my husband always tells me how i dont know how to do things and he thinks he has to teach me everything. does all men think their women are dum b or just certain ones,? is it a mans way of feeling big or what? why do they do this? most of them i have met or know treat their wives or girl friends this way.
2006-12-08 06:47:16 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I think most men do this to inflate their own self esteem. But boy wait until they really have a problem and see who they run crying to for help. You got it, their wives!!!
2006-12-08 06:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are raised to take the dominant role in a relationship. A man will tend to compete with ANYBODY for that dominant role.
However, I don't believe that ALL men are that way, & I also don't believe that any man would consciously take any pleasure out of making a woman feel like an *** just for the sake of it.
Most men when confronted by a new or unfamiliar experience will revert to instinct, or "auto-pilot" to get them through.
If it works once then when in the same situation, they will use the same tactic that worked the last time again. (It's just human nature). However, if a woman were to let a man know that she wasn't going to let her man get away with such a tactic, then MOST MEN, would learn that the 1st method tried didn't work, & they would adjust their responce to a similar situation in the future.
In other words, MEN TREAT THEIR WOMEN, THE WAY THEIR WOMEN HAVE TAUGHT THEM TO.
So your husband when he was a boy watched his mother quietly take it from his father, & now what he has apparently learned from you is that it is OK to treat you the same because you must quietly take it too, or he wouldn't be doing that.
So if you want him to change you are going to have to find the best way to encorage that. You are partially responsible for the way he treats you, so try to be patient with him, & keep reminding him in an appropriate manner that his treatment of you is not OK.
Good Luck!
2006-12-08 07:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Ma, not all men could be lumped in the same class of behavior. Mind you there is a cliche about birds of the same feather flocking together, probably you have been meeting your husband's friends most of the time with simila routlook to life with him. Your husband could be overprotective over you and this you take as being overbearing on you .I know you saw some good qualities in him before getting wedded to him. Discuss this problem with him not with your friends or his friends.You won't believe what objective dialog could do to solve personality problems in a home.Remember men are as loving as women.
2006-12-08 07:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Aushbaba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you are hanging around the wrong type of people. No, not all men think women are dumb. Women are a lot smarter than men in many ways. A man who picks on his woman is no man at all. It only shows how insecure he is. I think you should try and give your husband a real shocker for him to wake up and see you for what you are capable of doing.
2006-12-08 07:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no just certain guys. I once dated this guy alooooong time ago in High school who thought he was so much smarter than me, he was taking the stupid classes and I was taking the AP classes.After we broke up I realized he was a real dumb ace.Oh ya he thought he was the bomb on computers and it's even funnier that I scored really high in those classes in collage and that guy didn't even finish high school. I'm married now like years later and my hubby doesn't do that. I wouldn't put up with it and if hubby ever did that I would put him in his place and give him a chore he can't do but I can, to prove it. Woman are Strong too
2006-12-08 06:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I believe this to be a psychological trait in men that they want to feel smarter and more knowledgeable than their women. It can be annoying but honestly, you're doing a lot for his ego by allowing him to teach you things. If he's doing it with stuff you already know, then say to him "Honey, thank you for wanting to show me how to do this but I'd rather you showed me something I don't know how to do." and then give an example like changing the oil in your car or something.
2006-12-08 06:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it's true and others time it's false (regarding the mechanical abilities or aptitudes of women).
Just for the record, a lot of women look at men with disdain and contempt, believing that they're not very bright or aware about things.
2006-12-08 06:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't treat my wife that way. Maybe that is part of the reason why we are still married after 17 years. There are thing that she can do better then me and there are things that I do better. We complement each other which is how a marriage should be.
2006-12-08 06:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that some men do this. Not all, of course. It seems that it does make them feel like more of a man to belittle their woman- however, those are the men that don't have the respect they should have for their woman.
-EA
2006-12-08 06:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, my husband never treats me this way. He minds his own business for the most part, and lets me do things my way.
2006-12-08 06:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋