how do u know if ur husband is cheating in u?

Question

my husband is still in contact with his ex although i did told him that i prefer he doesnt.... s that a sign he is cheating?

Answer 1

Depends whether he's going out of his way to see/contact her really, Even then it could just be that he feels comfortable with her & have become more of friends now. I still have contact with my ex Husband & even at times share a coffee in the local cafe, although we don't & wouldn't arrange a meeting together. We live pretty close by so it's inevitable that we'll bump into each other from time to time. You don't give too much away as to the circumstances of your Husband & his ex "getting together" so it's hard to give an informed answer.

I certainly don't fancy my ex-husband anymore; I talk to him as though he's just another person I know [which he is] My present husband is totally aware of any time I see my ex & doesn't have a problem with that. Having said that my ex also has his g/f with him [she hates it when my ex talks to me]

If your husband is meeting his ex by way of a date & they're not sorting out issues like children & the like, then I'd look further into it. Don’t automatically jump to conclusions though.
Sorry! Hope that helps you to sort things out better somehow.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

You don't stop loving someone just because you have split up and gone your separate ways.

Your husband will love you in a different way to how he felt about his 'ex'. Sometimes you just have accept that you can't control every aspect of your partner and that you simply have to trust him.

The fact that you pose the question means that you don't, so maybe you are not 100% committed. If he is coming in late, buying new shirts and can't look you in the eye then he is having an affair. Let him have his flirts / texts. He most probably needs an outlet and if he up front about it then there is nothing to worry about. Now if he was keeping it a secret I'd be worried. Maybe she can provide a friendship or emotional need that you would like to fulfil. Be positive, not negative and he will look to you rather than her. Be negative and it will simply drive him away..... I mean if you are being accused of having an affair you might as well be hung for a cow than a sheep!

Answer 3

just been through exactly the same thing. In the end you have to just trust him and if you cannot think about what you want to do next. I hit this matter head on and threatened to leave. It took us 48 hours to thrash it through and assistance from a third party (my mother) but today i can say he feels nothing for the ex and I know that he loves me. He just sees nothing wrong with writing to her (or for that matter 2 others who he wrote to before me and while he was with the ex) he sees it literally as a past era and they are now just friends. I have had to accept this and be secure enough in my husband's love for me which i know is great. What do you think you will do?

Answer 4

you know cheating is very worng sometimes i dont understand why people are even in a relationship or commit their self to one if they cheat i admit i have cheated ( but im not married ) yes its very wrong i have learned from my mistakes and i kno that the person you are' with now are with you and the people u cheat with are gone after a good fuuckk i have learned to make wise decisions i cant break another heart and know that they will leave and 'you will have nothing. and yes i told him. he hated me. i cant regret ne thing it has already been done and i cant go back and change it.

Answer 5

Dont worry dear, you sound like my ex's gf and we both laughing when she is not there. If he wanted he would be with me but never with her. It is not cheating they just in the end know that love doesnt work but nobody can stop them from being best friends and support each other with advices or something. Dont forget it is very hard to find good friends nowadays!

Answer 6

If they have children together, then no. If there are not ties to her and he is still communicating with her; then if he isn't, he is considering it.
I would tell him how you feel about it, and ask him how he would feel if you were doing the same thing with your ex husband or boyfriend. If he said it wouldn't bother him; tell him that you certainly hope it doesn't bother him in the future.

Bottom line, he is very inconsiderate and not serious about you and his relationship. He needs a wake up call.

Answer 7

No, that is not a sign.

Why can he not be civil and polite to an ex. I would chill and not worry. Always give the benefit of the doubt.... Until proven otherwise. You will be much happier in yourself too!

Answer 8

if they don't have any kids together there is no real reason why he should stay in contact with her, particularly as its making you feel uncomfortable.

i don't think hes cheating on you- yet.....

if hes not squirrelling away his phone and going out the room to text or talk to her - it may mean that he just values his friendship with her but couldn't have her as a partner......

however.......

i think you may need to re-iterate the fact its making you feel very uncomfortable and would he be so blase if the shoe was on the other foot? ( i think not personally)

good luck

Answer 9

My boyfriend is in contact with hes EX. He was over here and when she called he went outside to talk. I told me that he don't talk to her anymore. So I don't know what to tell you. Just that ALOT of guys these days keep in contact with there ex's ....I think that its because they need a fall back. Call cheaters ; )



Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

I would say yes possibly, and you have to worry since you told him you prefer that he doesn't speak with her then he has no respect for you. I would do some snooping if I were you, his car, his phone, his wallet, don't let him know what you are doing though so he won't be trying to hide it so well and then you will catch him if he thinks you don't suspect and he will get sloppy and you can bust him. This works I know, I did it.