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okay so im in grade 8 and me and my friend started hanging out w/ this new group. there was 4 of them. so we were fine and then near october, one of them, called chantal, told everybody to run away from me. she whispered it in front of them and me. so they all did. well i was pretty confused, so the next recess i said srry, but i didnt know why, i just wanted to be their friend. then about 2 weeks later they did it again, and chantal told them to do it. but this time somebody else saw them (sharon). so sharon started yelling at chantal and telling her that what she was doing was just plain wrong.(im quite, and nice, and everybody in the class hates her). she just said that it was none of sharons bussiness and left with everybody else. okay so i would stay on the wall for every recess, then they came back to me. so w//e. then chantal made the volleyball team, and she always played volleyball. me and this other girl(maggie)felt acword, so we left. then chantal siad that i was talkin bout

her all the time.i denied it.but she told everybody to ignore me,and they did.but maggie didnt.so the nexy day in gym,i started crying.i was really upset.i claimed that i had to use the bathroom,but i went in it,and just started to cry.i had just sat down when maggie came in.i was crying for about 5 minutes,and we were just about to leave,when almost every girl in the class(exept chantal and her possy)came.they told me that the teacher was yelling at everybody and he said tht if he found out why i was crying,that he would not let them be on any team or play sports.so w/e i went back in the gym,and chantal looked really mad.then she said to me on the bus on the way home,that i got alot of attention that i shouldn't have and that she wanted to be my friend agian,its been about 3 weeks,and now me and maggie are always alone. we hang out together.but i feel like maggie wants to hang out w/ chantal,but she doesnt want to leave me.i need advice,should i go back to chantal,or is she using me?

and the new girl who hangs out w/ chantal got a nasty email. i told my other friend what happened, and she sent her it.chantal thinks that i sent it, and she doesnt even have a computer!

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Answer 1

I feel very bad for you. I remember that age and how devastating it all can be. I had similar experiences like this when I was young. Keep your chin up, you will laugh about this in years to come. It seems to me that Chantel may be jealous of you some how or finds you a threat to her and her friendships. The question you have to ask yourself is 'Do you really want to associate yourself with someone like that'? I would recommend you go with what you feel is right. Be yourself and not what others want you to be. You should respect yourself and only 'hangout' with others who respect you as well. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think Ms Chantal is a little bit jealous or envious of you! Your waaaay to young to be putting up with this nonsense. Just flow with the stream, pretend Chantal is not there, don't let her get the satisfaction that she is pushing your buttons. If your friend or friends want to hang out with Chantal, then so be it. Being as your such a sweet and caring person, it will be easy to make new friends, and if Chantal is really disliked it want take your bud's long to get enough of her. We all have had a "Chantal" type person in our life. The faster you learn to deal with the Chantal's of the world the better off you will be. Believe me, its going to be OK! :)