both can see anyone you want), or leave him if you will only accept monogamy.
Logging his keystrokes isn't ethical, but I wouldn't blame you if you already have proof of previous wrongdoing. The question is, is he even worth the trouble to you? Also, even if you find nothing, will this marriage last now that you no longer have any trust in him?
2006-12-08 10:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it's totally wrong. If your gut is telling you that he may not be completely honest with you then it's something to consider. YOu could also ask him if he's opened another account and if you feel uneasy about the response, do what you need to. People with nothing to hide, hide nothing. There are good programs that are invisible unless he is a computer whiz.
2006-12-08 10:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would if i found out he was talking to old girlfriends...
He already violated your trust, so go ahead and install it. You have a good reason to...
Besides.. too many ppl cheat now-a-days and you dont want to be the poor wife that ends up with Herpes...Protect yourself.
2006-12-08 10:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by yo mama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For you to keep track of what he is doing without confronting this is the only way. He probably has no clue what you have done. Dont sweat it too much unless he is giving you other signs that something is going on
2006-12-08 10:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
get a keylogger that will hide it real location and hope he not good with computer
2006-12-08 11:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by kevin02915 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you dont trust him, then why are you with him? ask yourself that. Especially since you installed a keylogger.
2006-12-08 10:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You need to sit down and talk to him because if you don't have trust in a marriage you don't really have a marriage!
2006-12-08 10:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
why do u want to do that when u can just set a password to log in no one should have access to it besides u .....why it is not yours
2016-03-29 00:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it. You need to know the answer.
2006-12-08 10:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋