has anyone ever felt this bad?

Question

has anyone ever had such a low opinion of themselves and felt so bad about themselves that they feel they dont deserve anyone or not worthy of anybody or not good enough for anybody, like a girlfriend, because thats what i struggle with sometimes, can this be overcome? i feel as though im not as good as anyone else because i dont own much in the way of possessions, i live in small flat and im trying to get better from psychological problems and psychiatric to....i have this horible feeling all the time and feel as though ill never get the things i so desperatly want in life, like employment, a nice home, a nice girlfriend, i feel these things are beyond me..iim 29 and never worked

Answer 1

I have. But it's gonna be alright.

Answer 2

I felt very very low a few months ago.My partner was pathologicaly jealous and made my life hell many times. I loved him more than i have ever loved anyone else and was told many times by him,that im worthless and ****,and look ugly.He treated me horrible sometimes and then made me feel even worse by telling me im moody and thats why he mistreats me.but i had right to get upset,when he was mean.But that time i felt evern worse and like a relly bad person,when i left him,because of the way i was treated.he told me i was bad girlfriend cause i wouldnt stay by his side no matter what.i felt really ****.Now i know,it was my right to leave if he wasnt nice to me.But there were times,when i felt i deserve just bad things,cause im bad myself.Dont worry.u say uve got small flat,i dont even hav that.i have small room,¨work as a waitress,but should i be worse person because of that than lets say some solicitor living in huge house?it is not what u have what makes u good person, but how you act. if you are worried about getting job,why dont u go and ask for some? Start with something easy, a kitchen porter, or helper in a supermarket and you will feel much more better.

Answer 3

Of course everyone has felt that way at one time or another.

The issue w/ you seems to be that it's dehabilitating. That's more than most people.

You need to start w/ small successes... for instance, like saving $1 in an account for that home, or going online to find out how to get that job you want. Praise yourself when you do right stuff, and cut the self-beating by 95%.

As you move along, you'll feel better about things 'cause you've got some momentum and a few achievements.

Quite frankly, most of us would feel awful about ourselves if we were "29 and never worked." My parents put me to work, my teachers made me work, and now my bills force me to work. Life is work. Humans are not healthy w/o work. Even if you volunteer, you need to work doing something.

Answer 4

You are doing the right thing by admitting you have some issues and seekin help. Stop comparing yourself to what others have. Materal things will never get you to Heaven. You were made in God's own image and His love should be sufficient for you. When you realize that, things will fall into place for you.

Now as far as you being 29 and not working....I cant judge you on that but the question is...why have you never worked? That is something you can change for yourself.

Answer 5

I feel like that a lot too - you're not alone. I think we all go through times in our life like this. You should first consider going to school. Start small. Take a few classes for something that interests you. You will meet people with similar interests and maybe find a career that you will love. In the end, you will be happier.

Answer 6

I just recently found that special someone that is helping me realize that I am worth loving/being with. I too have the problem with depression, like you. It's almost too common nowadays, many people are having the self-esteem problems. Too much pressure from society and others around us. In many cases, you just have to associate with people who are going to give you encouragement and support through this difficult time. It's not easy, not by any means, but it can be done. Start slowly and work your way into the knowledge that everyone is just as important as everyone else.

Answer 7

I think you need to keep a journal and see if there are any patterned behavior. You may be able to see it in black and white and try to address the issues. You might also try getting a plant. If you have something to care about this could help you feel more positive. Someone out there is listen,so keep on.

Answer 8

Your desires are the root of your depression. Appreciate the finer things in your life and stop freting over things that you can not control. Possessions will not bring you inner peace because you will always covet more.

Answer 9

go for some free preview of Motivational Seminars.
while you are slightly better or a bit hyped up from the seminars, set yourself some goals....maybe just one goal to start with.
then work slowly towards that goal...it can be anything....
maybe even to get a different job.
for eg, you can try working in McDonalds....something to start you with....from tehre, you can get better jobs step by step.

also, while you are at those seminars, try to mix around with past graduates and get their contacts and try to mix around with them more.
Those are hyped up people and they can motivate you and make you feel better.

Answer 10

My guess is that you suffer from depression. Your life will change significantly for the better with an antidepressant monitored by a psychiatrist.