My husband seems to be ok with like one time a month. He works alot but still I would think he could make time more than once a month.....if you are about this age what is your average per week?
2006-12-08 07:01:07 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He either has a girlfriend or is masturbating a LOT behind your back.
I'm 30. I know!
2006-12-08 07:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by jer 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't judge him based on what is most common to males. He's your husband, not a stranger, so the first step should be to ask him about it. Remember though, just because you get an answer you don't like doesn't make him a liar. Getting married doesnt mean suddenly your omniscient with your spouse. There is still a lot that you have to trust them with.
By all means though, do not start thinking because of low sex that hes cheating on you and then start following him all day long to try and catch him in the act of something. Showing that you no longer trust your spouse can cause great harm to a marriage.
A man who has sex with you every night doesn't mean hes not seeing another woman on the side, and a man that only has sex once a month doesn't mean hes up to something fishy.
2006-12-09 21:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Star Fisher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks so many people are putting crap into your head right now ... but the best thing for you do is ask him why he doesn't want sex as much as YOU would like ... if you want more - ask for more ... if he says no - he's too tired - he's not in the mood - or just doesn't want to satisfy you ... then you have a problem ... !
I'm 25 ... my man is 22 ... there's not a minute that goes by that I don't want sex from him ... my man works hard very hard - 10 hour days non stop rough tractor driving dirty & outside in the weather ... as long as I show him I want sex ... he's willing EVERYTIME ... just have a few serious conversations with him and find out what's up ... you'll be fine - don't let these people make you think or treat him any differently until you figure out what's really going on ... there's some harsh answers on here ... !
2006-12-08 07:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it really can be killed by stress. Ever notice that those good for nothing unemployed losers are such studs in bed - I would be too if I had nothing to worry about and slept till 1 pm every day.
I am 33 now but when I was 25 (with a 7 and 6 year old) we were lucky if we did it more than 3 times a month at times. Stress, poverty, screaming kids, reality setting in etc. It happens.
Doesn't mean you should ignore it though. But for God's sake don't come down on him he probably feels bad enough already. Be the initiator. Take charge. Guys are at first a little freaked out by this but after a couple of times he will like it.
2006-12-08 07:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey I feel your pain. I have the same problem. We too usually have sex about every month or in 3 weeks time. Now don't get discouraged by the people who said "he is seeing another person" I felt bad too and I thought I was the problem, like I was feeling like he neglects me, don't pay attention to me, maybe I am fat, you know all those negetavie things. Then just the other day at the laundry he conffesed he feels like he doesn't have the sexual drive and he knew something was wrong. So we decided to join the gym and lets see what happens. Then last weekend we had sex both sat and sun. My husband is 28.
Just talk to him. Maybe he is also aware of it too.
Hopefully it works out for you.
2006-12-08 07:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by Hoodie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a 25 year old guy, and honestly, sometimes it just becomes less of a priority than other things. If my girlfriend doesn't pretty much jump on top of me, sometimes I don't even think about it for days. I like sex, and I am sure that he does too; maybe he just needs more indicators. Or maybe you just need to jump on him when you want it!
Guys aren't hard to figure out, and are easily distracted. I say give him very direct signals. If he avoids them, be straight up and ask him about them. If he doesn't have an answer, then there might be something going on.. But you are married, and this shouldn't be an issue you are tip-toeing around. You only get to have sex with one person, so figure it out!
2006-12-08 07:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by soccrian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well its hard to say without knowing a little more about the situation but i know for me i might have sex once ever three to four months but its because my last girlfriend made me ask for it all the time and alot of the time she would tell me know and now i just don't even bother all that time made me hate sex in a way but it could in your husbands case it could be alot of things like if you have been marryed a while try to spice things up a bit in bed wisper in his ear while you guys are making love or maybe even break out some hand cuffs and a whip what ever you guys are into hope this helps
2006-12-08 07:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by candyman4092 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be doing it 2 to 3 times a week at least. When I was 25 I was doing a couple of times a day.
2006-12-08 07:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 25, I was going 3-5 times a week. He must not be that attracted to you.
2006-12-08 07:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by Big Mak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not healthy and I know it, my bf is older than me, I am 25 he is 37, and we are having problems with that right now, I know that he is under a lot of pressure because of work, and it only happens during Christmas time, all the other times of the year, we need at least twice a week. You need to speak to him about it, he is either cheating or masturbating too much! Ask him when his work load going to change so that he could work on getting you satisfied!
2006-12-08 07:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get him to go to the doctor; low sex drive may be a symptom of a medical condition - low testosterone, for example. It can be diagnosed and treated.
My husband and I just got married, been together for 2 years, early 30s, once a month is "often" for us. I suggested for him to take the blood test for testosterone levels, but he hasn't done it yet.
2006-12-08 07:23:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋