I have known my girlfriend for over a year and i really love her..... now i'm thinkin of gettin her an engagement ring for christmas but i'm in my late teenage years. Am I making the choice?
2006-12-08 07:55:11 · 17 answers · asked by bidemi o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you guys are so young with so much time in front of you. take your time...............have you guys talked about marriage??? have you gotten her take on it???? if you do it, it would be great and romantic..........but don't get yourself in so deep you can't back out.......i don't know if you guys plan on going to college or not, but this can change people a lot..............sometimes for the better and sometimes not.............best peice of advise if this is what you feel you should do, there is nothing wrong with a long engagement. I was engaged to my now husband for about 4 years before we decided to do it. I am glad we waited!!!! Good luck in your decision and have a wonderful Holiday Season! :)
2006-12-08 08:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you understand that an engagement ring is a promise to marry and you'll then need to plan your future together? You have to have a job, a car, a place to live, health insurance, enough money for utilities and food. You'll have to have enough money to support a family when she becomes pregnant. You'll need to have talked about household chores and expenses, your goals, religion, parenting issues, financial responsibilities, spending habits..... as a teenager, are you ready to become engaged, or is that idea just a romantic, whimsical fantasy you like to think about? Engagement ring at Christmas, seeing her happy face, bla bla love love... cute. Now what?
2006-12-08 16:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Late teenage year huh?
I would wait give her a promise ring if you will, But a man needs to be able to provide for afamily and for his wife and needs to have a steady job and such. I highly doubt that at 18 or 19 that you are financially stable enough to support a family. Becuase diapers cost A LOT of money.
she will respect you even more for telling her that you want to be able to provide for her. That is the best thing a husband to be can say to his girl. She will have no fear when she is with you.
2006-12-08 16:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work, it could not work. I'm of the generation that does not marry because all of our parents and friends parents divorced. If both of you have accomplished everything you wanted to outside your relationship, or if you are both very supportive of each other and helping each other with you goals, then it might work, but if either of you are not ready you could find later in the relationship that someone wants out. It's a risk. the most you can do is be aware and prepared for the worst.
I personally think that if you are both in love with each other, you have a better chance of having a long and happy marriage since you are so young.
good luck!
2006-12-08 17:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by cadillacrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ask yourself this. Do you make enough money to support her? Meaning being able to pay rent, utilities, car payments and insurance, food, clothing and other essential needs? If you can answer yes to all that, then yes I'd say get her a ring. BUT....is this your first love? MAKE SURE you're making the right decision. Don't rush the ring. Personally, I'd wait until her next birthday. That way you can see if things have changed.
2006-12-08 16:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by isithappyhour2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait. I am past my teens and ooooh boy have my taste in people changed. You both have alot of growing to do you may find that you grow appart. But if you grow together then there is lots of time for weddings later. Have you thought about a promise ring. Something with a bit less meaning than engagement but still expresses your feelings for her.
2006-12-08 15:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by KarenJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait a little longer. Her parents and yours might get involved and mess things up for the both of you. I think for now get her a promise ring. It symbolizes your love for her. She will get the picture and understand that you see a future with her. Get married when you have finished school and are on the right career path. Remember haste makes waste. You don't want to scare her away.
2006-12-08 16:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of marriages that start that early, the key to success is to have a strong relationship, but more importantly have a strong friendship~ because you two have to be able to grow with each other through many stages of life~ and only a best friend can do that with you successfully. If you love her, marry her.
2006-12-08 15:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tamekia Anderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a little bit, to be a bit older and make sure the love is true...but i like the idea of getting engaged around/on christmas
2006-12-08 15:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by foooooood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do most of your growing in your tweenties..You better wait a while still. Why rush? is she going away? Lets put it this way. I work for a very big company...All the people who got married in their early 20's are divorced, the ones who married 26+ are still happily married
2006-12-08 16:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋