What should I do so that the same thing doesn't happen? I can't stop kicking myself!
2006-12-08 10:30:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Oh yeah, my son is 5.
2006-12-08 10:48:46 · update #1
well i know you dont want advise from a 13 year old but my dad died in 9/11 also and i really dont have parents because my mom is never home and if i was ur son i would really want like a time all alone with my parents like go ice skating or to the arcade just have fun and talk to him about everything itll really help him. and if one day godforbit his parents die he will always remember that day
2006-12-08 14:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you kicking yourself? Did you send the bombers into the Trade Center? Don't feel guilty if you didn't do anything to cause the disaster. Instead, focus on the positives: your parents died. That's terrible, and you should feel sad, but what legacy did they leave? You have a beautiful son: what should he know about your parents? What have you learned from them that makes you a better parent? What do you need to do to make you feel connected to your son again? Visit relatives? Move? Visit your parents' graves? Figure out what you need to do to feel connected to your son again. There's no cure-all, but I grieve for your loss.
2006-12-08 10:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a family night at least once a week. Play games, rent a movie, make some popcorn, or just talk. If he is old enough to understand about the relationship that you had with your parents tell them that you regret not spending as much time with them and that once someone is gone it is too late. If possible try to have dinner together as a family every night. I make a point of having everyone at the table because I want my 2 year-old son to grow up with a sense of family togetherness.
2006-12-08 10:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry that your parents died on 9/11 that must have been such a shock and a scare for you.Im so sorry that you weren't close to them.The best advice I can give you is spend more time with him
and tell him how you feel.
2006-12-08 10:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by TH, CB + part of SJ family ☆ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your son is in his late teens this is natural. (I have three sons). They will drift away until they feel that they are established in life. Then they will get back closely with you.
Make sure they know you love them. Spend time with them but don't hold them too tightly.
2006-12-08 10:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its easy for us teens and younger to 'drift' away from our parents.
when i was in 2nd grade i decided that my mom inbarassed me too much and thought she was never cool after that.
stay close to them.
if they need space let them have space.
2006-12-08 11:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would say the best thing you can do is talk to him. Tell him how you feel about your parents. Maybe he will listen. If not atleast you told him how you feel!
2006-12-08 10:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just hang out wit your son just like take him to see his favorite team and stuff like dat. show him a lot of love. show him u care what is going on in his life. ( Depending on age)
2006-12-08 10:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SO SORRY. HAVE MORE CONVERSATION WITH YOUR SON AND DO THINGS WITH HIM SO THAT YOU CAN KEEP THAT CLOSENESS WITH HIM. SOMETIMES AS PARENTS WE FAIL TO SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH OUR CHILDREN. THIS IS WHEN OUR CHILDREN BEGIN TO STRAY BECAUSE THEY ARE SEEKING ATTENTION. GET TO HIM BEFORE HE GET WAY AHEAD OF YOU.
2006-12-08 10:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, okay... (Kicking yourself?!)
I'm so sorry about what happened! :-( I wish I knew the answer to your question! :-( Sorry! :-(
2006-12-08 10:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by emjackson95 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋