I am 20 years old...I know I have ultimate say on what happens in my life, but I want my family's blessing. Well his family approves, despite the cultural differences. I know it would be a huge adjustment with him already having kids, but...I dunno!! I'm confused as all hell. I don't think it would be much of a cultural problem, except for my parents hating the fact he's mexican. I speak spanish pretty well and he speaks english...I dunno!!
2006-12-08 07:09:18 · 8 answers · asked by TheHottestChristinaYouKnow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen, there is nothing wrong with starting off slow. It's not like you are just going to get married and skip the dating part...are you? Make sure to spend time with his kids to see how they will handle you as well as you handle them. Take your time, you are young and can find plenty of other men if this does not work out.
2006-12-08 07:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 10:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family is reasonable and understanding (which I hope they are), they will eventually come around once they see that things are going well. At this point, they don't need to be "blessing" you for anything; it's not like you're getting married - you're simply considering dating a guy to get to know him better. Nothing at all is decided, and nothing may come out of it at all, who knows - you might decide after a few months that you really can't handle the kids, or that his values are different from yours, or that he can't stand your haircut, etc. At this point, it's just a "lets see what happens" situation, and to expect your family's "blessing" would be handing them way too much control over your decisions. Use your common sense, but don't be afraid to take risks. It's understandable your family wants the best for you, but you do need to be able to make your own decisions and follow your own path - and yes, make your own mistakes; no one's immune from that. It's all part of life.
2006-12-08 07:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I would not discourage family like that.
Do what your family wants. In the end just think of it as there are many fishes in the lake.
I know it might sound harsh but I am sure you knew about it before you started going out with this guy. You probably knew your family is not going to approve. Then why did you let it happen this deep? Please do not tell me, it happened. Because you are an adult and you are well aware of the situation before it goes deep.
2006-12-08 07:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Hoodie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't base your relationship and love on what your family thinks or feels about his heritage. If you can see past it, then they should also. If he treats you right, and loves you like there's no tomorrow and you love him just as much, then stay with your boyfriend (without your family's approval if need be). I'm sure they'd rather see you with a Mexican who treats you like a princess than see you with someone of your own race who'll possibly be a cheater or abuser.
2006-12-08 07:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide between him and your family, cause some day it may come to that. Hopefully your amily will love you unconditionally, however, it doesnt always work that way. I wouldnt be as worried about culture, as i would kids, and just overall life choices!
2006-12-08 07:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and your gut instinct families will always be
either approving or not. I would however find out why he is divorced or why his past relationship did not workout.
2006-12-08 07:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what makes u happy.
2006-12-08 07:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by daytona_girl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋