y is it that teenage years are the hardest years?

Question

well i came out this year and it has sucked ever since..... well i love being bi with out a dought in my mind but y does every 1 make a big deal out of it??? like my parents and friends, they all say that im going 2 hekll just because im bi, also i got my very 1st gf and she just broke up w/ me.......this year as sucked like none other..... and im only 15, Crap this high skool drama

Answer 1

Perhaps it's just that these are the years when your brain, your body and your personality are all fighting for your attention. You are trying to juggle a lot of emotions right now. Keep a diary. Writing helps relieve the stress. It can also force you to list your goals, both the mundane everyday things you want to accomplish and the more meanful, long term goals you want to achieve for a happy adulthood. Teen years are difficult. Your brain is playing havoc with you right now, it's normal, but can make you a bit crazy. Your sexuality has nothing what-so-ever to do with anyone but you. It's private, and yours, and no one else's business. I'm always amazed by people who tell others that they are going to hell. How do they manage to have that Hotline to God? God loves and cares for us all, and you know what? You can confide in Him any old time you like, and he won't judge, he'll just listen. God's pretty great that way. Be careful, be good to yourself, protect yourself. Everything will be okay. Hang in there.
Remember, its only high school...and you are right, it's petty and dumb and it too, shall pass. College is fantastic, so keep your grades up! You will love the diversity and the challenges, the freedom of expression and the life. You will find your path, keep kindness within you, even if others around your have lost theirs.
Happy Christmas.

Answer 2

Teenage years are the hardest because you go through the most changes. Changing from a child into an adult. Not only physically, but mentally and emotionally. The excessive amount of drama from teenagers is because they are learning how to emotionally respond to different situations, and the only examples they have to draw upon is TV and movies where over-reacting is common place. They think this is normal and so they believe it is the way they should act.
A child is used to being told what to do, when to do it, and how it should be done because they do not know enough about the world to make those decisions. An adult has to determine this on their own. An adult is asked to do something instead of being told to do it because they have the right to refuse. We are obstinate as a species and do not like others to control us.
Lastly, your sexual orientation is your business. Keep it that way and you will be much happier. As you have noticed, others like to think that their way of doing things and their beliefs are right. This is not new or uncommon. As long as you are not of legal age, you do not have the rights of an adult. Your time will come.

Answer 3

Because you think you are grown up and ready to handle the responsibility of adulthood, yet teens still revert to childish behavior. An adult does not need to TELL everything nor be accepted for who they are. You'll see when you are grown up that you veiw things alot differently and will not CARE what others say and think. Its a shame your parents are not supporting you, now is the time for them to open up and give you information to make good decisions. At the same time, your parents are hurt as they have these high hopes that you will one day marry, have children and your parents will feel they've done well. Right now, they are wondering where they went wrong. Is it normal to bey bi? Maybe. I'm guessing you are just experimenting and really don't know yet. Be paitent...time will heal you, you'll be smarter and you'll see things different years from now. Peace and love to you....

Answer 4

high school is tough if your bi , gay, str8. friendships form and dissolve you have pressures from the outside of your family that you have never experienced before, and lets face it how many teenagers really get along with their parents that well.your Friends will grow to accept you if they are true Friends. and maybe you can direct your parents to PFLAG to help them understand you. either way don't worry high school doesn't last for ever. you will have a new circle of Friends that are excepting just because many of them may be gay or bi. and you can move out on you own and live they way you want to. your parents may not except who you are but most will always love you. so hang in there we have all been through it to some degree

Answer 5

Because unnatural relationships are forbidden and don't exist in the afterlife in other than damned places, everyone is freaking out because you're too young and ignorant to understand the long term consequences of the path you've chosen. They don't want you to be a perverted freak only to find that your soul is actually damned when you're finally old and wise enough to understand what that means and it's too late. The entire universe is trying to stop you but as you walk away from God, Jesus, Angels and positive spirits, there is no where else to go but to the bad ones that will plague you with troubles for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

those are the hardest years since that is when you figure out who you are, when and if you have the smarts and confidence to do that, adults don't even usually give you the freedom or autonomy to be who you are. That causes frustration and tat often leads to drugs which don't help the situation. When you are 25 or so it gets a little easier.

There are advantages and disadvantages to being bi too so don't worry about that either. Just sleep when you feel down.

Answer 7

Things are hard now so that it will be easier later. I think the teenage years help define us before we become adults. And you being bi adds a little extra difficulty for you because most people don't know if they're comfortable with that. As if it's their business. What I like about it is that you are open about it and you don't care who knows. You are pretty tough already.
Hang in there and be careful. Good Luck

Answer 8

Teenage years are the hardest because your trying to figure out who you are. As a child you don't care and as an adult you already know(for the most part), so of course teenage years are the hardest. If your parents love you they will except you and your friends will change many times over through out the years. Trust me life only gets harder, but the sooner you find yourself the sooner others will except you. And as for going to hell... Do your parents really think God's so petty to bother over who you sleep with? Some how I think he has bigger problems. O well you could be like me, I blocked my middle school years out and high schools starting to blur...

Answer 9

I don't know why, but when you are a teenager, you think that you've go life all figured out. I thought I knew EVERYTHING. Then realy life comes and slaps you in the face and you realize you KNOW NOTHING. That sucks. But keep in mind, the drama you are having now will all seem so small and so long ago when you are about 20, so keep looking forward, and think about the LONG TERM effects of all your decisions and you will be fine

Answer 10

Ha! They are not! They are just the only years you've experienced so far! Try old age! Try the nursing home! How about divorce, or jail as an adult, or the Internal Revenue Service? Be happy you can run around without physical pain, that you have peers interested in you sexually, that the whole world markets advertising to you, and that you have your whole life on the horizon!