Should I be mad that she's going to a kids B-day party where her ex will also be there. She cheated on me with her ex. I don't have a problem with most of her ex'es. But Tonya(my girlfriends ex of 8 years) has come to my house drunk before and threatened me and then my girl left with her and came back a few days later. Then I found out while my girlf was in rehab,that they were writing letters back and forth. I found out that she cheated on me again before she left for rehab. I did cheat on her when I found out. We both did wrong,but I only did it because she did it to me. If she does it again,instead of getting even,I will break up. Nothing has happened in like 6 months,but I still don't trust Jen (my girl)all the way. She wouldn't want me to go somewhere around someone who always tries to get in my pants. But this makes me look like a bad guy,cuz the party is for a little kid. And the kids mom really wants Jen to be there. I have to work. Am I wrong to feel this way?
2006-12-08 08:52:40 · 4 answers · asked by sexygal8321 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
+ The answer seems self evident. You don't trust her so dump her.
2006-12-12 08:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Clamdigger 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WHAT THE HELL? Girll u gotta be kidding me! First of all, the fact that your girl is still FRIENDS with an ex who had the nerve to threaten u is absolutely ridiculous. And the fact that you are putting up with it is even worse! She obviously doesnt respect u enough to cut all ties to this chick. And u dont MAKE her respect u by demanding it. If she really loved u, she would have been let her go. I was in a similar situation with my girl & her ex (who was still in love with her & wanted to get her back). They were still friends but as soon as the ex crossed the line by trying to seduce my girl, that was it. No more phone calls, texts, emails, nothing. And my girlfriend loved me enough to cut off all contact WITHOUT me even having to tell her, because I was being disrespected. That's what real love is about. Mutual respect. U need to re-evaluate your relationshp & see if its even worth stressing over. And if it truly is, then u need to sit her down, inform her that NO she CANT go to the party & NO she cant have any more contact and if she doesnt think that u r worth it....then she needs to move on elsewhere. I think u r far better than that & i dont even know you!!!!
2006-12-08 09:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I TOTALLY agree with Raynebow Diva up there. She said it all.I think U need to dump the chick unless u just love being emotionally abused.
2006-12-08 09:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH, girl! Drama, drama, drama.
I just gotta tell ya, you only get what you give. If you do not like this kind of relationship, change yourself first. Move on.
If not, well, just keep on goin the way you're goin.
2006-12-08 09:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Alias400 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋