how can i stop this cycle of hopelessness. I want to be around more people but I'm SO shy... all of my friends have moved out of the city, too... Any advice? (be nice, please)...
2006-12-08 04:34:33 · 12 answers · asked by Sophie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just find something you like to do, and your shyness will start letting go.
You will make friends eventually (but you have to want to make them also) ..
Its good to find those people in the similar things you like to do .
2006-12-08 04:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you need to just make a decision to choose to be more assertive. Find a class through the local mental health branch on assertiveness training or a support group to develop self esteem. You have to start making some healthy choices towards building up your self worth and being in social situations will help to feel better about yourself. I know that this is a difficult step to do but I believe that you will do this and look back at this time in your life as a learning experience. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-08 04:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you still in school? It will be easier if you are in school because you will be surrounded by people your age. Smile so you look approachable and friendly. Try to start up small conversations with people. Talk about classes you love/hate, fashion, sports, TV shows, music. For example, if you like a girl's shoes... be like "Your shoes are really cute, where did you get them?", and take the convo from there. Oh, and make sure you introduce yourself if they don't know your name already. That way you can say "hi" to them in the halls, and they will remember you.
If your an adult, it's gonna be tougher since your usually surrounded by the people you work with. Try joining something, like a yoga class or cooking class. Your going to have to make more of an effort to just go up and talk to people. Smile and show your friendly.
2006-12-08 04:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by I scream for ICE CREAM!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for ya sweetie, Im pretty shy myself and sometimes it really sucks. Itry to be social with people at work and stuff but sometimes I just freeze. Ya know I always wished I had a different personality. At times when I force myself to "be involved" it makes me feel so good like Im fighting the shyness. Sometimes people mistaken my shyness for me being just a btch! That is annoying too. Try to fight it and watch how much better you will feel. Try little things like getting into conversations with people at school/work that you normally wouldnt get into. Watch the rush you will get as you try to get through this shyness. If that doesnt work and you are too sy to try, I would suggest you going to the doctor to get something for social anxiety. Im not trying to say youre crazy or anything believe me because I've tried them too, like a zanax or something. Good Luck...
2006-12-08 04:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Crash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's VERY likely that some sort of therapy or counseling could help you. Chronic shyness is an emotional condition that can be dealt with in therapy very successfully. Other than that, all you can do is force yourself to be more social and hope it becomes easier as time goes by.
2006-12-08 04:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally know how you are feeling. like three of my best friends (and boyfriend) moved away from me. i felt like i was doing someting wrong. sooner or later you will begin to make more friends that will help you to not be so shy. there is someone out there that you can be yourself around... trust me.
2006-12-08 04:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by froggiegurl36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-06-21 04:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Joshua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry for you i have been threw the same. find someone you feel is close talk to your family or even introduce yourself so someone you want to be friends with make a fresh start
2006-12-08 04:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Japanese Kimono 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise just trying to talk to people. try finding an interest that you both share so you can talk about it. if you try trust me it will get better.
2006-12-08 04:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dr phil.com
2006-12-08 04:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋