I'm 17 years old and I'm pregnant. How do I tell my mother?

Question

Because I am so young and I am pregnant I might not be look at as a very responsible person right now. I do agree that i wasnt, but since I am pregnant I do believe I should take responsiblity. I dropped out of school and I am planning on getting my GED and for now I got a job as a secretary in a small company I make $10 an hour, I know rising a child is expensive and that my teenage life is gone but it is something that I am whiling to scrafice for this child. My boyfriend is way older and wants the child which helps. I'm only a month but i started putting money in the bank for the baby because i was heavy spender and i suppose that having money saved up will help with the care of the baby after its born. I'm open to to any suggestions of ways of preparing for this baby and also I really need help on ways of breaking it to my mom

thanks for the help

Answer 1

i got pregnant with my first at 17, and i was so nervous about telling my mum! me and my partner kept it to ourselves for nearly 4 months, and in the end i had just had enough and with out even planning or thinking about it i just blurted it out and just started crying! i cant tell you how relieved i was to get it out in the open! my mum was very supportive and said, well its happened now, lets deal with it. i got myself on the housing list, started planning and the rest is history.
so i know exactly how you feel, i know its scary put the stress you must be exsperiencing must be so much. you and your partner need to sit down and tell your parents. i told my mum on her own, cuz i knew my dad would go mad! then my mum sat my dad down and told him the news.
me and my partner have now been togther for 5 years and expecting our 2nd.
its good you have a supportive partner, and you are facing your responsability and already started planning the future. i suggest you get it all out in the open, and then the hardest is over, you know your parents so you should be able to judge the best way to do it. as i said i knew the best way for me was to tell them seperatly. your mum might be mad, dissappointed and upset, but in time she will come round and look forward to the arrival.
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i wish you all the look and i promise that every think will turn out ok, maybe not straight away, but be prepared it may take a while. and at the end of it all, you will have your baby.
hope this helps.

Answer 2

If your mom is going to freak I'd wait until after the holiday's. But you do need to tell her. You make $10 an hour at 17 that's very good. Don't let anyone tell you to abort ot give that baby away if that's not what you want to do. If you older boyfriend is willing to step up to the plate then you let him. And if things don't work out between the both of you then atleast be parents to your child. Being a single teenage mother isn't the worst thing that's going to hapen to you sweetie. Do what feels right in your heart. You can do this. You can get your GED and continue to work until you have the baby. If you need helf from anyone or anything, try not to be to proud to take it. Don't abuse the system though, just use it as you need it and then move on. I have faith in you making the right decision. I'm 18 and pregnant, my parents just had my little sister the same month I got pregnant. My sister's going to be an aunt at 9 months old. I was petrafied to tell my parents. They have accepted it and moved on. They are now so very excited to bring the first grandchild and better yet grandson into the world. Hold your head up kiddo. Everythings going to be okay!

Answer 3

Well, You sound very responsible! I think you and him need to go together and tell her. It is better with 2 people. You need to get signed up for GED right away!!!... That is something that many say I will be ok and then they never go back! I would hate to see you having to struggle forever with a 10 dollar an hour job!! If you have to work part time and do GED classes now then do that... better now than after the baby! I am 20 and I have a 11 month old but the first time I got preg I was barley 17. I had a miscarriage. But let me tell you It is expensive but well worth it. I am in college and finishing my basics for nursing school. I can tell you from experience that it is VERY hard but when that baby gets here that should give you a push to better your self not for you but for your child.

Good Luck

Answer 4

The sooner you tell your mom the better, she'll prob. be able to help you with all of your questions and get you prepared. Give her some forewarning like calling first and saying you need to talk, she'll kind of expect the news by the time you tell her. Ask her for her help and don't get mad if/when she lectures you. Do your homework so when she asks you questions you have the answers and don't look irresponsible. Know when you're due, when you'll get your GED, how you'll get medical care, what you'll do with the baby once he/she is born and you're at work. I'd leave the BF out of it, because you've got to depend only on yourself and she'll want to know you can. Don't let her change your mind, if you want to keep your baby then do it and never look back! Good luck!

Answer 5

The best answer for you is just to be honest with your mom. She might be upset in the beginning, but beleive me, from personal experience it won't last. My suggestion would to be to go to your obgyn and make sure that you are pregnant, tell your mom, but before you tell everyone else, I would wait till after your first trimester. Get past the part of possibly having a miscarriage. As far as suggestions towards care of the baby, they aren't that hard to take care of. They are stressful and the money adds up. Have a baby shower and tell everyone to bring a package of diapers and they will be entered into a drawing for a prize and people will do it. You need to apply for WIC and any other assistance you can get.

Answer 6

Well dear Ive been where you are. I had my daughter at 17. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Keep to your plan. Make sure your boyfriend sets up for child support. I do hope it works out for the two of you but I know that it doesnt always make sure he agrees to child support now and you make it leaglso if you two do separate he will not drop his payments.
The best advice I can give in child rearing is ALWAYS be honest with your child from day one. Not to say that you are a liar but dont even tell the little white lies. If they ask you if the shots they have to get will hurt say "yes but just for a second and I know you are a big girl you can do it." If you so no than they lose respect for you even at a young age. The little white lies parents tell there kids affect their behavior greatly. be honest from day one and try to get them on a schedule from day one and things will go smother.
As far as telling your mom theres no easy way to do that. I think you should just sit her down and tell her basically what uyou said on here. And keep to it. Welcome to parenthood its a hard but wonderful job

Answer 7

I was 17 when I got pregnant too. It sounds like you are being very responsible and that is awesome. Just sit her down and tell her. Be an adult about the situation and just explain to her that you understand this is going to be hard but you are willing to do it and you are going to do it. My now husband is older than me too. He came with me and we sat my parents down and told them I was pregnant. Then we weighed the options and we decided to keep the baby. It was very hard at first but very much worth it. My daughter is now 2 years old and I couldn't be happier. Everything will come together. Just be strong! And Good Luck!

Answer 8

I was also 17 with my first pregnancy. You should sit down and have a talk with your mother and let her know that you are pregnant and want her support. I wish I would have told my mother earlier. I was so scared to tell her. I kept waiting for the right time. Before I could even tell her, I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks pregnant. Eventually after the miscarriage, I told my mother. She said I should have talked to her earlier.

Answer 9

o.k. first, keep your job and try not to give them any reason for letting you go.
make your first prenatal dr appointment. then, each dr appointment try to schedule during your lunch break so your employer will not get cranky.
you want to do everything you can to keep your job so you have something to go back to after you have the baby. once you really start showing, then i'd tell your boss. that way they can prepare for your maternity leave and you can discuss options. FMLA (family medical leave act) may be able to protect your job...but check out FMLA website for specifics.

as for telling your mom. just tell her. there is no easy way, there's no gentle way to break the news. so, just sit down with her and tell her. tell her that you have already started saving and that you need her help b/c she is a mom and you will need lots of advice. when she gives you advice, be open to it.

as far as getting ready...
i'd buy a pack of diapers here and there. start with newborn size, but only get one pack. my baby didn't stay in that size for very long. i'd only get 1 or 2 packs of the smaller sizes at first b/c they grow fast in the beginning.

decide if you want to nurse or bottle feed. if you want to bottle feed, then apply for WIC. WIC can help you buy food for yourself during your pregnancy and will pay for baby formula once the baby is born. also, you cna decide on bottles. there's a large variety out there, so ask around at what brand people like and why. i use AVENT for my little guy.

you will need a carseat and a crib..think about that. they can get pricey.
there are lots of great things to buy for babies, but when it comes down to it, they only NEED a few things:
-crib
-carseat
-clothes
-diapers
-food
-blankets

i don't think i'm forgetting anything. everything else is kind of extra.

take care and good luck.

Answer 10

I think you and your boyfriend should do it together. And be ready for a lot of questions, or maybe she will flip, or maybe she will just shut down and not talk to you. You never know. It might be really hard to find out how she feels, and she might let you know how she feels in a big way, or she might be really cool and just ask a lot of questions. I guess she won't be thrilled, you are very young. We all want people to be happy for us when we are having a baby. I hope that you can be happy and full of joy. It is a wonderful thing to be a mom. Try to be happy and share your happiness with your mom when you tell her. If she thinks you are worried and frightened she will want to try to protect you.