Help, Please!!!?

Question

Hi, I'm a 19 year old, female, whom isn't sexually active. I had a pap smear that came back abnormal, so my gyno done a colposcopy on me and took a biopsy of my cervix. Today, I got the results back stating that I'm close to having cancer, so they're going to freeze it out next month of the 15th. Ever since, I've been quite devistated and distraught. You can see that I've been upset in my appearance. I have bags under my eyes, my eyes are droopy, I look pale, and as weird as it may sound, my lips are even swelled from crying so much. Also, I can't keep anything down. I've gotten to the point to where my mother had to make me bathe and do proper hygiene 'cause I'm so depressed. Now, we're talking about a girl here whom use to bathe once to three times a day, depending on how dirty she felt (I have obsessive compulsive disorder flare ups at times). So, what can I do to bring me out of this stage of depression? Something besides going shopping, realization, and breathing exercises.

By the way, I have a very supportive boyfriend.

Answer 1

Wow, reading what you wrote made me question weather or not I was the one who rote this. I am also 19 years old. Last year I had a pap and it also came back abnormal. HPV. My problem did not get serious. I just went two weeks ago for another pap (after the colposcopy they had me come every month) my pap came back as normal. Thank god.

I also suffer from depression.
I hate when people bother me with breathing exercises and realization crap and all that other stuff. And I would never suggest shopping becasue i hate shopping lol.

About 6 months ago I was very stressed out. My health insurance cancled me, I had this stupid HPV problem, I was getting sick with other things, plus college was killing me. Final exams, doctor visits. it was all very crazy. My boyfriend surprized me with a massage. a 1 hour massage.

It was 80 dollars but prices may be different depending on your location. Some places around where I live (connecticut) cost about 70 and others can cost over 100. I have since been for 3 more massages at 3 different places and I can honestly say that the price did not matter...the massage was still wonderful.

When I went in for my first massage I was a wreck. I had been arguing with my mom all morning, studying for final exams, work was getting crazy (i work at a daycare). I cried the whole way to the massage place because I was totally stressed out. After the massage was finished I felt like a new person. I litterally felt like I had been born all over again.
Stress is a really big problem for so many people. And if you have cancer, it is not helping anything. Massage therapy is a very recommended thing. I would try it out.

If you cant afford it, there are other things you can do.
When I get depressed I try as hard as I can to get my mind off of it. Take a hot bath with some lavender scented something (Bubbles, bath oil, bath powder, a lavender candle). The smell of lavender really relaxes me. Invite a friend over and watch FUNNY movies all night.

**(The massage was a Therapudic Masasge. .... they have other kinds. They have this Reflexology thing where they push different pressure points on your feet and it relaxes other parts of your body..never tried it but it sounds neat)...

I hope everything works out well.
If you need to talk feel free to E-Mail me, i'm always up for a good conversation. ([e-mail])

Answer 2

Hey, I don't know much about this stuff, but I think you might as well completely clean up your diet. I know you don't need additional stresses but I think after the initial ardure you will feel better. I am sure OCD can be aggravated by poor diet. You may have some problems absorbing nutrients. As our soils become depleted of certain nutrients, our foods do the same. To overcome these problems we must be very strict with our diets and supplement some things. If it were me, I would eat like a monk for a few weeks and (sensibly) take all kinds of supplements (almost everything on this prostrate cancer link) and get another test done just in case you can beat it. (although from the other answers I'd say people seem to think that this procedure is very non-invasive)

Here is my usual advice for depressives. I'm still working things out myself. Give some of it a try, perhaps it will help in your situation.
also, this link looks mostly great to me- http://www.cancertutor.com/Other/Prostate_Cancer.html
(i know it says prostrate but it makes a lot of sense)
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anyone who is depressive should take a good multivitamin most days with a meal. while you are at it take a calcium+magnesium pill, unless by some miracle you get enough calcium. (or you take a calcium-based antacid) also, get lots of beneficial fatty acids. you should try taking a gram of fish oil daily, it can do wonders.

then try getting lots of sunlight. get some vigorous cardiovascular exercise as often as you can. practise good posture and learn a little about basic yoga postures and t'ai chi warmups. posture has a large impact on your sense of well-being. always work to expand your approach to and understanding of fitness. core strength is crucial.

eat a varied very high protein, high fiber diet with a balance of good fats and few refined carbs. shun additives and preservatives. you want fresh whole foods, not overcooked. eat leafy greens and colourful vegetables. eat tree nuts,eat fish, eat more fish, the more nutritious fruits (berries, etc.), herbs, legumes, and some grains. don't eat sweets or drink sweet/sour drinks, especially soda. instead eat fruit. diet really really really matters. it has a slow cumulative effect. I know these diet changes can be inconvenient and costly. However, because the alternative occasionally involves hospitalization, and because the overall quality of your life will improve on this diet, I believe it is necessary.

stay hydrated. this can be a matter of simply avoiding certain foods that dehydrate you.

that's all that comes to mind. If you use caffeine, try 3 weeks off. If that's no good, consider optimal dosage and timing relative to work/sleep. you may wanna look into ginseng.
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okay that's what i usually say to depressives... since supplements are hard to get a handle on, let me suggest a plan:

twice a day take the following (unless the instructions call for just one)
(if meal is low in fiber take a fiber supplement first)
A digestive enzyme complex
Twinlab Daily Two Cap without iron
Calcium/magnesium pill
Zinc (gluconate) (bring zinc up to maybe triple RDA, but only until you give up and let them do surgery)
Fish oil and flax oil
Vitamin C, 1000 IU 5 times a day (or more)
Kyolic aged garlic supplement
Ginseng, (panax) (quit if it makes you irritable)
Milk Thistle
MSM

that's all my suggestions right now
the justification for postponing removal of the pre-cancerous cells on the off chance that diet and supplementation will eliminate the cancer is the fact that they (the cells) are most probably a symptom of a systemic problem that could lead to other cancers in the future. It may be best to train yourself to avoid cancer through diet and general health, whenever possible.

Answer 3

Sounds like you have a pre cancerous condition of the cervix. This is what I had when I was 20 and they also did cryosurgery. I have been fine since and am now in my 40's. This procedure is really very successful. It also sounds like you have some brain chemistry issues and need to try medication. I also have brain chemistry issues and needed to be on meds. You need to talk to the doctor about your depression and he will be able to diagnose and help you and maybe determine if you need meds. But do not be discouraged ...there is help available. You don't have to live like this! Get help today! God bless you!

Answer 4

i suffer from panic and anxiety disorder, and have OCD flair ups as well. i recommend reading the book From Panic to Power by Lucinda Bassett to help you get a handle on your anxiety and OCD. There is also a whole program called From Panic to Power that comes with cds, a workbook, etc. I recommend it. It may give you the strength and tools you need to cope with things like you are experiencing right now. There is also something to be said for finding spirituality in your life, whether it's through God, Buddha, nature, whatever. I've always found prayer to be a source of comfort and security too. Then just remind yourself that you are lucky to have people in your life who are supportive and love you. You are also lucky that they caught this sooner rather than later. I know it's difficult, but there is always someone who has it worse than you. Hang in there.

Answer 5

hey there
It's ok to be nervous, scared, and upset about a procedure like this. But the good thing is that they found it early. And it's only "close to having cancer." It's not even in the full stages yet.
StayJ is right. Jesus Christ is the ultimate Healer, and He heals all kinds of wounds. Your broken spirit is something He'd love to mend if you become His child. Seek out the Christian church (try www.sbc.net), and surround yourself with a support group there, as well.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. I can't imagine how scared you must be in addition to how depressed you are. I am happy to hear you have a supportive boyfriend. Some men would run from situations like this.

As far as help:
Go seek help from a Psychiatrist. You have issues that cannot be helped by yourself nor from your supportive boyfriend, but better from a professional. A professional can better handle the OCD and depression issues.

Answer 7

First of all I want you to count to 10 and breath .. everytime you think about this you panic and your depressed...

Ok I want to let you know your not alone alot of us women have gone through the same thing .. Be happy you got it so early ..It means your going to survive this and live!!!!

Now You know that Tim Mcgraw song "Live like your dieing " Do it !! Life is short and sometimes you get a set back and its ok ...

Jesus I don't know how many times I have the same thing I had cancer in my cervice 3 times already and I'm very high risk and each time I hug my son and thankful I have him and we go out and have fun .. YOu can't let this take over you life .. Fight !!!!! You are in control just remeber that you have this right to fight and live and be who ever you want to be your still young ...

Find out all the info you can and how its going to help you get better ... Hell if you got to go out side and YEll !! scream if you have to and your going to ask always Why Me and not someone else...

What doesn't kills us makes us only stronger and your a strong young woman you can survive this put your chin out get out of your bed and live!!

Find your happiness because their are woman out there that didn't get that chance and your one of the lucky ones...Remember to LIVE!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

just stop for a moment and take a look at your situation. you were smart enough to get your exam. they found this before it actually became cancer. you're going to be fine. yes, it's scary. yes, it's entirely unexpected. BUT it is still manageable. you are lucky. but at the same time, i understand why you're depressed. i really suggest finding someone to talk to. not necessarily a therapist, but maybe just a close friend who will listen and be there for you.

Answer 10

She didnt say you HAVE cancer, she said you are close, which means pre-cancerous cells.

She also said she was going to freeze it out of your body, which means GET RID OF IT.

I think youre over-reacting. You dont have cancer. Think of the women out there who already have it. You caught it before it got there, you should be happy.

Calm down, you DONT have cancer.