How do you overcome jealousy. I know its a self-esteem issue with me but does anyone have any other advice?
2006-12-08 08:29:06 · 14 answers · asked by paige1822 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
normally what i do when i start to get jealous or something i will look at the fact that he married me and nobody else also i look at the simple little things he does for me because to me the simple things are the best things ... like when i get hungry he'll go in the kitchen and get me a little snack without my knowledge. or he'll ask me to join him in playing a game ( were nerdy lol) a whole bunch of little series of things that add up and makes me smile..... he also texts me throughout the day just to see how im doing or tell me he loves me so ill read those and get all those little butterflys hehe. but ive heard of leaving little notes around the house for eachtoher too and then when your down or feeling jealous read them you'll feel 100% better!
2006-12-08 08:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by love_ridden_85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you think your getting jealous remember, this is going to destroy my relationship. You want to be fun loving and exciting to be around and men can't stand constant issues in their relationship. Tell yourself I am know I am not the only beautiful women in this worlds but I am to my to my hubby or boyfriend. Don't let something ruin your relationship that doesn't have to. Try to enjoy the relationship your in and not make the relationship about jealousy. What fun is that.
2006-12-08 08:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got over my jealousy by getting over my marriage. Maybe you need a break and time with yourself to get your own self worth. Unfortunately, its all you. Even if they are cheating you need to be able to walk away strong and not stalk or whatever.
Start doing things on your own with your friends without him. Get back into interests. The thing with me was I felt I couldn't have anyone after him and while I haven't had any long relationships since, its because I enjoy my freedom, not because no one wants me.
Get out and establish a single life outside your partner so your whole focus won't be them all the time.
Hope it helps.
2006-12-08 08:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self Esteem, but alot of times people are jealous because the other do things to promote it. Like flirt with others, dress skimpy etc;. But alot of times there is for jealously but a lack of self esteem. No one can help you, you have to do that for yourself. All I know is, it has ruined alot of marriages and relationships, and it's a real shame.
2006-12-08 08:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you have a jealous thought, tell yourself that you don't need that negativity in your life. Think of something nice about your relationship and let go of the jealousy.
2006-12-08 08:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is something very hard to overcome. But jealousy is really INSECURITY!
Work on your insecurity and you can overcome jealousy. Find out why you are insecure.
2006-12-08 08:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thought that has always helped me is, "If he can be taken, please take him." I think everyone has been cheated on at one time or another and it hurts. Insecurity aside, do you really want to be with someone with wandering eyes, ect? I have always said if some other girl takes my man I will take her to dinner for showing me what a loser I was with! But be careful, false accusations can drive anyone away. Trust until it is broken even if you are afraid. You may get hurt but bones are usually stronger once they have been broken, you will be too.
2006-12-08 08:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is human nature for a man to look @ any woman cute or not they look! ha-ha! I agree it is a self-esteem issue I am the same way with myself and my man! However, my man is fantastic and reassures me that I am his #1 and he don't care about any other woman! That alone makes me pass the jealous feeling and I know he is going home with me! ;)
2006-12-08 08:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by maddlove2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time and trust. i am a very jealous person. i didn't realize this until i met my husband. (i am so anal) my husband takes me everywhere he goes. nights out with his friends at the bar, his friends parties, he won't even go to a work related dinner unless i can go too. he does this voluntarily. i have never demanded this. i'm actually sick and tired of his friends and would rather stay home. it's a realization process. once you let go of your own issues you will be able to focus on the joys of your relationship.
2006-12-08 08:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a very jealous wife, so what I have doen is compiled a word document of things my husband has emailed to me that are really sweet. Anytime he is gone and I start to feel jealous I look at these and realize how foolish I am. Make a list of things you can reference that will help you snap out of it. Good luck!
2006-12-08 08:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by wishing_i_could_sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋