She knows I'm not gay....I've made that very clear. We've been together a few times and now she's becoming obsessive and jealous. I don't how to tell her to back off and still have the occasional night of fun? She told me I was the best lover she's ever had.....can I somehow get her to seperate the sex from having feelings?
2006-12-08 04:55:54 · 21 answers · asked by CURVY 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i am trying to cut down my subversive sexual sexual answers but you are making it very difficult for me to not !!!!!!!!
please! have a heart girl! men cant handle tales of hot lesbian love and not go ape s h i t! but i think you know that you little devil..
2006-12-09 02:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she's not the type of person who can handle a sexual relationship just for fun. If you know it's hurting her, why would you want to keep her around to keep inflicting it on her? Can you not find anyone else to play with? I don't think she has the problem, I think YOU do; you know how she feels and yet you keep dangling youself in front of her like a carrot in front of a mule. You say "how can you get her to seperate the sex from having feelings." Why is this all about you? Is she even human to you? People are not toys for you to take out of the box at will.
2006-12-08 05:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by irie.girl_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anytime you choose to sleep with ANYONE you run the risk of them developing feelings for you. If you continue to sleep with her you'll be sending her mixed messages and she'll always hold out hope. Maybe explain to her that just because you are a good lover does not mean that you are a good partner for her. Tell her that your aim was to give her physical pleasure but that you feel no emotional ties to her. Explain to her that there is more to a relationship than great sex and that you're sure she will one day find both but that you simply aren't interested. If you continue to simply say, "I'm not gay so leave me alone." she'll think you are in denial about your orientation. So make it clear that you are not interested in HER because if it continues to be conveyed to her that her biological sex is the only obstical, she will believe that you will one day change your mind and live happily ever after with her by your side. Good Luck.
2006-12-08 05:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Just Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made it very clear that you are not gay and would just like to experiment, and by her words and actions she has made it very clear that she wants you, more than just your body, she wants a relationship. So where do you guys find a common ground? Nowhere.
I suggest you stay away and perhaps find someone else you can "play around" with, because this girl appears to want more than just your occasional night of fun. And just to show you how it feels, how would you feel if an amazing and totally sensitive gay guy will hook up with you just for sex, because he's just experimenting with his sexuality. But you just find him so charming, romantic and sensitive that you fall for him and actually hope that you guys can start a relationship. Then he tells you it means nothing to him... Painful huh?
We sometimes play with fire and expect not to be burned, but it's not a newflash, we do get burned.
2006-12-08 05:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please.. stop acting like your such a victim. What do you expect? Your having sex with a lesbian. Being a lesbian doesn't mean one night stand after fling and continuous meaningless sex. This poor girl has feelings for you and you know it. You keep having sex with her because its kinky to you and you wanna have a good time. Lesbians are women, they don't separate sex and feelings, just like straight women. If you have no intentions if dating her or giving her the time of day (obviously because you SAY your not gay) then you need to stop. Your being selfish and hurting someone because you wanna get laid. Your no worse than a womanizing man! Get over your self and go screw another straight girl. Or, come out of the closet.
2006-12-08 05:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by metrogurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO?!?!?!?! Who the hell are you trying to fool?
If you have f.u.c.k.e.d. this girl a "few times" then you a gay sweetie!!
Stop fooling your self, at the very least you are "BI"
If you dont want a relationship with her then just tell her and stop sleeping with her. Come sleep with me, if you are that great in bed I want to know, and by the way, I love NSA sex, it's the best kind!
2006-12-08 08:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but if you have sex with the same sex you are gay... and you did it more than once, you are def. gay! Anyways, get your number changed because its obvious the girl is sprung and has the tendency to become stalkerish!
2006-12-08 07:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by KasaiB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's cool that you experimented. as for her stand your ground and just let it be known to her that it was an experimental thing and that it's best that you stay friends. if she is a true friend she will understand. if she has just you and sex on the brain then it would be best to let her go. it would be hard but still it's all about respect
2006-12-08 05:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Pichu_02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should cut her off completely. Appearently she can't handle the sex without commitment. Tell her that it is over, that you are looking for the same things.
2006-12-09 01:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ha Ha! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the carrot and stick approach :-) Tell her exactly what you told us, that you don't want a relationship but just casual 'fun' now and then!
If she is ok with that, keep giving her the carrot...if she wants more, then withdraw and don't give her anything (the stick approach).
2006-12-08 15:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by <<Craig>> 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i have to agree with the other girl when she said that you just need to let her go.
you were just testing and a true friend would understand.
I think you should remain friends, tell her how you feel and don't have another night of fun.
2006-12-08 05:29:40 · answer #11 · answered by jacobs_beautiful_angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋