How do you properly console a friend who lost a baby after birth?

Answer 1

Consoling anyone after a death is so hard. They are hurting and it is hard to know what to say. Really, the best thing you can do is just be there for her. Listen to her. Offer to pick up some groceries, do some household chores, return phonecalls for her if she doesn't feel like talking to others.

I lost my mother and my father at a young age. I can still remember how horrible it was that so many of my friends seemed to avoid me because they apparantly did not know what to say. It just made it so much worse. It would have meant the world to me if they would have just offered to come and spend time with me, no agenda, just time. Maybe just be there in the room to share my grief and help me to know I was not alone.

You are a good friend to care enough to know what to say.

Answer 2

Br there for her and all members of the family. Do not just ask "what can I do for you?" Do stuff for her, cook dinner, good freezable stuff so if she does not feel like eating now it will be good later. Clean for her especially bathrooms and common areas where company many see if and when they stop by, water her plants and/or yard, go grocery shopping for her. See if you can get her out to get her nails done or bring someone to her. When you "do: people really know you are there and that you can be counted on. Don;t worry if you do not do things like she would I doubt she will even notice. Just Do and Be and she will know that you are there for her and she will feel consoled, maybe not in the moment but she will never forget it.

Answer 3

First of all don't push her to pack up all the baby's things right away if she isn't comfortable in doing that. Another thing you can do is suggest bereavement counseling don't push the issue just suggest it. Most of all just be there for her my friend lost her baby a year ago and little things still upset her. If you think for any reason that she needs more than just a shoulder to lean on don't be afraid to recruit some professional help for her.

Answer 4

I can't imagine the pain your friend must be in, or how hard for you this will be. Just be as supportive as you can, try to remember that this is the worse pain she will ever be in. No matter how hard you try you will probably never find the right words, Just be close so that when shes ready she has a shoulder to cry on.

Answer 5

LISTEN to them. My sister had a still-birth at 7 months pregnant, and even though they knew beforehand that the child probably would not make it, it was devastating. All she needed was someone to listen and be there. Offer to help around the house and run errands for/with them to keep them company.

Answer 6

A simple, "I'm sorry for your loss" is appropriate. Also, offering gifts of frozen casseroles and errand running can help take some of the weight off a grieving family's shoulders.

Answer 7

Be there for your friend... as a shoulder to cry on, a sympathetic ear and a hand to hold. Whatever you do, don't let her go through the grieving process alone... if it helps cry with her. She mainly needs to know that you care.

Answer 8

There is no easy way,just let her know you are there for her no matter what.Dont pressure her into talking about it but do tell her if she ever feels she needs to talkmabout anything you are right there to listen and comfort her.

Answer 9

hug her for a very long time tell her you love her and when she is ready take her out just the two of you to the bars or out on the town something tell her that every thing will be ok