Can you please help me? I'm worried about my looks?

Question

I had scars all my life, when I was 5 a chicken scratched me on the forehead, cheek, under the lip... They were pretty deep, now that I'm older I have scar gap on my forehead, and the same with the cheeks.

My dad was like giving me this speech "Girls don't look at that, girls look at what's inside, not the outside." WRONG!

I'm pretty outgoing, I have a best friend that's a girl, and we were friends for 3 months, and I asked her if she wanted to go out and have dinner... she said that she was busy doing school work, and didn't have time for anything. So I went to the Mall by myself, but what really broke my spirit is that she lied to me... I caught her hanging out with her other friends that night, and she said "Hey let's go out to the club...blah..blah" I drove home and looked in the mirror... I guess she didn't like the way I looked, I was just depressed.

Can you guys help me feel better, because I just really need it right now... I know I have to move on, but it's hard

Answer 1

You can always get plastic surgery-and people being selfish these days and superficial are obviously going to look at what is on the inside 1st. And, no one is perfect, and you should know that. Find God, and he'll guide you. Believe you'll find the right people, it is just a matter of time.

Answer 2

Beauty is what the beholder sees! If you feel that it is your scars that keep friends away from you, then you could go in for plastic surgery, if your could afford it.
You must surely be gifted with some other talents, and you must be knowing this already. Exploit your talents to the utmost to win friends of either sex. Look up the life stories of other not good looking women, such as Eleanor Roosevelt. Surely real men wouldnt go only by looks in women!
Note also that you would find many men in a situation similar to yours. Dont they have good looking girl friends or husbands?
Your father was right in what he said, as a general home truth. You can however go beyond what he said, and try out some improvements on yourself.

Answer 3

Sounds like your father didn't tell you of the phony girls out there, just looking for guys who are good-looking. Whatever does it mean? In the long run, I mean? Course you know, looks catch people's eyes, but that's about it.

So wear those scars with freedom! Don't worry...there's a lot more than looks to a person. You've got spirit, don't you? ;)

Take care.

Jaoli

Answer 4

Some women like me think that scars are sexy. I know you are a beautiful person inside and out. Don't feel bad about your scars, they are part of what makes you so special.

PS My boyfriend was shot nine times in his torso and he used to feel the same way. It took him almost a year before he actually let me see him without a shirt because he was so embarrassed.
Keep ya head up!!!

Answer 5

She took the cheesy way out by saying she had school work. She should have simply said "no, thank you." But it was probably easier for her to say she had work to do than tell you she doesn't want to go out with you. Do you really want to have a relationship with someone who cannot even tell you the truth, like "no thank you - I already made plans."

Also, you sound young. As people mature, they grow past the superficial.

Answer 6

You know who two of my favorite movie/TV stars are-------James Coburn and the guy who played Paladin. Neither one of them had good looks----by what people call the norm.

Come to think of it-----------my two closest men friends (one I had a relationship with once) are not good looking. And, I am considered unusually good looking.

So, looks don't count to a woman. A girl, tho----I just do not know. Sorry I cannot be of more help.

Answer 7

You cannot change your looks any more but take this advice. The God who created you is faithful and he is ready to give you the best partner you can ever imagine.The best thing you have to do is to get closer to God. If you are one of those guys who kick against God, hay!, it is time to get close to him.I love you.