would you forgive him/her?

Question

suppose your hubby had sex with someone else, after 15 years of marriage. it was just sex, he loves you, he apologized and hes not willing to go away from you.
would you forgive him? or would you end a happy marriage, just because he slept with someone else?
the question goes to guys as well....just change "he" to "she"

Answer 1

well. i would forgive her definately. i would continue to live with them. yes pain will be there..always will. but after time it will subside. you see.....if poeple and God can forgive me for all the wrong i've done.....theni can forgive someone else for what they've done///even something this serious. b/c...i've already been through a similar situation. this person and it never ended up working out b.w us..but if i were already married i would not divorce..but we are great friends and when we saee eachoterh (which is often) that doesn't come to mind anymore. so yes

Answer 2

Cheating is cheating. And once a cheater always a cheater. He or she isn't willing to go away from you because you are the safe haven. Have you cake and eat it too to put it lightly. If he or she really loved you they wouldn't have cheated in the first place. Period. They will do it again, they will just be more careful, that's all. Be wary of forgiving the cheater. Last time I did, it was three more years before I found out that he'd done it again...twice...He didn't love me...he liked the idea that if he couldn't find someone else at the time, that I would still be at home in his bed. Not anymore. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I've been in the same situation as you only with "her".
Yes, I forgave her but to this day I still don't trust her. As someone else said, if she can't account for some odd time, money missing, phone calls, etc., then I get very suspicious and that leads to depression. Because in the end, even though she says that she hasn't done anything wrong, how can I be sure. That's where the broken trust comes in: once it's broken, even if it's fixed, it's never the same. You'll always be second-guessing what's happening when you aren't around.
Separation and counseling may help, but in the end you will have to see how you really feel. If it doesn't feel good or the same anymore, then technically it's over and it will be up to you to end it.
Good luck!!!!!

Answer 4

I have thrown all the cheating scums to the curb in the past in a heart beat, but I have changed a little since then! It depends...if we were having a few problems like fighting or stress and he did it that way I could forgive him but he would have to earn my trust back and work extra hard in the relationship...but if we were prefectly happy and it was some insensitve, sponatious act just to do it cause he could then he woild be gone and no take backs either..that would only tell me that he doesn't love or cherish what we have! Regardless cheating is bad

Answer 5

it would hurt a lot but yes i would end it because i believe once a cheater always a cheater, and if he loved you and cared about your feelings he would have never done it in the first place it start with sex and end in a big miss. So yes i would end it no matter what he told me beacuse you just don't sleep with other people if you are in love something is wrong somewhere but somepeople wouldn't end it and end up wounder why and what if for the rest of there marriage.

Answer 6

If our happy marriage was so happy then he wouldnt have to look at other women and sleep with them. If he was having problems in that departments he should have talked to his wife about it before sleeping with someone else. I dont think I could live with it, knowing he slept something someone else while we were together. If he loved me he wouldnt have hurt me like that because that would make me feel like I am not good enough anymore and that ohh yeah honey I love you *sleeps with someone else then another and another* Oh I swear I wont do it again. If you let him get away with it he'll do it again. That trust is broken

Answer 7

No, I don't think I could ever forgive him. It would be on my mind 24-7 and I would be suspicious every time he comes home late from work, every time he answers the phone and goes to another room. Maybe with A LOT of marriage counseling..but still prob not.

Answer 8

I believe it really depends on the person. As for me, trust is a very sacred thing in a relationship, and once it is broken, I don't think I can ever forget nor forgive the offender. Even if I were to forgive him/her, it would be moreso for my own mental health's sake, to prevent me from becoming mad with anger. So I could never forgive her.

Answer 9

Being that he "loved" the woman one wouldn't expect him to risk the relationship by just sleeping with some other woman, this would lead to insecurities and distrust and that is never good for a relationship. Forgiveness may come but I'm not so sure as to how long it may take...

Answer 10

I believe that I would put an end to this 15 year relationship if my partner was to be unfaithful. Forgiveness is one thing but the feeling of low self esteem would overpower all other emotions and the fact that if it happened once will history repeat itself would always be in the back of my mind.

Answer 11

no I would not be able to forgive him. Why because if it was the first and last time that he did that, I would still have doubt in my mind. and i would think that if he felt the need to sleep with someone else then he wasn't happy with out relationship and i would on.