This friend told me she will throw this surprise baby shower for women only. She asked for my help on getting the contact info in order to send the invitations. I gladly collaborated on that as well as offered my help on any other things she need, buy I don't know: Should I get more involved or not?
Thank you for your help!
2006-12-08 05:12:40 · 14 answers · asked by correcto_jonas 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's not necessary for you to get more involved.
HOWEVER, if you know your wife might like certain things to happen at the shower (ie-likes particular games, wants a memory activity like everyone making scrapbook pages for the baby, etc) then you might want to let the planner know.
And, you should definately mention it if there's anythiing your wife DOESN'T LIKE. Particularly games she finds annoying or embarassing. At a friend's shower we all played the game where everyone uses string to guess how big the mom-to-be's belly is. My friend hated every minute of that game. She felt huge and hated people making a fuss about her size. None of us knew but her husband did! Really wish he'd mentioned it!!!!
2006-12-08 05:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ali D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not? she's your wife and you're just facilitating something that could only make her happy. just be sure that you help keep the surprise a surprise
generally speaking, "ladies only" does mean "ladies only", but since it's your child as well that they're celebrating, i'm sure it could only be good if you pop over to celebrate with your wife. just because most women don't have their husbands over at their baby shower, doesn't mean you have to do it that way too. however, ethically speaking, you shouldn't ask other men to come and be prepared to be the only man at the party. i've never been pregnant but if someday my friends hold a baby shower for me, i don't think i'd mind at all if my husband shows up atthe shower, especially if he's done a lot of things in the background to help out.
but since i'm a stranger over the internet, don't counsel from my answer... i'm just giving my opinion but of course I don't know you and your wife personally. you know your relationship with your wife much better, and you can counsel with a wise friend who knows both of you and has your best interest.
you may want to take note that since it's meant to be a "ladies only", you may want to not take credit for most of the work you did. If you're lucky, some thoughtful friends might discreetly whisper to your wife that her beloved husband drove so many miles to make this happen. But if that happens, that's a bonus, not a goal.
2006-12-08 13:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mizz G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have done enough.
Leave the ladies to take care of the baby shower and keep your offer to help out open.
My wife's family always invite the menfolk to baby showers and I think it's just wrong! I have been telling all the men to come over and let's watch sports on TV or just hang. Men don't be needing to go to baby showers.
Our job is to show up and help with the lifting!
2006-12-08 13:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunatley women think that baby showers are to be women only. They forget that the new Daddy might want to be invited...There is no reason whey it can't be a Jack and Jill one. Some men also think that its not manly to be at a baby shower.
2006-12-08 13:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been to an all woman baby shower in years. Most of them are coed w/ the, praise men these days, more involved fathers. No one wants to leave Daddy out anymore.
2006-12-08 13:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband had nothing to do with my baby shower at all, lol. My sister and sister-in-law did and bought everything. Everyone is different though. I am sure if she needs your help on anything else she will ask. Congrats and good luck!
2006-12-08 13:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, baby showers are generally thrown by and for women only. Unless it is a co-ed shower, but it sounds like yours isn't.
Sorry, but you've done about all you need to do. Just help keep your wife oblivious and she will thank you!
2006-12-08 13:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask the friend if there is anything else you can do to help. She probably has it handled though and the more involved you are the more likely your wife is to find out.
2006-12-08 13:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife's friend has it under control. If she needs anything else she will conatct you. Be ready to trasnport everything after the shower. Good luck wiht your new baby.
2006-12-08 13:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by mktk401 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not necessary for you to get involved. It was very nice of you to get the contact info together. Of course, if she asks for your help, it's completely up to you if you help or not. There's no real rules.
2006-12-08 13:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋