my wife had an affair with a co-worker and claims she only had sex with him once. when she was busted she said she felt bad but she continued to hang out with this guy she claim that it wasn't a sexual relationship and that all it was friendship. she said he was someone to talk to and just kick it with. she said it happened just the one time. but she went back to his house at least two times afterwards. she said that when they had sex he wasn't able to performed properly due to his intoxication of alchohol and exstacy so he had to keep stopping in between and they just decided to stop. do i believe her when she says he had another opportunity to have sex with her again and she said no even though she continued to see him. now she claims to be foolish for and apologetic for what she has done and she wants to work things out. i want to know if you guys think her story is believable
2006-12-08 06:16:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think she is being completely honest!! If you both want your marriage to work........she has to come clean. And, I think she needs to get a new job!
2006-12-08 06:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand the story, but what does it matter. She cheated on you and is the number of time really going to make that much of a difference? Not to mention the fact that she is hanging out doing drugs with this man. As long as drugs like ex are present you can't trust a person. While on that drug all you think about is pleasuring yourself and others no matter what it takes. If you want to work things out with her then you need to decide if you will be able to forgive her and trust her again. If so then the number of times she had sex with this man is irrelevant and you need to put it behind you. If not, move on and find someone you can trust. My best advice is to get out of that drug scene. I was there and i know how it is and my life was always full of drama. It was not until i stopped doing drugs that i found my soulmate and live a drama free life. I can trust everyone around me and never have to worry about if my husband will get all f@$ked up on ex and have sex with another woman. Or vise versa
2006-12-08 14:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soooo unbelievable. Why is she still talking to him? You should almost forbid it if she still loves you and wants this to work out between you. How could it be just a friendship relation when she is having sex with him? How many friends to you sleep with? And why is she hanging out at his house after work? There was another opportunity for sex, so they are obviously talking about it. If she really wants to stay with you, she needs to get another job and stop seeing this guy. I have a feeling it won't end their, because you seem to be TOO forgiving or week to a fault. Tell her it stops today or else. Think about it, she only confessed because she was busted. How long has this been going on before she was caught, and would it still be going on if she wasn't busted.
2006-12-08 14:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is lying to you. She never should have had sex with anyone else period, who cares if it was only once or it was not completed. The fact that she still is friends with this person is a slap in your face. You need to put your foot down and tell her that she can be friends with this man or she can be your wife, but you are not going to stand around waiting while she is being "buddies" with this man. If she truly is apologetic and wants to work things out with you then that "friendship" would be gone.
2006-12-08 14:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend, she is lying and still seeing this dude...There's a such thing as a man and a woman being friends, but once you cross that line, friends doesn't exist, it becomes lovers and you cannot hang out to someone's house alone and just talk and have fun after he has slid up in her....
2006-12-08 15:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the last few times you asked you got similar answers.
Does it matter that's it's believeable? The fact that she continues to hang out with him is appalling. If what you are saying is true you are best off divorcing. Seriously. I don't care why he couldn't perform.
2006-12-08 14:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'm not a guy but the bioche is lying to u. Why is she still seeing him? Use your backbone and ask her what the hell is going on, you could get AIDS, no telling how many others he's banging besides her. If she doesn't cease and desist now, like yesterday, u should kick her to the CURB.
2006-12-08 14:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. And once you cheat, the vows she said to you mean nothing, and she has no respect for you. Get out while you can!!
2006-12-08 14:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by bobman96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to know if your wife's "sins" are forgivable? i think that is what you are trying to get. well, all sins are forgivable but it takes effort. some of the circumstances you mention are pretty far fetched. alcohol and extacy? not very believable. and i have some property too.
2006-12-08 14:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it. If it was really over and wanted to work it out with you she would not go anywhere near this guy.
2006-12-08 14:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋