so two weeks ago i asked the love of my life to marry me. i gave her two weeks to answer, and well she didnt give me an answer yet. now monday she has a final for the RN stuides which i honestly knew NOTHING about. ohterwise i wouldnt have asked during this pressing time. but here is the thing, i have asked about 4 questions on here regarding all of this that i have been going through, and 70% says that i am barking up the wrong tree about her marrying me if she hasnt answered by now. i have given her chance after chance WITHOUT ANY pressure what so ever. i think i should wait until after the exam and then break it all off with her. so the overall question is, when i do break this off, do i remain her friend, or do i just go about my seperate way and not look back. i love her, but i also should have had an answer, she has said many times in the past she'd marry me if i asked, and now when i did, i got nothing in return.
2006-12-08 07:30:48 · 13 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I remember back in the day when I lived nursing school. I had NO life, was up at ungodly hours studying for finals, going to clinicals, doing presentations and trying to find time to grab a bite to eat and sleep in between.
I'm sure you know well what it is like for her, you've probably seen her stress & cry more than once because of an aweful day, or a bad test score.
My advice is to wait. She is wrapped up into a very tough educational program & it could be that although she loves you very much she simply does not have the time nor the energy to make a life-altering decision until she is able to think about more than school.
Give her your support (as I know you have) and if you hold on until she has graduated things will get better for both of you.
It seems that you love her very much, and if you truly believe that she is the love of your life, than you will give this to her so she can better her life and make room for you in it eventually.
Happy holidays!
2006-12-11 16:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by NautyRN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could understand if she'd asked for a day or something, but two weeks is a really long time to make a guy wait. Her being stressed has nothing to do with it. An engagement would probably help, if she really loved you. Just from what you've said, I don't think she is going to say yes, and it seems like she's waiting for you to confront her in a gurt and angry way to give her a better reason to say no. Not saying her answer is, in it's own way, the answer.
2006-12-08 07:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell her she had 2 weeks to answer? Did you give her a ring? If she really wanted to marry you, then nothing could have stopped her joy when you asked her. So don't use the RN finals thing as an excuse. You can wait until after her finals to talk to her, but don't ask her AGAIN!!!! Just tell her you are at a crossroad and you really need to know where you stand. If she has nothing to say, then move on completely.
2006-12-08 07:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me understand this .. you asked her to marry you and because she did not give you a answer you want to break up with the love of your life ..how long have you been together if it has only been a year of so then i would wait it out a little longer..but by saying you will break up with her because of that it is like saying you will leave her if she don't do what ever you want .. not a good way to start a marriage
2006-12-08 07:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this--you didn't even know she had exams coming up? Serious communications problems it sounds like to me.
Break it off now and never look back. If, in a few years you cross paths, fine--but you need no contact at this point so that you can get over this person you obviously love.
2006-12-08 07:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's she fooling. She's already "ruined" the courting she has with HIM with the help of dozing with you. She's definately one which you will choose a tricky time trusting, might desire to a marriage take place between the two certainly one of you. Is it honest to that different guy which you're the two seeing eachother in the back of his back. HE had no longer something to do with what the two certainly one of you had and not something to do with the justifications you the two parted techniques. tell her to grant the guy a wreck and be uncomplicated with him. She isn't a dependable individual in any admire and that's humorous that the two certainly one of you will maximum in all probability finally end up mutually. have you ever heavily thought long and tricky approximately what marriage would be like with somebody who might sneak around in the back of YOUR back and then tell her lover that she would be able to't bypass away you? She appears like a real prize!!
2016-10-14 07:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by trinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry things aren't working out for you. I would just tell her you love her, but obviously you want more than she does and end it now. No sense putting it off. I think it's too hard to be friends with an ex - but some people can do it - too many memories for me. I think you should just move on.
When my husband proposed to me I didn't have to give it a second to say yes to him.
You deserve someone better - you sound like a good catch. Good luck.
2006-12-08 07:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you propose to the person you love and they love you. There is no second guessing, which means you should have gotten an answer within the first minute of proposing. Maybe you should takl to her once finals are over and from the response you get from her you should make your decision. Good luck!
2006-12-08 07:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by c_eva02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god this sucks. sweetie...she answered you. YOU weren't listening. if she didn't say yes.....it's because she said no. no one has to think about saying yes. ever. but you do have to think about saying no and how to say it without breaking someone's heart. marriage is not pressure. it's a way of life. there is nothing of any pressure. break it off. she'll get over it. so will you. no point in remaining friends. you'll mend easier without that added pressure. if you two weren't meant to be friends...then you won't cross paths later in life.
2006-12-08 07:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it: you can't "stay friends" with a person who shunned your marriage proposal. Be realistic. It's up to you both as to whether or not you want to stay in touch - but I think as you two move on in your personal lives, this "friendship" will fizzle out naturally.
2006-12-08 07:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋