Found out I am not the father of my seven year old daughter. I have filed for a divorce but emotionally I am not the same, don't know if I can trust anyone again.
2006-12-08 10:29:37 · 30 answers · asked by Trunkbuster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sweetie, you are not alone. Please remember that. But also remember that for the past seven years this was your child. You can leave the wife but dont leave the child. Remember you are her daddy, the only one she has ever known. This isnt her fault.
The feeling of not being able to trust again is normal. But remember when you are ready for another relationship, that woman is not your ex.
Be strong and much luck! Hugs!
2006-12-08 10:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lulu76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 20:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best way to heal is to forgive, keep loving your daughter as your own. Realize that your wife is not perfect and if divorce is in the cards then go for it. But your heart will mend if you are a big enough man to let it. There was more problems in your marriage to begin with, and it takes two to tango. But one bad apple on the tree doesn't ruin the whole crop. Besides you will find that there are millions of women out there that want you and your life is just beginning. Good Luck
2006-12-08 10:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry dude. That is very very wrong. Your wife is a horrible person, i am sorry if you still love her but.... Well I used to get over a break up with drugs... ummm but I am sober now and wouldnt suggest that to anyone. Gosh I dont know...... Do you have close friends? Are you close to your family? If yes, you should spend a lot time with them now. Also PLEASE do not give up hope on people. Yes your wife stabbed you in the back, but please remember, not everyone is like this. I have been with my BF for 4 years and I havent even cme close to cheating on him. This brings the situation to a new level though. Think of how the girl thinks. Even though she may not be your daughter, you should not lose all contact with her. Remember, you were her daddy until she was 7 years old! People learn more in their first two years of life than their entire life span combined. This situation is not your fault AT ALL but remember it is not the girl's fault either.
2006-12-08 10:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry but im sure you were a good father for those seven years of her life and she will always remember you for that you and her just do not have the same blood that's all any one can make a child but it takes a special person to raise a child
TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS . it just take time
there is someone out there who will not lie and be truthful
and honor there vows . and when you find that person your just going to have to trust your decesions will be the best
it will happen it just take time
2006-12-08 10:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry.
Honestly, time. Time is the best medicine. I have had a lot happen to me (nothing like your situation) but i was married/divorced because husband cheated, lost my father at age 15 and my mom has MS.....Ive had my share.
All my life, I have been cheated on by boyfriends. Its life. Dont block everyone else out, not everyone is bad. Take awhile to let everything settle, let everything cool down. Get to know people, go out. Dont rush anything, but dont build a wall around yourself either.
If you have that wall, people wont want to get to know you or get close to you.
Again, Im sorry for what happened, but dont shun everyone and everything else out of the picture. Not all is bad. Take it as a lesson learned...and move on.
Everything will be ok. =)
2006-12-08 10:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your "daughter". pay attention to the good things about this child that you have LOVED for 7 years. She may not be "related" to you, but you are still a part of her life. Your daughter needs you there, just like you have been for the last 7 years. is there any other way than a divorce? get a FAMILY counselor
2006-12-08 10:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Keko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advise I could give you is to give it time, your feelings to this girl aren't going to dissapear overnight. Don't go into the datind world right away, go out with friends stay single for a while get to know yourself again and give yourself time to heal, along the way you'll find someone.
2006-12-08 10:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, im so sorry you got hurt like that, believe it or not time will heal your heart, and just because you found one bad apple in the bunch, it dont mean they all are.. Trust again dont close yourself up.. Not everyone lie, and cheat... Youll find someone thats right for you... Good luck!!! Happy holidays!!
2006-12-08 10:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a day out for u and ya closest friends. and or a day with ya daughter and jsut do whatever u want . make ya self feel good. things come to ends all the time but its the new beginnings that really make life worth liven
2006-12-08 10:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋