Arranged marriages are one where your parents look into the girl's family and the people they interact with and decided that she is right match. But the final decision whether to marry the girl your parents have picked is upto you. These do happen a lot in Asian Countries.
2006-12-08 04:52:56 · 9 answers · asked by magicjaan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess you don't know if the girl is the right on for you for LIFE and your parents don't either.
2006-12-08 04:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont! how can you fall in love or know that someone is the one just by what are parents say? maybe your parents did it and found happiness and true love but that doesnt mean you have to follow. although i cant sit here and tell you to do something because it is your religion but i cant say that if you do have an arrange marriage and go through with it find the good in that person. make sure you can at least have a good conversation with the person since you are committing to spend the rest of your life with this person! hope everything works out for you
2006-12-08 12:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kenneth and LaQuita B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages are not common in my culture (i.e. never) but I know they can work. I do have a friend who was in a similar situation.
There's no one person out there waiting to be your soulmate. Someone _becomes_ your soulmate by the two of you sharing your life together.
I think you'd really want there to be at least some sexual spark, and some agreement on how you want to live. Extremely important is how you two handle things you disagree on. Nobody agrees on everything, a key success factor in marriage is how you can handle those areas where you disagree.
2006-12-08 15:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, honestly. Reminds me of "Bend it Like Beckham", where the main character's mom tells her husband to tell their daughter "Marriage first! Love comes later!" in an attempt to get the daughter to settle down and become more ladylike.
Sometimes when two people end up sharing the same experiences, living together, having children, etc. they can come to love one another.
Personally I think people should be free to choose, but arranged marriages do work for some people.
2006-12-08 13:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you honestly would not know until you take time alone with her, get to know her and see if you honestly fall in love with her Arranged marriages sound fearful to me!
2006-12-08 12:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't know if she is right. until you meet and get to know her. Even tho it is to be arranged you should be able to spend some time with her...
I do not believe you should be forced to marry someone that you have no connection with...
2006-12-08 13:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY YOU WILL FIND THE RIGHT ONE FOR YOUR LIFE. ARRANGED MARRIAGES ARE ABOUT BLOOD LINES NOT LOVE!
2006-12-08 12:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know... it is an overwhelming feeling of comfort and happiness.
2006-12-08 12:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU CAN NOT BE WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE , LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH!!
2006-12-08 12:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by hairie bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋