I have lost the LOVE OF MY LIFE two years ago. He committed suicide and I still miss him sooooo very much. It was selfish of him to commit suicide, but that does not change my love for him. I miss him more than ever and it has been 2 years. I have not been in another serious relationship since I lost him. I have dated a couple of guys, but I don't feel for them what I felt with him. We were together for about 4 years. We started off as friends, but then I fell completely in LOVE with him. We then were engaged to be married. We knew each other for about 10 years. Then he left me by suicide. I want to be happy and in love again!! When will things get easier for me??? HELP!!!
2006-12-08 08:07:48 · 9 answers · asked by 8675309 jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sorry to hear about your loss.
Time heals all wounds. Just know in time you will find aonther wonderful person
2006-12-08 08:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to grieve, so do not fret---you will get past it. It is not unusual for this process to take 2-3 years. He WAS the love of your life, but that does not mean that he was, or will be, the only love in your life.
Once you reach a point where you can think of him and smile, you will be on your way, but give yourself time, and learn to dwell on the good things that the two of you shared. By all means, do get back out into the world, travel, take up a hobby, engage in life. It is ok to have fun and to laugh.
You will make it, and you will be amazed when you look back years down the road and realize how strong you were. And when you do find love again, you will treasure it in a way that you never thought possible.
You are blessed!
2006-12-08 16:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Darlene G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you or have you done any grief couselling? I know it sounds very cliche but you will learn to love again probably when you have truly come to terms with your partner's suicide.
I struggle with many things on a daily basis. My father commit suicide in July. I understand the struggle that it is to make any sort of sense of this to a point where you can go forward and feel good about living your life.
Things will get easier when you allow them to, unjaded by guilt, fear, loneliness or any of the 101 million possible emotions a survivor goes through. You may need the help of a professional to do that.
Good Luck to you.
2006-12-08 16:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always love him. Grief is different for everyone. You just take one day at a time. Have you talked to a therapist about this loss? Sometimes that helps you work through alot of issues. Suicide is a hard thing to understand. It leaves alot of loved ones feeling guilty and left with so many questions. Seek out some help.
2006-12-08 16:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you stop questioning why he committed suicide, somehow you feel as though he should have loved you enough not to have killed himself. but there are alot of reasons why people do what they do. it will get easier but you have to let him go just like he let you go. you will always love him but there will be someone else who will deserve your love and love you back too. let yourself enjoy your life. you didn't die he did. so live your life for yourself not through the love you had for him..you are allowed. sorry to be so blunt.
2006-12-08 16:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by kathy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried getting counseling or maybe join some sort of support group to help you?? This could be a good start to trying to move on.
2006-12-08 16:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenny, your torturing yourself for his actions. Ask yourself this, would he have wanted you to wait this long before you started dating again? Life is short dear, start living IT again. I would suggest that if you can't put him behind you then seek a therapist. Good luck and happy holidays.
2006-12-08 16:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant even imagine how hard it must be.. and you will never forget it. time mite heal how hurt you feel, but he's always going to be in your heart no matter wat. wut you should do.. is look for someone who makes you happy and concentrate on the good qualities of that person. you will definitely find someone else who you will fall in love with. and if you feel comfortable enough around your new relationship, why not tell them about wut happen.. it will make you feel better. :]
2006-12-08 16:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by thisoneg1rl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u NEED is a "friend" who would lead you back to life
2006-12-08 16:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by bidemi o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋