i dont want to live anymore and i need help?

Question

i cant go on and i want to die im being looked after by someone i know says she wants me and i know she does not my mom died and was burried today what do i do i just want to be with my mum someone help please

Answer 1

Hi sweetie , i know this is hard for you but death is not the answer. Your mom would want you to grow up and make something of you life,She wouldnt want you to end your life. thats like saying everything your mom did for you up until now was a waste of her time because your just want to throw it all away. Thats not what Mom would want. I knew your mom and she would be devestated to hear you talk like this. you need to talk to some one and i know you have people who care about you. the woman that is looking after you really loves you and wants you to be part of her family. she doesnt want to replace your mom but she wants to be there for you when you need some one. Have you tried writting your feelings down or writting a letter to your mom. I know she wont be able to recieve it but sometimes if you write your feelings and thought down just like you were writting to the person you are letting the feelings out and it will make you feel better. then after you write it you can tear it up but you have released those feelings. you can even telll mom how angry you are that she is gone. trust me it will work. But dont hurt your self. You owe it to mom and all she went through her whole life to live .

Answer 2

come on you, life must be really crap for you at the moment, nobody should have to live without their mum, especially at such a young age, it is going to be the hardest thing you will ever have to do so you need to be strong. i understand you feeling like you don't want to live but you have got o much life ahead of you. think about what your mum would want.....she would want you to find happiness and grow to be an amazing adult, you are already an amazing child o you haven't got far to go......how do i know? i'm a mum and that is what i would want. no matter what people tell you she will be with you every day and help you get through thi. just because you can't see her it doesn't mean she is not there. as for feeling you are not wanted where you are now i bet that isn't true. it must have been a big shock for that person too and it will take you both a bit of time to adapt to each other. try not to be too hard and if ever you need to talk we are all here for you. keep your chin up baby girl and always remeber that it will get easier it's just a matter of time. so don't do anything silly, your mum dying is a tragic waste of life so you can honour her by staying alive and well and find your happy place. good luck sweetie xxxxx

Answer 3

Ah, sweetie - I'm so sorry about your Mum! I lost my mother about ten years ago and I still miss her a lot, especially around the holidays (she loved the holidays).

I could give you some treacle about how your Mom is still with you - which would be true in some ways, but wouldn't make you feel a jot better, probably. Having been there (I've lost several people I love over the years), I can tell you:

> it does get better eventually. My Mom used to say, "better is always coming, but the trick is to hang on until it gets here." Whether or not you feel that things will get better, the fact is, they will, in time, if you're around when it happens.

> it's okay that you hurt (stay with me on this one). You loved someone and she's not present in your life any more. Of course you hurt! The old saying, "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" is true, and applies to more than romantic love. Your Mum's loss leaves a big hole in your heart, one which will heal in time, but not right away. You hurt because you love, and miss her.

Birth and death bring out some of our strongest emotions, and it's only right they should - if not for this, what are you saving them for? You're feeling what most of us feel in this situation, and those of us who've been through it feel for you, wish you well, and know you'll be better in time.
> Do things that your Mum is no longer around to do. Volunteer to help others, be kind to people you meet, be patient with the store clerk who can't seem to get the cash register to work. In your Mom's honor, do good in the world. You are her legacy, her bid at immortality. Live a kind and useful life, and you carry her spark forward with you into the world.

It's the only thing I can think of that helps, really. Take what of your Mum was good and spread it in the world. Let yourself love other people and live the best life you can figure out for yourself, then when one day (long from now) you are gone, others will be motivated to carry the best of you out into the world with them - and they'll be carrying a bit of your Mum, whether they know it or not.

My condolences, honey -- loss is so hard! I hope you carry on and spread what was good about your Mum to everyone you meet.

Answer 4

Im sorry that you are going through such a hard time and my prayers are with you. Im not sure if you believe in God or not but I do. If you kill yourself you will not see your mom. Suicide is an unforgivable sin becuase after you die you can not repent and it is going against Gods will. I Pray that your mom went to Heaven and I hope you believe that too so killing yourself wont give you what you are looking for. I know that it hurts now and you feel scared and alone but if you power through it and pray through it you will come out on the other side a better and stronger person. Sorry to get so after school special on you but it is very very true. Give someone the chance to love you and take care of you. I hope this cheers you up and know that there is some one out there who is praying for your well being and your happiness. God Bless!

Answer 5

I am really sorry. Try talking to your friend or a counselor or a guardian. If your really feeling down, curl up with a mug of hot chocolate and a really good book. Or call a friend and talk to them or get together. My bff is someone I can always count on. I really hope this helps. This is gonna sound really cheesy, but your mom's always gonna be near you. Her love and care is gonna stay with you for the rest of your life. She's always gonna be looking after you. Be strong for her. And as for suicide, she would want you to have everything, a husband, kids, and grandchildren. Live your life to the fullest. And always take time to remember you mom. And this is a really hard situation, I know I wouldn't be able to get through this. When you do, you're going to be one of the strongest people I've ever known.

Answer 6

Oh love, so sorry to hear your news - how devastated you must be. You are going through so much pain and suffering and it is that which is making you feel so sad and low and wanting to die yourself as you are missing your Mum badly and it is only natural that you would want to be with her.

As time goes on you will begin to feel a bit better and know that your Mum wants you to carry on and make the very best of your precious life. She would want you to be happy, and to reach the full potential that you have and that will make her very proud of you. It is good that you have someone to look after you at this time and perhaps it would be good if when you are ready you could chat to her about how you feel. If not perhaps your Doctor may be able to refer you to someone who you can open up to as although nobody will every take the place of your Mum it would appear that you do need to talk to someone.

I wish I knew you and was near to you to be able to help. Am sending you a huge big hug and trying to wipe away your tears.

Please don't give up, take good care and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you do have faith and believe in God and know that he too is always therefore you.

God Bless you.

Answer 7

i am very sorry sweetie ! But do you realy think your mom would of wnated you to die? Your mom sacraficed everything she ever could to give you/ provide you with a good life!Don't do some thing irratinaol.. I know you feel devastated and tehre is no pint of livinng but your mom would of wanted you to keep going! She would of wanted to see you succesful . You know your mom will look down at you with a smile when she sees you have your life on the right track . And besides tell me one thing............ how will dieing resolve your problems?...it won't your running away from the problem and this is just an obstacle that you will over come. one more thing ........if your "new guardian" didn't realy want you she could of sent you away etc but she didn't cause rght now you both need each other!!!!!! I know you are strong and i know you will get through it!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Look, i know how you feel. Stay alive! The world needs you!
You're beautiful, corageuous, strong, brave, wonderful, irreplacesable, kind, important, and you have so many other good qualities I'm sure. now listen very closely, You have to stay alive, i know how much you want to be with your mum, but think, would she want you dead because of her, NO! she would want you to be happy, not because she died, but happy because she loves you, and she wants the best for you. The body is really only a case, i think, but the spirit of someone lives on forever, in your heart and in your memory. Remember the good things about her, laugh about them, and remember that she is watching over you.

Answer 9

Lucca, you mum would want you to go on and live a full live enjoying the things you enjoyed together (as a living memorial to her) and exploring all the wonderful things God put here on earth for us to enjoy. Death is not the answer your mum would want for you. I know you will miss her and the days will be lonely without her, however, the loneliness will begin to pass as the days go on. You will always have a place in your heart for her as she did for you, BUT and this is a big BUT. . . your mum brought you into this life to enjoy it fully for a LONG time with a LONG life. To die would be to take away your mum's dream. Live a LONG life and HONOR your mother in it. If you need further help email me. I would be honored to talk with you anytime.

Answer 10

You will get through this. Have you thought about talking to someone at church? Even if you aren't very religious it can be very comforting to find answers to your pain through spirituality. The experience you are going through is only going to make you stronger. Even by asking this question in this forum, I can tell you have strenght and a lot to offer this planet. Have you thought of all the other kids who have lost a loved one? Maybe you can help them get through this because you are stronger than then. You can make a difference, just reach out. Take care and don't harm the most important person. You.