how can i have a happy life?

Question

hi, im 21...college student, normal blablabla, i took some classes in sociology, psychology, philosophy ...my question is towards people that have some life experience...some people experience, and really...i would appreciate some tips and advice from those, my grandmother used to give me good advice when i was a child, and that is still with me, and im beginning to think she was right...that is why i find this kind of advice coming from someone that went thru it all so priceless, i dont want answers from a specific point of view...i want universal answers, like i dont want to know what would make a specific person happy, rather what would make everybody happy, thank you

ok, i said universal...there are people that dont believe in God, so thinking of Jesus in all your actions would not be a good answer for an atheist...

Answer 1

I think it's great that you have taken all those classes and I think you are smart to be looking to those with some life experience for some insights and guidance. Sometimes having to go through it all is a great teacher - I just wish now that I had not had to go through so much, but for some of us that's how it has to be.

Having a deep yearning for truth, meaning of life and knowledge draws to you the right person or guide. It can be a book, something you read, not necessarily a person. Such a book, a very simple inspirational one came to me. It transformed my whole life, drew to me wonderful like-minded seekers. We studied together - discovered exciting inspirational books - many by Unity, a publishing ministry that produce metaphysical and inspirational literature . One that I found particularly inspiring is "the Game of Life and How To play It" by Florence Scovel Shinn. As title says, life is a game and not a battle as it is unfortunately experienced by many. It tells you the rules. If you play the game successfully you can lead a wonderfully happy and rewarding life and you can make others happy.too

Answer 2

Be there. If you have a life, share it with someone if you can. If you share, remember it's a two-way street. If you commit to someone, it should be because their happiness is at least as important to you as your happiness, and they should feel and act the same way.

Don't let anyone walk over you, you deserve your own place in this world. Whatever you do, be honest about it, to yourself, and to those with whom you share your life.

Do what you can to be open to other people, even if at first blush you don't think they're your kind of people. Be patient.

Travel. Think. Read about different people, places, history, art, movies, politics, religion, philosophy, etc. Round yourself out so you have some basis for forming opinions and relating to the world.

If you have children, guide them, but be kind, they are little versions of you, and really want to do well and have a good life. Take them by the hand and show them all you've learned, then let them run free on their own.

Love comes back to its source.

I hope you have a good life.

Answer 3

I grew up in a church school, raised a Christian, and 48 years later I am still waiting for "God's answer" to that one. Dont recommend waiting on GOD.....

I have been fired and laid off from 14 different Companies since graduating from college in 1981. All because some douche with an MBA thought re-organizing my job, or my salary would better serve some shareholder. Dont recommend waiting on the "find happiness through your career"

Married my highschool sweetheart. Virgin on my wedding night to her. She divorced me after 20 years of marriage, because she didnt like who I had become......"Dont recommend finding happiness through true love"

Have worked hard all my life, done everything right, been the 'good guy', followed the rules, earned a masters degree, fought for my country in three wars, and am now pretty much broke-d1ck, penniless, 60% disabled. SO I wouldnt recommend the "American dream" approach either.

IF you want happiness......quit school, LEARN a TRADE, something that you can do, ON your OWN, for yourself. So if you ever get fired or laid off you can work, and earn, and eat.

If you want happiness, pray all you want to God, or Jesus but make up your own mind and take your own action, and never look back on a decision once its been made. NEVER second guess yourself.

If you want happiness, put money away for tomorrow. Not in some BS investment that will penalize you if you take it out early before 50 years from now. Believe me you will need to. No matter how little or how much you make, put something aside so you can get to it when life sucks, and it will sooner or later.

If you want happiness be your own person. be true to yourself. Do life for yourself, not for some chick, or your parents,etc. Because that other person will leave you, or will die, and you will be stuck in a place you dont really want to be in, because you were doing it for the wrong reasons.

If you want happiness...do "IT" now. Whatever "IT" is. Go to Africa and live with the pygmies for a year. Learn to skydive naked. Whatever "IT" is - DO IT NOW. Because if you dont, you WILL wake up someday too employed, too married, too poor, too responsible, too stuck to do it....and you will REGRET IT. Believe me.....THOSE regrets HURT dude...

Its not what we DID in life that hurt / haunt us when we get older, its what we DID NOT DO .........

Good luck kid

Answer 4

It sounds like you haven't found want you want to do in life yet. Take your general education courses and you'll find something you're interested in. Right now you have the opportunity to meet people, and make friends. If by the time you graduate you can't call someone friend at your college campus you've wasted your opportunity. You aren't going to find happiness until YOU start experiencing life. Join Habitat for Humanity, collect money for Hurricane Katrina victims, collect books/toys/clothes/etc. for needy children, find what interests you and go out and do it. Whatever makes you happy only YOU can find, and you won't find it at the bottom of a bottle, you'll find it out in the world. I'm 25 and I'm getting my second college degree soon I'll be out looking for a job, but I'm happy because I help others, I do work for my church, I have friends that I can talk with, I have my artwork that I do for me, and I have my pug who always gets me to smile. Go find YOUR happiness.

Answer 5

Luke ... I am your father! You are trying to hard. Your last sentence says it all. You want to make everybody happy! I don't see any mention of making yourself happy in there! I can tell you from personal experience that you will never be satisfied with anything you do if you fail to consider your own personal happiness with what you do, buy and who's company you keep.

Answer 6

believe in yourself.

forgive yourself your flaws and past missteps - take a look back at your life and laugh a bit.

let go of grudges - write the person a letter of how you really feel - but don't send it, burn it. It will accomplish the necessary results.

don't beat yourself up about the small stuff, but resolve to try better.

avoid lies (especially self-deception) - they cause depression.

take a walk in a beautiful place as often as is practical, especially when it's nice out.

smile more. It's my favorite contagious disease.

Answer 7

i think every person needs to find their nitche. everyone has to find a spot in their life where they feel complete and makes their heart feel full. it doesnt have to be love or money. one person would feel comlpetly fullfilled if they could own a bakery. while another person wouldnt be happy with that life. but instead they would like to work for a non profit organization. its diffrent for everyone.
most people think that if they have money and love that their life is complete. but thats not always the case. you have to surround yourself with things that make you feel like you belong. things that make you feel like without you....it just wouldnt be the same.


we all are yearning to figure out that we're needed and that our life wasn't a waste.



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Answer 9

i can't tell you how to have a happy life all i can say is this "go out and be yourself" do something that you have always wanted to do. no matter what. if you want a happy life you have to make it happen. no body else can do it for you.

Answer 10

i think if one can find peace of mind it would help to make for a happy life. the thing is, each person's idea of peace of mind is different, only you can discover what gives you peace.