but its impossible because he's so immature. He calls once a week just to start a fight w/ me. I'm really scared and even having second thoughts about having this baby, I dont know waht to do. I just want to happy and free of his evil ways.
2006-12-08 05:52:11 · 16 answers · asked by btrflyy1077 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok....women....here's what I don't understand. When me and my wife were married we went almost 15 years without her getting pregnant. How in this day in age can you guy's let yourself get pregnant. I know birth control works and we had sex as often as any normal couple. So I ask how is possible to get pregnant if you don't really want to, and if you do why do you let yourselves get pregnant by these bums!!!!
2006-12-08 06:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Honey, oh you poor thing. I'm actually crying right now, it's a real hard time right now and your going to need a shoulder to cry on. Don't hate your hubby. Give him a hug. Don't feel guilty, though I know that thats impossible. God has his ways and ideas, and this is one hard path along to the Future. Take a vacation if you can stand it, go to your familys, or just some where for just you and your husband, and have alot of toghether time alone. This, if you treat it the right way, can only create more bonds between you and your husband. In six months or so, dare I suggest, try to have another baby, or, even better, adopt. There are tons of children out there that need help, you might feel better if you volunteered as a foster parent. You sound as if you already hate the 3yr olds Mommy, try not to, through I don't expect you to completely suceed. This is going to be a hard hard time, but try to distract yourself with things you love doing. And remember, nothing is perfect, except for hope. Love with all your might, S.
2016-05-23 07:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is ur ex which i interpret to mean that u no longer want him to be a part of ur life. however, once he wants to be a part of the baby's life, u are stuck with him forever so what u need to do is find common ground. right now the only common ground u have is the baby so let him know not to call u unless its concerning the baby.
i know that this can be a very stressful time (i was there earlier this year). when we found out i was 4 mths pregnant and things started to fall apart. my bf gambled two months salary in a row and i was concerned about finances. so i left him and our rented house and went to a shelter. it was very hard but at this time in pregnancy u need to get rid of all the stress u an even if it means ppl.
right now we are engaged and looking for a new place and planning to be married next yr. my 3 mth old boy is the greatest joy in my life. i look back now and thank god that he put it in a way i could not have terminated my pregnancy because it would have been the greatest mistake of my life.
do not punish ursf and ur baby for an immature a s s. do not take his calls if necessary, move to family's house, etc. if u can. ur peace of mind is really important for a wonderful pregnancy, safe delivery and healthy baby.
do not do like me and only enjoy the last month. this should be one of the happiest periods of ur life... so ENJOY it... the thought of ur daugther or son growing inside is a miracle from God.
good luck and may God's guidance be on and with u.
2006-12-08 06:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having this baby means that the if the father wants to he will always be in the baby and your life. It may not go the way you always want it too. You should leave him alone and give him time to realize that he might be a father weather he likes it or not. If he steps up to be the father you might have to end the relationship you two have and just focus on a realtionship between him and the baby.
2006-12-08 05:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cierra C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am answering this through my baby's father id. But, my id is miss_sheenar. I just wanted to get that out before I answered your question.
I am in the same predicament. I am 4 1/2 mos. pregnant and I was living with my baby's father up until this past week. From experience the best thing to do is to just leave. If you both can move on with your lives right now it will be the best thing for the both of you as well as your childs well-being. This is my second pregnancy with my baby's father and as a result of his behavior through the last pregnancy I lost that child. If you continue to let him manipulate you into thinking that your child is not worth its life you will only end up being sorry in the end. That is why with this second pregnancy when my baby's father started acting stupid by seeing other people I decided to do the same. You just have to keep going despite how he is acting now because it is only just a phase. He will eventually get over it and come around. Trust me because after I lost our last baby my baby's father was upset with me for a while and after a year of trying to concieve we are pregnant again and this time when he tries to pull the stunts that he has pulled in the past I just ignore him and go on. Because your child is far more important than him and his silly ways. Not, only that but his immaturity will catch up with him in the end and he is going to regret some of the things that he has done. Just go on with your pregnancy and only think about yourself and your baby. Thats what I do on a daily basis. I am now living with my mom again and I am happy I get up each day and make sure that I eat right and I try to talk to my baby to let him know that it will be okay despite how his father might act. I think that most women who are single and pregnant go through this phase. Also, try to remember that he is pregnant just like you are a lot of people might not believe it but guys experience some of the emotional challenges that we experience during pregnancy. But, you have to just stay focused on what is important but I can assure you that if you loose your baby because of stupidity it will hurt you in the end and the hurt that you will feel from loosing your child is nothing like the pain that the father is putting you through it just isn't worth it. Good luck and I wish you and your baby the best!!!
Miss_Sheenar
2006-12-08 10:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by clifton_mac1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no good for your baby if he cant get his act together. Be independent and raise your baby, otherwise you will forever reconcider a choice you didnt want to make (if you give up for adoption). As long as your baby has you that's all they will need.
I just had my first baby. I was scared to death. But everyday I smile, I laugh and I cuddle my baby. He means more to me then I can explain or even comprehend.
If your ex wants to sign the birth CERT. Then let him but let it be known he will PAY you CHILD SUPPORT. And if the *** doesnt he'll go to jail. But if you DONT want him involved...if the situation is THAT bad then don't even bother with him signing(its his choice though).If he chooses not to then so be it and you won't ever have to deal with him again.
Good luck to you. Be strong. Don't get stressed. Don't bother fighting with him, just hang up. Think about your baby. When you get stressed while preg. it hurts baby. And when you have this baby and you love her/him don't let jerks make impressions on her/him.
2006-12-08 06:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by A Person I am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to him period. I know not having him there throughout your pregnancy may be painful but it's better then him putting you through all of this stress. And don't change your mind about the baby just because he is immature I'm pretty sure you can make it on your own alot of women do it.
2006-12-08 06:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by $$$$$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't allow him to make a decision for you. It's your body and just because he's too immature to grow up and accept his responsibility does not mean that you have to run out and get an abortion. Of course it's going to be hard and it's going to be a struggle if you do it on your own but think before you act.
2006-12-08 05:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then get your number changed or better piss him off by refusing to argue with him because when you argue with him you are just bringing yourself down to his level. Don't consider getting rid of the baby because of him because you have felt that child for four months and though you don't realize it yet, you have formed an attachment to that child. The guy was a bad decision but the child is your redeeming factor!!!
2006-12-08 05:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by mya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you're considering, but if you are thinking about abortion be assured that you will not forget or "get over" having had one for the rest of your life. Perhaps having a baby and placing him with good parents is a good answer.
2006-12-08 05:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by drama4mama247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋