I'm 13 and i still have a bedtime. don't you think this is crap. my 7 year old brother goes to bed at 8:15 every night and they only let me stay up to 8:45 at night. if its a bath night sometimes they put me to bed at the same time as my brother. on weekends they let me stay up to 10.
Does anyone else think this is unfair?
2006-12-08 09:05:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well you are 13 years old. Be patient sweetie. Life is unfair but maybe it will change when you hit 15, it usually does. Sorry you have to deal with that though. Just be patient... When your parents see that you respect their rules they are going to change your curfew or bedtime k?
2006-12-08 09:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by ahuga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, but I also agree with your parents.
When I was still living at home with my parents, I had a bedtime until I went off to college and just returned during breaks. And then I had a curfew.
Right now I am sure that your parents are just trying to ensure that you get enought rest. My bedtime was 9 o'clock until I was in 9th grade and then it became 9:30 and then eventually 10. Have you tried nicely approaching your parents and asking if you could have that extra 15 minutes? Maybe you would ask and just see what they say.
I am now a parent of four children. I love them more then I could possible explain to you. But, I still need some time everyday away from them. There are nights that I cannot wait for them to go to bed. Your parents probably feel the same way...not becasue they don't love you, but because they need some down time. You can relate to that, right?
So, just ask for that extra time. Start small and work up. And, remember, soon enough you will be able to make all of your own choices and you will be greatful that your parents have tought you how to be such a smart young man!
2006-12-08 09:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by jrstina624 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Research has shown that teens need ten hours of sleep a night to function at their best. Maybe you can get your parents to move to 9:00 if you're getting up by yourself in the morning, you're not grumpy, and you're ready and out the door on time.
Approach them with the reasons why you should be able to stay up later and what you intend to do later. Maybe if it's read a book instead of watch TV and play video games they'll be more likely to do it.
That's what I did with my son. He was able to stay up until a certain time, then he could read or go to bed. Sometimes he reads in bed.
When you talk to them don't say things like, "This is crap." If you're doing well in other areas like school, doing chores and being respectful they're more likely to give you more priveleges.
2006-12-08 09:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by TeacherLady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. . . as long as you live under your parents' roof and THEY pay the bills. . . YOU follow the rules. If you think they are unfair there IS an alternative. . . there always is. Sit down with your parents (and no other family members) and discuss your bed time with them. If you have an alternative plan, write it down, make it clear as to why you think its fair (such as I am now older and have more responsibilities at school and home etc) and present it to them. You can also present them a responsibility plan to PROVE you are old enough to stay up later. For example, agree to do a specific age appropriate chore that your mother now does for you. Take it over to show your maturity level. It also helps if you keep your room clean, your clothes off the floor, maintain your hygiene, and keep your grades up. That would earn a vote of confidence from me as a parent and with your taking on responsibilities, I would grant additional priviledges.
Try it. . . it works!
2006-12-08 12:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I am 12 and I get to stay up to like 10:30 every night! That isn't fair! Ask your parents to test you for a week and if you can handle less sleep then to give you a later bedtime. (I hope this makes sense)
2006-12-08 11:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by La La La 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 13 year old's bedtime is 10! And in the summer / non school nights...she doesn't have one!
2006-12-08 09:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe during the week you can stay up till 10 and 11 on weekends as long as you keep doing what you are told and prove to them you can handle it your 7 yr old brother should have an early bed time but not you we let my 11 yr old stepdaughter stay up till 930p
2006-12-08 09:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck yea its unfair my 6 and 8 year old sisters go to bed at 8:30 and i go to bed at 11 but on weekends we all can stay up as long as we want talk to your parents and try to negotiate and tehyll figure that since you are mature enough to talk to them that you can stay up later
2006-12-08 10:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by shay!%**shay!%* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya thats kinda weird cause im 13 and i go to bed around 11 30 to 12. 8 45 thats like really early thats like when 9 yr olds go to bed. way to early for u i mean seriously thats really early.
2006-12-08 09:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that is a little unfair they should at least let you stay up later than that. you should try asking your parents to let you stay up a little later on school nights and you don't need a curfew for weekends there is no school! i agree it is crap
2006-12-08 09:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋