2006-12-08 07:24:58 · 11 answers · asked by joe d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try out some adult movies unless she is offended. Get the couples ones, nothing kinky.
2006-12-08 07:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one - excuse the pun. Every woman is different about how they want to be approached, and each one has their own reasons for not wanting sex. If you pursue it too much, we get mad. If you don't pursue it enough, then we get mad. Most of the time a lack of sex drive is due to a lack of self-esteem. The unamaginative part comes from being with the same person over and over. You should try to let her know that you find her attractive. Don't try too hard because she'll think that you're just horny and need someone to give you sex. Try stuff like walking up behind her and hugging her back and kissing her neck - then walk away. Or try starting out gentle kissing her in bed then letting it escalate. Whatever you do, don't ask her for sex - it ruins the mood. Having surprise, unplanned sex during the day is great for boosting the imagination, along with not being afraid to explore new territory.
2006-12-08 07:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you are asking this question in this forum speaks multitudes. You need to be able 1st to communicate with your wife. Remember for a woman, sex starts outside the bedroom. Showing her love(non-sexual) attention,ect. Will bring about the feelings that you desire her to have. Example....When you first met. Treat her now...like you did then. Sound like too much work? I got great news for you...most woman WANT to satisfy thier husbands. Dont be fooled by your current circumstances...I have to give you this warning however, If you apply what I have recommened....she Will wonder what your up to, she might even be suspicious...but she will also be flattered... intrigued... and well..turned on..by you. Make sure when the doors have been opened though that you talk with her about what you would like....and dont forget to ask her what she would like as well. Good Luck...and get plenty of rest. (you'll need it) ; )
2006-12-08 08:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the reasons for the boring sex? Is she really religious or conservative or something like that? Is she insecure about her body? You can make your sex like better, and since you're asking this question, you probably need to. Would she be open at all to watching erotic movies? Or using toys? lol. It's actually fun. You have to do some work to make her want this. Be very sweet and tell her how hot she is and definitely go down on her. You have to put her in the mood.
2006-12-08 09:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely have a loving talk with your wife. If you want to keep your marriage healthy then keep the communication going. Tell her how much you love her and you would really love it if you could spice your marriage up and keep it spiced up. Don't be afraid to talk to her about this because not talking will only prolong things. Try bringing her flowers and sweet little things once in a while to get the romance started. Maybe she is feeling the same way. women love it when their husbands are romantic.
2006-12-08 09:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about making things a little more sizzly in the bedroom. Introduce toys, lace, satin scarves, etc. Buy her some sexy lingerie (better yet, take her with you to pick out a few outfits she'll feel comfortable in). If you dont "show her the way" and don't tell her your feelings on this, she'll just assume things are GREAT, when in fact they are not.
2006-12-08 07:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love this woman you spice things up get her some sexy sleepwear tell her you want to see her in them, if you can take her out on the town get a room for the night.
2006-12-08 07:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just that. In a loving way. Tell her you love her and want to please her and that will please you in return. Have oral sex with her and use your fingers to explore her inside while doing it. Make sure she is relaxed with little stress. If tired from work and she wants to sleep have the conversation with her while she is in the bed. Be playful. Give her a massage then go from there. That works for me. I am female by the way.
2006-12-08 10:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find other ways to have fun with her... No one's perfect, and perhaps sex is one thing you might need to "settle" on in your relationship.
2006-12-08 07:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 yrs. took a toll on me going through that .. . . . Something had 2 give....so I did just that...gave her the boot (finally.)
2006-12-08 07:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋