Pattern of lies, infedility,invalidation,not being supportive of the things that mattered to you the most, breaking mutual agreements behind your back, financial irresponsible, unaffectionate, uninterested in family matters/problems. All this considered, what is the best letter you can write being mature, not insulting and intelligent?
2006-12-08 07:31:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Writing?? What a coward. Speak to the person face to face. Maybe you could hide behind your lawyer. He can write for you and then you wouldn't have to do anything.
2006-12-08 07:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by lizzylubinski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the mature thing would be to not write a letter at all. Tell them that your are fed up and it is over period. Get everything off your chest and let it go. Be assertive and face it all head on and face to face. You will feel better in the long run. Don't take no for and answer. If you're tired of being treated like a rug end it and let it go. Get some courage and face it, don't be intimidated. You dont need to write a letter. You will be glad you didn't. Make the other person be accountable, you will be the one in power then. Good luck, believe in yourself
2006-12-08 07:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by summertime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know enough to write the letter for you, but make sure that you use things like "when you do ______, it really makes me feel _______" kind of thoughts through there. That way, you are admitting the possibility that you could have misconstrued. This takes away the finger pointing blame game. Point out that marriage is a partnership, and if both parties are failing to work together, it can't work on its own... Tell them what drew you two together and what has changed in that since then... Be polite, above all. Being rude and nasty will only make things worse down the road... Best wishes!! If you get a good letter put together, email me that so I can leave it for mine when i get the balls to leave... LOL... Good luck! ♥
2006-12-08 07:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do something this life changing in a letter now matter how awful the relationship has been. It deserves a person to person conversation and explanation. Its hard but it will be the better and right way to do this.
2006-12-08 09:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont write a letter, just say "It's over" and use the ole' "irreconcilable differences" excuse... Sounds like there's too much water under the bridge to save this one???
2006-12-08 07:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by specialk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A letter is not appropriate for ending a marriage unless you are afriad for your physical safety.
You should tell the person you;re leaving, and why....
2006-12-08 07:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not being funny, but let your attorney draft it. Seriously; if that's where you are and you've done all you can do, state your reasons for ending the marriage and conclude with "I'll have your people call my people."
2006-12-08 07:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The divorce papers of course are a good way to say good bye and its over
2006-12-08 07:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about having the BALLS whether your a male OR female to tell your spouse straight up to they're face!!
2006-12-08 08:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write what you have here and say all this considered I am ending our marriage.
2006-12-08 07:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋