need advice on my ex gf.. please?

Question

ok, i was goin out with this girl for about a year and three months she always told me she is really happy being in a serious relationship with me, then we had a fight three weeks ago she thought she was pregnant n wudnt talk to me she is not pregnant though it was a stupid fight, and she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, she said she doesnt want a relation ship anymore cause of the preassure, i havent really left her alone ive being calling her n stuff, and i know i shoulndnt do that cause that puts preassure on her and thats what she hates. its only been like 4 days since we didnt contact eachother, she said that she does still love me. do you think their is chance that she will come back if i give her space.. she e mailed me and told me that she is going to flynns, its a bar we used to always go to.. should i go? or should i not? please help

Answer 1

you write a lot here. sry to be picky here, but a "relation" is not a boat or a ship.

Answer 2

Give her space and stop being so possessive. Women hate that and see it as weakness, which they find very unattractive. Thinking she might be pregnant may have caused her to re-evaluate her life and whether she is ready to settle down. She may just be scared and need the time and space to figure it out on her own. Letting her have that will show her you love her and want her to be happy a lot more than pestering the crap out of her and making her see what a selfish jerk you are. Don't go to the bar when she is there. Let her work this out however she needs to do it. If there is something still there for the two of you, that is the only way to salvage it.

Answer 3

I think you both need to sit down, and not at a bar, and talk about this relationship. Where is has been, where it is, and where you both want it to go. Do your expectations and feelings match? I am not sure your ages (hopefully and obviously over 21-bar meeting place)but you seem to have been together for a long time before you just broke up. The fear of pregnancy can scare anyone and make them do things they otherwise would not do but you have to be mature and talk with each other if it is meant to last. Let her know you are there for her no matter what her decision is- to stay or leave. That you love her and respect her for that choice. But you have to mean it and also feel it yourself. Women and men both need space. To love someone is not to cover them or pressure them but to let them make choices and feel free to love you in return. Women like some mystery. This is impossible to have when there is no space between you and your partner. Go to the bar but give her space. For example, tell her to call you or ask her when she would like to get together next. However, make sure the relationship is balanced. Another thing, do you have a job, hobbies, etc. Please stay engaged in those things. Women hate it when men drop these things for "love." It is not heroic. Heroic is keeping up with these things and still being able to balance a relationship. Now that is Price Charming. I wish you good luck.

Answer 4

send one more message and tell her ur gonna back off and give her space and time to think of what she wants. Let her know u still love her no matter what her decision is. After that just back away and wait awhile to let her think about things maybe the pregnancy thing kinda gave her a big scare and she might need time to cope with it all. Remember now matter what happens it was meant to be god has things happen for a reason. Plus there is plenty of girls out there that would love a sweet caring guy in there lives.

Answer 5

i don't know it seems to me that she e-mailed you this for a reason. i would go, but don't approach her, let her come to you. i would not sit there all night waiting though.when you arrive look to see if she is there, go up to the bar an get a drink,but with out be to obvious make sure she knows that you are there. then give it a little time to see if she comes up and talks to you. while your there don't be watching her every move, just sit there with your drink, if she has not come and talk to you i would say after about 45 min. then leave, and by the way don't let her see that you have left, and then go home and wait, I'm sure she will be contacting you.when she does and ask why you left, just tell her that you just stopped by, so that you could see her because you miss her, but that you wanted to give her, her space.trust me!!

Answer 6

Don't go! Give her space to think...my brother really loved this girl years ago...she asked him to give her some space and he didn't he did exactly what you are doing (against MY advice), she dropped him and moved on...he was very devestated for a long time...he has since moved on but the moral of the story is, if she needs time...give her time. If it's meant to be she will come back, if not you will move on and be fine. I think the whole preg. scare frightened her. Give her time and for heaven's sake if you get back together, be more careful!!!!

Answer 7

Don't go. And don't call her, either. Give her some space and some time.

If her e mail meant that she wanted to meet you at that bar, then her sitting there alone, thinking about it may prod her into thinking more kindly of you. She might come around looking for you.

Clearly, time is needed to sort this mess all out.

kiwi

Answer 8

Dan, She wants space. Don't chase her and stop calling. Once you stop she'll be wondering what your up to. Go out with friends and have some fun. Stay away from her hang outs and leave her alone. I bet she'll call when she doesn't hear from you for awhile. If not then move on. I know it's hard but give her what she says she wants. Space. Good luck.

Answer 9

You should give her her space. Also, i think she is trying to send you a message. If she tells you where she is going at a particular date and time chances are she wants you to come and meet her there.
Send her an email and ask her if that is an open invitation for you to come and hang out with her nad hear or should i say read what she says. You can call and ask her too if you want.

Answer 10

she is probably in a little bit of shock over the pregnancy scare, maybe she wants to take it slowly so it doesnt happen again. I think the fact that she mentioned the bar is a hint that she wants you to go, since you have called her a lot e-mail her back or text her and ask if you can meet her there to talk.

Answer 11

Forget that girl! My ex tried to pull that same crap on me. She moved to Michigan for business school and broke up with me after 6 years of dating. She said I was putting too much pressure on her to get married (hello, 6 years of dating!) Anyways, its been about 7 months since then and I'm dating a way hotter girl and have never been so happy. Give yourself some time and you may realize you are better off than being with some girl who is just paying games with your heart.