A guy I'm very good mates with has been taking various drugs for a couple of years now. At first I was fine with it, it was mainly just weed and things. But he's getting more and more adventurous with what he takes, and I'm worried he could be putting himself in real danger. I also see huge potential in him as he is very intelligent and a good, moral person. But if he carries on with the drugs, I don't think he'll achieve anything.
I just don't know what I'd do if he died from an overdose...
How can I make him stop? I don't want to be all holier than thou, he should make his own choices, but I'm scared for him.
2006-12-08 09:42:12 · 15 answers · asked by lady_s_hazy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-12-08 09:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by Death 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually went to a drug clinic a picked up an inforamational package for my co-worker who was out of control with cocaine. This was the first step, then she spun outta control and ended up going to the place the information was from. Don't start with You have a problem...that is not what they want to hear. Look for some help in your town or city just as a fall back plan for this person, and hopefully he will eventually see this is a life saving lesson.
2006-12-08 09:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by jshorePR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. If he is really your friend, then he will stop to make you happy and keep his friendship with you. Tell him you are scared for him, that he's your friend and you care about him. He should stop after he knows how his best friend feels about this. If he is really your friend then he will stop, but he might need your help. Take him to a doctor or a couselor or something to help him get over his drug addiction. Help him get through this because if it is that bad, then he won't be able to do it by himself. He needs your encouragement. It might take a while, but it will totally be worth it in the end.
2006-12-08 09:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a brother that was on a number of drugs for more than a year, mostly crystal meth. From my experience the only thing you can do is be there for him when he needs you, but also us a tough love method as well. Don't loan him any money, that sort of thing. I did learn with my brother that it took him loosing everything, before he came out of his rut. It took my brother loosing alot of thing important to him, like half his family and his job, but if you look at him today you would never have known he ever had a problem.
2006-12-08 09:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by sara d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real true friend that you are,you will do what ever it takes to get him to stop.I can tell you from exp[erience that you don't want to lose your friend.I lost my oldest and best friend 2 years ago tomorrow on his 63 rd.birthday.Not from drugs but let me tell you friend.It hurt's like hell.Only you can come to his aid and I beg you to please do it NOW.Do everything in your power to get him to stop.I don't want anyone to have to hurt that bad.We were best friends for over 40 years.I hope your friend is here for you to say the same thing. I want you to e-mail me and tell me your friend has died at the ripe old age of 105.You have to be strong .
2006-12-08 10:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the police!! he could die not only for the drug it self but he could be in a car accident or something like that!!!! he'll hate you for a while but after a while he'll see you saved his life. i had a friend with bulemia and she hated me for 2 weeks but then we were better friends than ever after that
2006-12-08 09:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Risako 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best in for talking about this with him is your personal concern for his welfare. Talk to him about your concerns for his life and well-being.
Don't cover up for his problems with drugs, don't enable him to continue the behavior, but be willing to help him kick the habit.
At the end of the day, he has to be the one who chooses to quit -- but you can offer him encouragement and concern in that direction.
Good luck.
2006-12-08 09:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell an important responsible adult in his life, he might hate you right now, but after he's over his dangerous addiction, he'll thank you for saving his life.
2006-12-08 09:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm now this is a serious matter your friend probably either has an addiction or will get one soon. you really need to talk to a counselor about this or get your friend into counseling or rehab, something before its too late.
2006-12-08 09:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by SunshineShortie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start by telling him how much you value his friendship and that you are worried for him. Try to convince him that you have his best interests at heart.
2006-12-08 09:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋