i have liked this boy since last april, and i havent gotten over him since, and its so depressing cuz he has never met or seen me before and has no idea what my name is (but i havent been stalking him or anything!!!) i just saw him once in his hometown and i dream about him alot!!...so anyway uptil now i havent gotten over him and i dont know how i can stop feeling this way cuz ill never be with him...i know that some people can make themselves get over people but i dont know how cuz hes such a good person and i cant find anything bad enough for me to fall out of love with him...can anyone tell me how to get over him already?
2006-12-08 09:50:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It doesn't sound to me like you're "in love" at all -- you're infatuated. Once you recognize this, it'll be easier to convince yourself to get over him. Because you don't know him, it is VERY easy to pretend like he is exactly everything that you ever wanted (and more). In fact, most teens go through a phase like this. Humans have basic needs from other people -- companionship, support, recreation, attention, etc. -- and right now, from what it sounds like, you don't have anyone around fulfilling these, which is okay! But, by focusing all of your attention on this "mystery boy," you're really setting him up on a pedestal, and setting yourself up for the heartache that you've been feeling the past eight months.
So, what to do? You have basically two options here:
1. Get up the guts to contact him. Stalk him just long enough to figure out how to get in touch with him, and then call him up.
OR
2. Recognize that your image of him is probably not very realistic and also probably not at all what he is really like. He has flaws -- everyone does -- and chances are, some of these flaws would annoy you, drive you nuts, and/or completely repulse you. Recognize this, and remember this whenever you think about him. When you think about his great qualities, answer truthfully: "Is this really what he is like, or is this just what I WANT him to be like?" Find other things to focus on -- hobbies, friends, sports, whatever -- and work on being yourself, achieving your goals, and if it's "meant to be" with this guy, the opportunity WILL present itself!
Good luck!
2006-12-08 10:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a secret letter if you know his email or home address. See if he will write you secret letters back and if he does then keep up with it and see if eventually you can meet him in person once he feels comfortable.
2006-12-08 18:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you see him again, introduce yourself, but if you don't, I'm sorry to say it, but it looks like your infatuated with him and it might take a while to get over him. Just try to though, and you'll get through it!
2006-12-08 17:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by emoismylabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about someone else or laugh at someone or something.
2006-12-08 17:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by girlygirl8 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋