I have a (girl) friend of mine who I was quite close to. But recently we had a major arguement (or rather i pissed her off and she was really upset by it)
But now she wants us to go back to being friends. The problem is i feel so guilty for what i have done to her, that i dont think i can go back to being friends with her.
Another point, although not connected with the first, is that recently she seems to of turned a bit nasty. she does things to me (and others) that would wind other people up, but cos i know what shes like, i didnt used to get offended, but now i starting to.
Should i get back with her? or should we let things cool down
2006-12-08 05:13:35 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give it a try, they say time is a great healer. We all make mistakes and it would be nice to be able to forgive.
At least give your friendship a try. If it doesnt work out, then at least you can say you tried. Then maybe you will be able to tell if you have grown apart. Sometimes this happens in friendships. If this ends up being the case, then you will have to move on to pastures new. We do not always stay life long friends with everyone we meet.
2006-12-08 05:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do wrong to her? If it was a case of telling her a few home truths and she didnt like it then you are not in the wrong, she was probably just shocked you said something to her. If this is the case, then maybe she has thought about it and realised you were right. Or maybe no-one else will be friends with her because she is nasty and she knows you used to put up with her! If this is the case, i personally think with friends like that you dont need enemies and i would find myself a new best friend if i were you.
2006-12-08 07:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by kate b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is proabably upset by whatever you did and is maybe trying to get attention because she is unhappy.
Talk to her in private about getting back together with her and together make a decision. Apologise for w/e you did and start off as friends and if you are happy with her THEN get back together.
She might not have any other good friends to turn to so take it how it comes :-)
Hope it helps a bit
2006-12-08 05:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can still be friends. I know of a couple who used to live together and they split up. They remained friends, he even helped her move 6 months later from the house they used to share. They started seeing each other as friends and now they have just got engaged. So you see, things can work out.
2006-12-08 05:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens that friends get fed up with each other...arguing freely with one of them is the proof that ur really close.. do u really want to lose her completely? maybe u shud think of all the great things u did and could still do together...if ur guilty in the story, u shud try to speak up to her, explain ur view, coz being friends often means opposite viewpoints!!!! feeling guilty is a good sign, it shows u still care. i think u should hurry before u regret doing nothing to change the situation.
2006-12-08 08:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by wen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her, get back with her.
Let things cool down may not a good way to solve problem,you should face it.
If you love her,you should tolerate all about her.
Do some sweety things to her,she may feel so sweet!
2006-12-08 05:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that you've pretty much written her off already.
Sometimes it is too late to renew a past friendship when you begin to see the person differently. Perhaps it is time to face the fact that this particular friendship has simply run its course.
2006-12-08 09:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should re-asses the whole relationship. Because it sounds to me that in fact both of you went to another level of relationship and have seen things in each other that you didn't know were there. People have faults and we have to accept some of them in our relationships. Your more of a man than me gungadin.
2006-12-08 05:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like the actions that she does.........I don't think you can ever go back to being the friends you once were. Move on.
2006-12-08 05:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a cooling off period then see how you feel towards her.
2006-12-08 05:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋