Even though I know it's wrong, and that I wasn't suppossed to engage in this kind of situation, somehow I got attached, and can't let it go... it hurst so bad, my real partner is a great guy, but the sex with mr.bootie call was so good that I could say without hesitation that is my best sex ever... The real problem is that my bootie call is in a serious relationship, long distance, and now he has another bootie call besides me, it's so hard to hook-up with him, now I'm at the bottom of the list, even though when I told him about the situation he assured me that I was his best sex ever too... I told him I'd preffer not to continue this... he sugested keep seeing eachother every now and then, and I would, but it hurts, and I know that when he calls me I will probably give up... I don't want to continue with this situation, I am so sure of that, but HOW I KEEP HIM OUT OF MY MIND? HE'S THE BEST SEX EVER... at least for me, sorry to accept it but it's the truth... please help me.
2006-12-08 09:36:01 · 14 answers · asked by Daniel L 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No judgmental answers? Sorry to harsh on you but....
Quite frankly you are seeking permission from strangers to act on your selfish needs. Its all about "you, you , you" If you really wanted to do what was right and forget the booty call, you could try acting like an adult. If you valued your partner and your so called commitment to him then this wouldn't be an issue. You only value what feels good in the moment and you feel your selfish needs out weigh your partner.
Quite frankly the only person who needs help, is your partner, because unfortunately he is hooked up with an adult man child who can not for the life of him think of someone other than himself first.
You need to grow up.
2006-12-08 09:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can define a sincere relationship with the term " the best sex ever" My relationship is based purely on being there for my partner. To hold him, to console him, to make him laugh, to commit myself to him completely wherever the needs may arise. I love my partner with all my heart. And I can say with all sincerety that I would kill for him. I don't mean if he asked me to, but I think you know what I mean. Sex is not that important to me although it has it's moments but that's not what a relationship really is. Sex is second fiddle in my relationship. Your pretty much missing the point of the relationship as defined. Go back to your boy friend. If sex is that important to you invite him to explore new things with you. If there is something you like, teach him, trust me being a teacher has it's own kinks. Maybe he's holding something back too. Maybe he can teach you something. Start to really open up to each other. If you have a good relationship then you should be comfortable sharing ideas without being embarassed. Also, if by chance your boyfriend left you and you were still seeing the booty who is also in a relationship you may find yourself being alone because usually someone in a relationship will more likely stick with it than to leave his partner and go with you. The way it looks he's using you for the " best sex ever" the same thing your doing. He most likely just wants your sex and nothing more. He probabley really loves his boyfriend and probably will never leave him. Your at risk of being alone. Don't ruin a good thing. Stay with your boy. If all your looking for is sex than that's what the bathhouses are for. Relationships are serious and you can't go around playing head games. It's not fair to your boyfriend or even the booty. By the way who the hell coined the phrase booty? Or for that matter "knickers" I'm curious.Anyway, you have a decision to make on your future. I trust you'll make the right one. Good luck. Peace.
2006-12-08 10:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by zzap2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going behind your partners back and sneaking around and having sex with other people is just plain wrong. It's a different story if he's knows about it and is OK with it. Even then having sex with other people can really jeopardize an established relationship. I've been cheated on before and it's very hurtful. If you truly love your partner you should be able to resist these temptations. If you want to play the field and sleep with different people maybe it's best to stay single or get a partner who's OK with an open relationship.
2006-12-08 13:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, I really do, but lets be honest...you are NOT the best sex he ever had or why would he have a Bf and you and another bootie call guy - and probably more...he is using your hot little hole just because he can....eventually you will fall off the list all together and then you will be sitting around feeling guilty for being a jerk to the man you love. The best thing you can do is to end it- leave HIM wanting more and that will make you feel a tiny bit better.
2006-12-08 09:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Try pinpointing what you feel/think it was that set that "best sex ever" apart from the rest. Perhaps you can initiate and/or emulate the same or similar technique, style and or ideas with your partner or somebody else new! By telling your "booty call" that he holds this title with you, you gave HIM the upper hand in this situation. You can do it 1 of 2 ways. Just settle for it if and when it's convenient for him, or just put a stop to it and focs on bettering your current situation.
2006-12-08 09:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by PBnJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 08:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by jaffar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the great guy you are already with to try some of the things that made the bootie call so good (without telling him about the bootie call). Since this other guy has made it clear that you are not his prioirity, drop it and concentrate on the guy you are with.
2006-12-08 09:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may be the best sex ever but just think of how many others are on the bootie call list. even though I'm sure you play safe but think of what he may bring with him on his visit. as of now i know of no way to prevent lets say crabs. how would you explain that to your partner. i think it's time to let him go and concentrate on how to make sex between you and your partner the best ever
2006-12-08 09:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ron N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ironice that you are worried about the feelings of Mr. Bootycall hurting your feelings, by putting you on the bottom of the 'list'. When you are in a relationship of your own, and are also therefore by being unfaithful putting them at the bottom of your list.
I would suggest that you seperate yourself from this man..He is using you and a whole bunch of other people..besides..it's not fair that you are having sex with someone who is having sex with other people.and then having sex with the person you are dating..
think about it.
You have a partner..and chances are they love you more and respect you more than your hookup.
good luck
2006-12-08 09:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by GreyRainbow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell your partner the things to do to make the sex with him the best you ever had. Sometimes people are embarrased to tell their lover what they want but I have to tell you when I got divorced my ex & me often got together (I was never dating anyone) because we were comfortable telling each other exactly what to do & what we needed
2006-12-08 09:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋