my ex husband says he hates me and does every thing to get at me and make my life hell. we had a bad divorce. Ive gotten over every thing and thought he has to he filed for divorce but the more he tries to hurt me i cant help to think its because he hasnt gotten over us what do you think?
2006-12-08 07:22:44 · 14 answers · asked by sassy1011984 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why worry-hes your ex.
2006-12-08 07:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, these are the types of things you can expect with a divorce. Do you have kids together? If so, things will be like this for a VERY long time.
It sounds like he did not want the divorce and is hurt. He is lashing out at the person who caused him hurt. Let me put it this way. My parents divorced 17 years ago, and they still can't be in the same room together.
He may never get over it, and that is his choice. He has to live with his inability to to accept reality.
2006-12-08 15:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct, he isn't over you yet. Let him continue his rantings and ravings because sooner or later he'll stop. I went through the same thing even though my ex wanted the divorce. Took him about 3 - 4 years, but he finally met someone new and has left me alone since.
2006-12-08 15:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps calling/showing up file a complaint and get a restraining order.
People hate being hurt. But sometimes they deal with it badly. This appears to be the case. Protect yourself. But don't talk to him when he tries. If he calls ask him not to call anymore goodbye.
2006-12-08 15:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still trying to contact you, or do anything to get a rise out of you, he is definetely NOT over it. It sounds to me like he has a very immature attitude about the situation. If things are bad, or getting bad, I would encourage you to talk to your lawyer and/or local police department. you may want to consider a restraining order. he has absolutely no right to keep harassing you like this, and needs to grow up!
2006-12-08 15:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by iittghy? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he still has strong feelings for you. Since he can not love you any longer, he will hate you.
It is the simple ying and yang .Love and hate are opposites of the same emotion.
Maybe with time he will learn how to deal with his feelings, if not, I hope you do not have any children involved that have to deal with it.
2006-12-08 15:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by expandinghorizons69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably right that it's because he hasn't gotten over you. He's bitter that you are not together, but his true colors are coming out.
2006-12-08 15:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably hasnt gotten over you. Especially if u r currently in a relationship...then he's jealous
2006-12-08 15:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by so sophisticated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you still need to be in touch with him? File a restraining order, and never see him again.
2006-12-08 15:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's disappointed that you over him; he wanted you to be as bitter as he is. He is insecure, don't even dream of getting back together with him.
2006-12-08 15:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order on him. He's just doing it to push your buttons.
2006-12-08 15:32:14 · answer #11 · answered by spanky1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋