2006-12-08 04:43:37 · 18 answers · asked by miscraterr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hey I know every one have this biological clock, but mine is STOPPED right now!
and I do not want to start it up for a while, is that OK with you?
then kiss him before he has a chance to answer you and say thanks I knew you would understand me
2006-12-12 03:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by david s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is easy, no matter what if you are not ready, you are just not... go take a day and sit in a child support court... ask if he likes it there since even though he is the love of your life more than 70% of parents end up there. Then ask him for some small, loud animal that stays up all night and needs a lot of attention... (ferrets) that is what my child wanted and got. And then here is the kicker... ask him for a 400.00 dollors a month just to spend how you want, because that is the least it will cost to have a child,... the least. Trust me I have 2. Get a carseat from a thrift store put a 10/ 15 lbs have him carry it around, in and out of stores. He has to take it out of the car everytime he stops... Gas Store, shopping, tell him to go to the mall with an infant stroller... heck just send him to my house for a weekend, I could use a break.
2006-12-08 04:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by HappyGoLucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you better get real. You don't want to tie yourself down with nobody baby. What you scared of, come out and tell him that you are not ready for no kids. If he don't like it, tell him he can be gone with out a doubt. You have a life to live, having kids is just going to block you. You better stand up and say what you have to say, before its too late. And you are going to be the one standing up there looking stupid.
2006-12-08 04:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bout It 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god!!! i am going through the same thing..im in a 4 1/2 yr relationship right now! i love him to death but like almost everytime we do it ,,,he talking baout how he want me to have his baby right now...and oh we are having tiwns today!!! and i am sooo emotionally ready but not at all financially ready!!! i always ay to him this : " listen babe i love you with all of my heart and am waiting and looking forward to starting a family with you but we both know we arent ready! if you really look at the situation right now...we are living in my mothers house, you dont have a degree, you say your taking the firemans test, but havent yet, i have another two years of college before i be a teacher, and bringing a baby into the world right now is not fair to the child....we would be a great set od parents, but not as good as we will be if we wait and can do this financially comfortably" and he sits and thinks and agrees with me..i mena our love is so strong, so we have so much passion and are so ready for the next step personally....but just not yet..it is not the time yet! so try telling him something like how i did but obviously filling in certain areas with things that pertain to you and your relationship! good luck sweetie!
2006-12-08 04:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your reasons are, but I would say it's because I want to make sure I can give my children the best life possible, and in order to do that I need a strong financial foundation. Even if he has a lot of money, the more solid and secure your life is before having children, the better. I also want to make sure I am stable in my career before I have kids. I want to be a good example to them, and I also want to be sure that God forbid anything ever happens to their father, I will be able to provide for them. Try to make him understand that it's not about lack of love for him, it's about trying to be sure you'll be able to do the absolute best for your children when you become a parent.
2006-12-08 05:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by curbelocc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and say that you simply are not ready.
if you say that you are not ready to have his baby it will sound like a personal thing to him
just tell him that you are not ready to have children yet, but that does not rule it out completely for the future.
2006-12-08 04:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by mel2430 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. whatever you do, don't say 'his' baby lol it sounds very bad. Just tell him honestly that you aren't quite ready for children yet and you want the time to be just right so you can be the best parent for your children.
2006-12-08 04:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Ring Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that hes moving 2 fast 4 you b/c your not ready for a kid but u do love him you just have 2 wait a lil longer before u bring a kid in this world
2006-12-08 04:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by dyme of 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest. Just tell him you love him but you're just not ready to have a baby yet.
2006-12-08 05:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you are not ready to give up yor freedom or that you dont feel that you are at a point in your life (mentally or financially) to be having children.
2006-12-08 04:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really give us enough info. How old are you? Are you married? etc. Take it from someone who has a child... DO NOT HAVE ONE UNTIL YOU ARE SURE YOU ARE READY! They are great but a ton of work, responibility and money! They change your life forever.
2006-12-08 04:46:56 · answer #11 · answered by talker628 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋