2006-12-08 08:26:21 · 12 answers · asked by Ed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stay close and lend moral support and let her know you will listen if she wants to unburden
2006-12-09 09:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her space until she's ready to tell. However, women often say "nothing" when asked or "everything's ok" because they want to be asked more to feel better about not just spilling everything up front.
So I'd say just let her know you're aware something's upset her and if she wants to talk about it, you're there for her to listen. But keep checking on her, tell her upfront you're going to keep checking on her because you care AND a BIG thing is she might be worried about how you might react to what she's keeping secret. She needs to know you won't go off at the deep end or get aggressive (with whoever may have upset her). If you're a true mate, she needs to feel confident she can tell you ANYTHING in confidence with a flood of support coming back from you and not disappointment or a negative reaction (to her or the offending party). I've been in situations where I haven't told because I knew the reaction would have been purely macho or full of testosterone and I didn't want my male friend to feel obliged to protect/defend me and end up getting physically hurt himself.
So, just be a strong shoulder, let her know she can count on you to just listen and sympathise without you having to feel obliged to get involved.
Just as a last thought.....could it be she fancy's you and doesn't know how to tell you as a mate? You sure you're just mates????
2006-12-08 16:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by nephtine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times you have problems that you dont want to share simply because they are too personal, or they have hurt you a lot, or there are things you just keep to yourself. Dont feel bad, maybe she will come around and tell you what's up.
2006-12-08 16:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space. Maybe she just has a lot on her mind and needs some time to think. Give her an hour just to sort things out....after that maybe she'll feel comfortable talking to you.
2006-12-08 16:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by GO SOONERS!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you give her some time because she might have something bad going on at home or other problems and then after about 3 days to a week you go to her and ask her if she wants to talk.
Remember to be patient and understanding.
2006-12-08 16:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try talking to her about a problem you once had and the how you solved it and useully they open up after that. I had a friend that was upset so, i told her about a problem i had and how i got over it, then she opened up to me about..
2006-12-08 16:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by SO SASSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave her alone to tell you or not tell you. In the meantime, you let her know that you are there for her to either just listen to her, or give advice of she asks you to.
2006-12-08 16:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I think that when you are with someone (it also depends on how long you are together)you should know how and what to ask her in order to find out what's wrong. If you talk to one another I'm sure you will be able to solve your problem.
Good luck!
2006-12-08 16:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by lily romania 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to comfort her...
but if she doesnt want u around u should leave her alone or ull be down at the bottom of her friends list cause i was that way just today...
good luck comfortin her <3
2006-12-08 16:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by i <3 xou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit asking. She'll come around soon enough...
When she does- be there for support and encouragement.
2006-12-08 17:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋