Is it normal that your sex life becomes a complete bore over time? I've been with my bf for over 6 years and I'm sooooo bored with him. Is it always going to be like that? What happened in your couples? What did you do?
2006-12-08 09:33:05 · 29 answers · asked by Miss T 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The bf isn't into role play, I tried...
If you are only writing: my sex life is great, sorry but it's not helping!
2006-12-08 09:51:09 · update #1
Yes, its normal. But then once in a while like every three weeks you will feel like you want quality time with him. Some of my close friends ask me the same question. Just talk around, ask your close friends, if they feel the same or if its close to what you feel then its normal. What I do is that you may just need a break, take a vacation with friends or families without your boyfriend and see if you still miss him. If you do then its just normal. You may need to just find other hobbies to do without boyfriend interaction that way you will miss him more. I have a feeling you probably see him a lot and spend time with him a lot, or its either opposite( you are not spending enough QUALITY time with him, like going out to dinner toghether or playing with each other or watching shows and spending time toghether)etc. Sometimes spending too much time or too little time with your boyfriend can cause boredom. I've gone through it. I get through it because I talk to close friends. It really helps. You won't feel like ur the only one.
2006-12-08 10:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Myself 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you start having a very rich fantasy life during sex (which actually can make sex better for you) and possibly employ a BOB (battery operated boy) either with or without him. Some porn (distasteful as it sounds) can also spice things up (again either with or without him.)
Your other options are to either get a lover(s) on the side for some extra spice or break up with him to find more exciting sex elsewhere. The only problem with that is that you have to go through the whole dating / getting to know another person again and while the sex is always exciting in the beginning, will eventually start to bore you again.
You might also want to try counselling (again either with or without b/f) to find out if it's really boring sex that's the problem or maybe something deeper within you or your relationship.
Good luck!
2006-12-08 13:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have some news for you -- its not your sex life that's boring. You're bored with the guy in general. I'll bet you never actively enjoy being together anymore, and that you don't connect at a deep level, or even share laughs like you used to. Sex just amplifies what is or isn't in the relationship. Great sex, great connection. Bad sex, bad connection.
Time to dump him and move on -- stop settling. And by the way, next time leave the sex out altogether. Save it for the guy that you marry -- the one who you want to spend your life with.
2006-12-08 10:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should talk to him about this and then decide what to do. Maybe he is not bored and thinks all is well. Relationships only go bad or boring if you let them. You should have been working on this all along.If all is well in the relationship the sex should still be wow.I've been with my man 8 years and we still are in awe at times as to our fun .
2006-12-10 12:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is it that turns him on? What did you do differently at the beginning that is not being done now? Change your look...your naked look. Maybe a different style of shaving...cut into a heart shape or no strip or big and bushy...then change your view on sex...wear a wig and trench coat to his work at lunch time and see if he wants to "play". Is he physically fit to take on more sex? lol Some guys get lazy and out of shape, I don't want you getting him so worked up he has a heart attack! Anyways, go to Spencers and I'm sure there are many things there to spice up your sex life. But it's your attitude that will do the most for him. I had my man "catch" me masterbating and believe me he wanted to join! I also spice things up by wispering in his ear..."it's time for a drive". We act like teenagers not allowed to have sex and have to sneak around. That is a lot of fun! lol We've camped at a car pool parking lot out in the country long enough to make love...steamed up the windows! Also, what gets you off? Include it. I buy a lot of books about sex too. OH, you got to rent the movie Karma Sutra! It's an older movie...not a porn but to me it's as close to it as I feel comfortable! The ppl in it are beautiful and gorgeous! lol Good luck!
2006-12-08 09:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it sex did become boring with my ex-husband. We were together for 5 years. Apparently he's a very desirable partner, women really go after him - but there's only so many things you can do when it comes to sex with the same person; it does become routine after a while. In my experience, your situation is normal and understandable - but I don't know what can be the solution.
2006-12-08 10:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal, but not the ideal situation. As with anything, it can get boring over time if you do the same routine over and over.
The thing to do is to break out of any habits that you have.
Try different times of day, different rooms, dress up, dress down, try going on a "love" vacation.
Most of all, you both have to make the effort. Otherwise it will not work.
Good luck, and HAVE FUN!
2006-12-08 09:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by bobp1339 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was married to my husband for 12 years before he died and we ALWAYS had hot sex! I'm in a relationship now that began as a purely sexual attraction that now not even 2 years later sometimes loses steam. I think you just have to be more of the instigator in some cases. Good luck!
2006-12-08 09:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yup. It happens, dude. New sex is fun, exhilarating, scary, hot, and..well....new. But sex with a person you've been with forever is always going to be predictable and repetitive. It's the nature of it. Sure, try new stuff...like dressing up in hot things that make him jump you, roleplaying, more controversial types of sex, or hell...threesomes. Whatever you're open to. But no, it's not abnormal to become bored with sex with the same person. That's why old people never have sex.
2006-12-08 09:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL... I think it is normal... What to do? Not really sure... I think it has a lot to do with the fact that the mystery is gone.. There was suspense every time you unhooked your bra, but now he knows every inch of you... Try finding ways to shake things up a bit...Get some body paints or a sexy new style of panties... Get a book or video with new positions in it, so you can try a little more variety... Good luck!! ♥
2006-12-08 09:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋