I've just started 9th grade and there has been alot of rumors being spreaded about me.They are the following:I'm a rolla(ho),model,I'm not smart(I am smart),and that I am a lesbian(i'm straight i'm just not allowed to have a boyfriend says my parents).I am a very quiet person and i don't know why people like to spread rumors about me.This one boy used to like me but he says "he is not going to go with me until I get bigger" because I became anorexic.I've gained a few pounds this year but he does'nt think is is enough what the f*** I don't even like him so why is he acting like I'll gain weight for him.Could it be that people are spreading rumors about me because they want me to feel bad about myself and gain weight.Also,it could be that the boy who used to like me wants other people not to like so he can have me for himself oor is he trying to make me angry becuase I heard he wanted to fight and i've never done anything to him.What do you think and how would you handle this situation?
2006-12-08 10:05:23 · 7 answers · asked by heyeverybody 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is becoming popular or whatever and he might have told people about me because he used to like me.People are just not minding their business.
2006-12-08 10:11:19 · update #1
im in 9th grade to and i think that people are being mean to you because they either feel insecure about themselves or they are just trying to make their friends laugh. people shouldnt make fun of you because you are bulimic because its a problem that you have and you cant help it. you just cant let other ppl get you down, and if they do dont show it. im sure eventually it will either get better or it will get worse and you will learn to deal with it. SO GOOD LUCK< AND DO NOT EVER GIVE UP!!!!!!!!
2006-12-08 10:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tena Bena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In high school, how you present yourself is VERY important in keeping a good reputation. Take a look at how you dress, how you hold yourself, what you say, how you look, and what you do -- are you sending people any messages that could be misunderstood?
Perhaps your shyness is a cause of this -- if you avoid answering questions in class, people may assume that you're not very smart, for example. That doesn't mean that you should change who you are, you just may want to consider developing better interpersonal communication skills.
Here's a few specific recommendations:
- Smile! Go out of your way to be friendly to people. Others tend not to gossip or make up rumors about nice people because everyone likes them!
- Ignore the guy that used to like you -- it doesn't sound like he is a very good friend. You want friends who build you up, not put you down, and this guy sounds like he's definately putting you down.
- Dress modestly. Even one somewhat revealing outfit can be enough to get people's imaginations going. Being overly modest, however, is never a bad idea. When in doubt, err on the side of covering up too much instead of not enough. This can help prevent negative comments from being directed at you. Covering up more may also help you to feel less self-conscious about your weight as you work to get yourself healthy again.
High school can be rough, and you have to take everything with a grain of salt. Practically EVERYONE gets picked on at some point or another during high school; don't let it get you down!
2006-12-08 18:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of this matters - remember that!! High Shcool is made out to be the greatest time in your life - it is not. It is actually very insignificant and so are the "issues" that go with it. They seem big now but in reality they are beyond trivial. You have your entire life ahead of you, 60-80 years worth, so don't try tomake these 4 little years sooo significant.
2006-12-08 18:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by billnrhonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's him spreading rumors it's just because he can't have u. Also people just believe him because he's going to be "popular". But just talk to one of the persons that used to talk to u alot.Thin tell thm the truth. Hopefully at the end he won't have any friends and nobody will believe him. So just hang in there i've been through it too.It's tough.
2006-12-08 18:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by puppy_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, kids are mean. I am 27 now, I was picked on when I was young and ugly, now I am a model and they all wish I would hook up with them. Don't let others get to you, don't care what others think. when I competed for Miss MN, the girls got meaner, people get jealous, they need to get over it. As for the boy, ignore him, he is no one, seriously.
2006-12-08 18:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here goes.. People tend to make fun of people when they are feeling not in control of things, they are insecure with them selves.. Try not to let it get you down.. I know its hard ive been there. You know who you are and what your all about, so dont let someone elses ignorance get you down.. Hey eat for you,, get better for yourself cuz ill tell you something honey, YOUR WORTH IT.!!!!!!! HAPPY HOLIDAYS and good luck..
2006-12-08 18:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell em its not true. Move on. Ignore them. Kids can be cruel.
2006-12-08 18:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by carlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋