how can i spice up my sex life?..ive tried wearing suductive clothing..nice makeup..soft music..but it still doesnt get my husband in the mood as often...what do i do? any tips?..he comes home really tired after work so i feel bad when i need it..cuz he wants to go straight to sleep..someone help!
2006-12-08 10:18:09 · 19 answers · asked by fijigal_11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's tired and stressed, and I know from personal expirience that stress and being tired can just kill a man's sex drive. My wife and I try to find 1 night a week when we don't have the kids to go out on a date night, the kids stay at her mom's and we have the night together, and for us it really helps. We just enjoy the quality time together, but for you and your husband, use the date night to help him relax, and maybe he may be more willing to make love to you. That's great that your showing your husband that you find him attractive and that you want him. Someone else said that maybe you and he should schedule a time for it, doesn't sound romantic, but it couldn't hurt.
Sit down and talk with him about it. Because I'm sure that he would be willing to talk about it, and talk with him about the date night, never know, it might be something that he may find interesting.
2006-12-08 11:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there with my wife. If a man is tired and stressed he won't be in the mood. I suspect it may be affecting other aspects of his life too. It is very important that he does not overwork himself. Instead of trying to artificially seduce him, try to get him to work less.
For me, once I quit my job and started my own business the drive came back. I actually work more now and have more stress. But because I'm in control now it actually has an energizing effect. My wife and I are much happier and our sex life has greatly improved.
2006-12-08 13:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some restraints and strap yourself naked to the middle of the bed, one leg and one hand to each corner. If you can manage that AND put a blindfold on (it can be done) then he has no option but to do something. He just may find you very attractive like that, and play around a bit. He'll have to do SOMETHING if he wants his half of the bed cleared so he can go to sleep. Plus, you won't know what he's doing or going to do next. Before our twins were born, my wife did that sort of thing fairly often. It was awesome!
2006-12-08 11:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you be my wife? I'm in the mood just reading about your efforts!
If he is really that tired, you might have to start scheduling your sex life. As un-romantic as that sounds, you guys need to be in synch. Is there any other problems that are not sexual that could be the reason he's not in the mood? You have to talk it out which is what 90% of people will tell you. It really is a problem that seems to plague many of us. Good luck.
2006-12-08 10:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by mr_slacker70 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do role play. it is sooo fun and such a turn on for our sight-sensitive men..
Like you are the naughty nurse and he is the Big Bad doctor. Or you are the slutty secretary and he is the Boss... You can buy a wig too.. i havent yet. but it seems fun.
I also have a maids uniform... you can find those anywhere
2006-12-08 10:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by yo mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god! I could have asked this question. Hopefully he's more receptive to a talk then my husband is. I told him how I was feeling and he half heartly gets in the mood and its not satisfying know that. I'm asking him for a "toy" for christmas. To relieve the pressure on him.
2006-12-08 11:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show him you want to go do stuff with him, not just sex stuff. Lemme tell ya, working long hours, studying so you can work more hours, and stress from money is enough to stress him out enough. If he's not enjoying just doing stuff with you (your fault or his) then he's not going to feel like putting out just because you're horny.
2006-12-08 13:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the room , do it in the car , on the grass , at the pool , I m 42 and I m tired of the same thing over and over again , so be creative
2006-12-08 11:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by emtgve 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same boat as you, I just try to buy some erotic toys for him to watch me with, that always gets him in the mood
2006-12-08 10:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a Brazilian wax.
Wake him up with a oral sex...which man can resist that?
Just focus on him and pamper him for an evening.
Maybe he is just very stressed out and that can play havoc with anyone's sexlife.
2006-12-08 10:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by thewife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋