My ex is being evicted out of our apartment that we had together until we split up. I'm 6 months pregnant with our son. (just for the record) I have been working my *** off trying to convine my friends to take him in because he's a good person. All this week I've been worrying about him and where he's going to go and what's happening with him........why? This is the man that left me when I was 3 months pregnant, he doesn't appear to love me or care for me at all, and here I am finding him a place to stay and help him find a job. I was always the strong woman out of all my friends, now I'm finiding myself in the situation that I worked so hard never to be in! Tell me what I'm doing wrong, besides loving a man that doesn't love me!
2006-12-08 07:48:58 · 18 answers · asked by Camerons Mama07 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we all want what we can't have.
2006-12-08 07:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly T 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
part of me wants to say because your stupid, but then again....every woman has acted stupid over a guy. most people don't allow ourselves to acknolwdge the fact that someone else is a donkey because we feel it reflects on ourselves as a person. i mean, really, we are the stupid ones for not seeing the signs right?? we should have seen this coming before we got pregnant. so if you can build him up.....make him a better person (even if it's all in our head) then you don't seem so silly afterall.
the mind of a woman. you can and will let go. it will happen. give yourself a break and take the time you need. the pain will sink in and you will recover as the strong woman that you are.
2006-12-08 16:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a good person and apparently have a strong maternal instinct to take care of people you care about. That is a reflection of you not him. You will have to make the decision to stop putting yourself in this situation - you are doing it - he doesn't care. He won't change. You need to be everything for your son and you will find someone who cares for you if you continue being a caring but strong woman. Don't waste your love on someone who does not love you.
2006-12-08 16:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the worst! When a girl tries to explain to her friends what we've all missed. You see in him this lovin' heart or underneath it all a good guy. While your friends truly see him for the creep he is. Did you ever lie to yourself? Lotta women do that, lie about who he is, what he does...be honest.
Clearly you've made some mistakes but it's not about you've done it's what you're gonna do now that matters. You have a lot more to deal with than to sit around wondering about some loser. This guy has taken more than enough from you, from your life, from your body, probably your bank account...how much more do you want to give him? The more time you spend dwelling on him the more you continue to give him.
Fight those thoughts, move on. You can do better.
2006-12-08 16:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. I'm in love with a woman that has major issues as well and I'm asking the same question. If he isn't a part of your everyday life, then let him fend for himself. If you and he are talking daily, sleeping together etc; just not living together then you have a connection. If not, don't worry about him anymore.
2006-12-08 16:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Exhale.
You are a GREAT person! But, how can you say he is a "good person" when he left you and his unborn baby? You can't hold his hand anymore. You have bigger and more important things to deal with now. You have got to take care of YOU! You are not his mother or father, but you will be a mother soon, take care of you and your Baby.
Us women have to stop holding grown men's hands. You have to say NO.
NO to pain.
NO to heartache.
NO to selfish men.
YES to self love.
FOCUS on YOU!
2006-12-08 15:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing wrong is hanging on to someone desperately who doesn't want or need you, let alone deserve you. I think you are trying to hang on to this guy out of fear of being alone with a baby 24/7 and possibly not feeling equipped to deal with it on your own as well. You need to realize that you are strong, intelligent and healthy and you can take care of your baby as well as yourself without him around. Let him go, it sounds like you are better off without him.
2006-12-08 15:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man that would leave his preagnant wife or girlfriend, does not need help finding a place to live ,or a job.He needs his but kicked! And then sent home to his mommy. If your friend had called you and she was preagnant and herboyfriend left her. You would tell her she was better off with out him. And so are you..There are better guys out there .Like us CANADIAN BOYS... Good Luck...
2006-12-08 16:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't seem to be a good person to me, if he left u at your pregnant stage. Leave him by himself. He's a man, he will learn the hard way, dont ruin your friendship with others because of him. It is hard to let someone u use to love.
2006-12-08 15:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out before it leads you in circles. Nothing good will ever become of this. It will stop you from growing and meeting someone really special.
2006-12-08 15:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by Neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the father of your child so your bound to have some feelings about his wellbeing. However, this guy sounds like an idiot so I'd use caution.
2006-12-08 15:51:57 · answer #11 · answered by baby1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋