How come the popular people wont accpeted me as "one of them?"?

Question

I mean i dress up every day to skool and i am alsways wearing heels. I wear make up and straighten my hair i mean not bragging but i copmete in beauty pagents so i am just as pretty or if not prettyer than them no offense. i think at least at my skool the popular crowd will never accpeted me cause of my past cause i used to be overweigt not dress the way i do now kinda plain, acne and bad posture to go with my self esteem but now i am a tottaly different person. I have lost 60 pounds went from a size 14 now a size 2!!But most of all i believe in myself and stand up stright with confidence!!!How and will i ever be accpted as "one of them?"

Answer 1

first of all gurl u iz skinty and don't worry 'bout da popular crowd. everyone iz alwayz trin' 2 fit in wit' dem but itz not worth it. dey dont know what u been thru and they dont know da struggles u had to accomplish 2 lose all dat weight. i say b yo self and dont worry 'bout dem peeps becuz u r u and dey probably just selfish and inconsiderate. u just keep yoself lookin good and stay fly cuz i know someone will notice..BALLIN'!!!!!! And just becuz dey dont accept u 4 who were in da past dey not gon accept u fo who u iz now. just becuz dey don't dont mean u should b ashamed of yo past. BE U!!!!!!!!!!!!! Holla!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Hello my friend to be honest I do not like people like that, not to say that I got harassed at school but actually I was up at the top with 6 others but now that I look back, I feel that being popular ain't all that this is because you can be accepted with these people but what will happen if you have all the fun that you want and then after that you fail your studies. You always have to think like this "Would I ever accept them as part of my life?" Belief me my friend being popular and all that because it ain't important in the future this is because that is how the system works and trust me the system must have a virus or some kind of glitches because the system is a failure. Please always belief in yourself and keep your head up for the rest of your life and work for future and always forget the past. Sorry if I couldn't answer your question but I just want to say that I belief in you because you have changed as you said, but never forget your true beauty and it is not your hair/lips/make-up but it is your mentality and especially your Unique Heart and just to finish off you don't need a lot of friends in life but if you want to feel happy about yourself then wait for the right guy to show the real meaning of Happiness so you can find Love and mainly, Peace.

!Bless And Peace To The Benevolent Ones!

!JFK!

Answer 3

Congratulations on your weight loss,I'm sure you feel a lot healthier now, not to mention all the cute clothes! Don't worry so much about being in the popular crowd...who are they, really, outside of their popularity? Are they kind and caring, are they true and honest, are they dependable and even worthy of your friendship? Just because they're popular doesn't necessarily mean they are truly the kind of person you are. There are so many more people with traits you might be more concerned with than "popularity". Carry yourself the way you are and look for true friends, popular or not.

Answer 4

Populatiry is incredibly overrated,
I'm very proud of you that you've gotten so much healthier and self-respecting.

The pnly reason the popular people are popular are because they are complete whores, or dumb, or bullimic. :)
and guys like that.
You're too strong of a person to have to do that kind of thing.
You can still have a bunch of friends, and a bunch of people who like you and respect you without stooping to that level.
Don't be jealous of them, because if they don't accept you, it doesn't matter. You'll always have friends if you're a nice person.
But you should never start acting differently because you want to fit in. This will probably make more sense when yu get older.

Answer 5

Why are you working so hard to 'be one of them'? Quit the self-imposed contest for their attention and act naturally. You will find your own group. Standing up straight and having self confidence are great attributes ... congrats on remaking yourself physically! As a guy, I can tell you that a self-assured, bright girl always got my attention. The people in the 'in crowd' usually are their own best friends ... who needs 'em! FYI ... competing in beauty pageants usually impresses the person who does the competing (you in this case) more than it does the people you think you're impressing! I wouldn't work that too much ... it won't get you very far with the normal people!

Answer 6

I had this problem in High School many times, because I moved around a lot & had to start new schools all the time, if people can't accept you for who you are then that's their loss. Don't try so hard, just be yourself & have fun. I'm sure you have a few friends anyways, just be glad you're not walking around completely alone. Besides, you might be "popular" to someone else & never know it :)

Answer 7

I think maybe you're trying too hard. I'd say that they are probably threatened by your sucess in losing so much weight and doing things to make yourself better. Girls in middle and high school are usually so mean, especially the popular crowd. If they want to act that way then there's probably nothing you can do change their minds - you don't want to be friends with people like that anyway. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but it's their problem not yours. Good luck!

Answer 8

Why would you want to be one of them? certainly, when you lost weight, you lost your self-confidence and self-esteem with also. Just be yourself, who cares if they don't accept you as one of them? what's the benefit of being the "popular girl" if you are not yourself anymore? Be friends with the people that truly appreciate who you are, and not how you look like. high school has too much vanity that's not present in the real world, once you graduate, it doesn't matter AT ALL that whether you were popular or not.

Answer 9

Cuz being popular is a weird group. When you don't start out in, it's very hard to get in. Once people label you as not in their group, they tend to keep that opinion even if you lost 60 lbs. I'd say stay in your own group with your own friends (i'm assuming you have friends). Just stay with them, they are probably much better then the popular group anyway.

p.s. - you lost 60 lbs.??? Good for you!

Answer 10

Maybe you are trying way to hard to be more like then, when what you should be doing is to be yourself. It is good to believe in yourself and to stand up for your self as long as you don't forget that other people have rights to and that you also should be opened minded to other opinions and not just your own.
Stop trying to be like them no-one is the same you have to be yourself because that is what counts and then if they still don't like you. don't worry move on there are other people in this world that will like you for who you are
May the Joy, peace and love of Jesus be with you and your family this Christmas and all thought the coming year

Answer 11

You are in high school right? They will never accept you into their group because their impression of you will not change from what you were. Funny this how life goes though..... Once you are out of high school and go to college their self absorbtion and pettiness will dissapear and some of them will try to befriend you because they will be out of their element of the collective they were once in. They will come to you as if you were the greatest of friends in high school. It seems that people take off their blinders and see who and what another person really is by getting away from the high school environment.