Well, this is how it goes.
this girl i set next to likes me. we are nice to each other and is one of my good friends. then recently she is coming on to me and asking me stuff like "who do u like?". and i keep on blowing her off and not telling her. and she is always talking about me to her friend and always smiles at me. and looks at me alot and when i turn around she just smiles.but i dont like this girl and she likes me.
so my question is how do i tel this girl i dont love her and stay friends with her (i like someone else).
i want to be friends with her cause she sits next to me in mostly all of my classes and it will be akward.
and i dont like her cause she isn't my type. and im 13 and she is 14 and like 2 foot taller than me.
2006-12-08 08:34:16 · 24 answers · asked by some,random,guy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The best thing to do would be to feign ignorance to her liking you, and when she next asks who you like tell her the real person, and she should stop asking, and that will allow her to keep her pride.
But if you want to stay friends with her, act like nothing is wrong after that, and if she is avoiding you ask her why, or for her to hang out/sit with you, and compliment her, but in a non-flirtatous way. Or, tell her that you think so and so likes her, and things like that
Good Luck.
2006-12-08 11:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do -- if I were a guy, which I'm not, lol -- is I would give her a note. Self-confrontations place pressure on you and your friend, and it would make things slightly more awkward.
Tell her that as cool as she may be, you just don't want to be any more than friends for now, at least. Even if you seriously doubt you'll be interested in her later, the "for now" tends to make a girl feel like she's not so much being rejected as she is being "put on hold". That way you won't steamroll her, and she won't be too clingy.
Don't be too abrasive or abrupt, and just tell her in a way that doesn't seem like you pity her or feel annoyed, but that you want her to know she can stop chasing you around like a sick puppy :)
Don't avoid her after your chat!! BIG NO-NO!!!! Say "hi" every so often, stop by her locker to ask about assignments from other classes(unless you have every class together), and just make simple conversation so she still feels like there's no difference from your friendship now than before. The more you act like nothing's changed, the less she'll notice that you're not interested and the more she'll grow back into being your friend...and no more than that.
Give her a few weeks, maybe a month or so, and she'll be after someone else. Girls will not chase a boy around if he doesn't chase her back.
Good luck! Hope this helped! :)
2006-12-08 10:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its cute she has a crush on you, and crushes can be hard when the boy doesn't like you back. Honestly i would just ask her if she likes you as a boyfriend and tell her how much you like her as a friend, and wouldn't want to date her because it might ruin the friendship. It might hurt her a little, so be nice when telling her. Hopefully she will appreciate you for telling the truth. It is hard though!! I was a teen girl once and i thought it was the end of the world, but only til i saw another cute boy!! haha, good luck!! You sound like a nice guy for not wanting to hurt her feelings. Stay that nice!!!
2006-12-08 08:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it doesn't matter if she is taller than you, if that was your only problem then its stupid. It doesn't matter if the girl is taller. But if she really isnt your type just tell her.
Tell her that you really like being her friend, but you dont want to be anything else for right now.
She will probably be broken hearted, I know I would, but if thats how you fell you'll just have to tell her the truth and not worry about it, just do it nicely.
2006-12-08 08:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bored&Broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her your gay that is just stupid and trust me at 13 it will stick with you for the rest of the time you are in school. If you just want to be friends with her tell her that as much as you like her as a friend and you want her to stay your friend your not interested in her like that. She might be a little hurt for a few days and ignore you but I'm sure in the long run she will understand!
2006-12-08 08:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by HARWOODH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her you're gay! Just tell her that you're not interested in her romantically. You'd rather be friends with her because she's easy to talk.
Also, just appreciate the fact that she DOES like you.
You don't have to love her! I don't expect you to love her because you're only 13. That's very young to be in love in the first place and I doubt she loves you.
It doesn't matter if she's "two feet taller" than you. She is a girl, she will be taller than you, for like, two more years. Unless you hit a growth spurt.
2006-12-08 09:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by mmandypanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 05:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. I'm also 13, and I'm going through a similar situation. I like a boy, but he barely acknowledges my existence. You should tell her that you want to be her friend, but just not her boyfriend. She should understand.....I think that most of my friends and I would react ok to that.
2006-12-08 08:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame her. her hormones are just stacking brick upon brick on her relationship with you from friend to you look nice, to going out with eachother, to sex. spitting NO in her face will make it all fall down, even the friendship.
I say ask her friends who she likes. STOP. wait for them to reply. If they say you, say: I can't tell her I don't like her cause I don't want to break her heart.
If they say nothing, either pray somebody she likes moves in, or go out with one of her friends or someone else. just don't go rub it in her face and talk about your gf all the time. No girl cares about your relationship with another girl.
Hope this helps :)
2006-12-08 10:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by qtpie16707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell her you like somebody else. 2 feet taller than you? What are you like 3 feet?
2006-12-08 10:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋