Why do alot of ex wives have to be so spiteful ?

Question

When their ex husband moves on and marries someone else, even though she was the one to cheat and leave him in the first place? What kind of reward does she get from being that way?

Wow, lots of good answers, thank you

Answer 1

I have seen this out of both genders
its jealousy that when the new love comes in to the picture they have to grasp the fact they are no longer special in the eyes of the ex, even if the ex has long dismissed all feelings.
its ego and control , this is a person they think they will have to compete with for the ex's attention or their attempts to have one foot in their ex's life


and they also so afraid they will like their new love better than they liked them,
They have egos to mask insecurities and everything is on a score card from them

it's silly but it's how some can be

Answer 2

Women are just so more more jealous creatures than men. When kids are involved, the "protection" comes into play as well. Women for the most part, want men to regret the breakup and they want them to feel that "they were the one and only, and that no one else could ever fill their shoes."

When a woman sees her ex happy with another women, so often that is the exact point that the vengeance starts.

I know you didn't want to hear that, but sadly, that is so often the way it is. Of course, there are exceptions.

If there are children involved between the two of you, all you can do is your best, to be a good, loyal father. Tell the children that their mother was great and that it was just a problem between you and their mother. If your children relay to their mom that you were bragging her up, then that will make her feel better and she'll be more able to deal with the fact that you have a new wife.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Some women just never get over their ex's.. That is where the spite is coming from. It does'nt matter if she cheated or not , she probably now realizes what a big mistake she made and is angry because there is no turning back and if the ex has moved on and is happy why she is miserable then that explains it all. It may take a while but eventually she should get over it.

Answer 4

The only reward would be self absorbed. Why did she leave why did she cheat? There is no excuse but there are reasons. Maybe he was so horrid to her in the marriage that the two of them would only know that this is her way of assisting herself to heal. Not that it is right but it is understood. This is between the two of them and no one else. Remember as well if we do not show that a person can so call push our buttons we do not give them the pleasure and typically they stop.

Answer 5

X-wives have such a bad wrap somtimes the husband is the one provoking the attitude in them.The reason for the x-wife being spiteful is that she is the one who wronged her husband.Let me put it this way Her guilt is eating her up and she can't deal with him being happy with anyone else because she is miserble herself.People seem to forget that you do reap what you sew.She has no reward except asking him to forgive her for her shortcommings and move on with her life.

Answer 6

Nothing, no reward should be granted here. I think some women do it as a controlling thing and nothing more. Especially if there are kids involved some women enjoy to torture the ex and his new love and to me, that is very selfisha and wrong but some people live with it. So again its a control thing.

Answer 7

There are ex husbands who are the same way. And most are like that because they finally can see with their own eyes how could the ex is with the new wife / hubby and they now know what they lost. I myself call this behaviour "pathetic". You didn't want them, don't blat over them after the fact. And my fiance's ex is the same way, so I'm living proof that although she wanted out of the marriage, she also is finally realizing what she lost (they've been divorced for 6 years before I came along).

Answer 8

Most x-wifes only want to have a close friendship to their x-husbands. Especially if there are kids involved. The x-wife may feel like her close friendship is ending with her best friend when he desides to move on. Even if she left their marriage for other reasons. If it has never happened to you, than you may not understand the feeling of real loss this x may be feeling. Especially if their previous marriage lasted 8 or more years. I was very close to my x-husband. We had a great friendship even though our marriage didn't work. He is married now, and his new wife is totally jeolous of the friendship I shared with him. So, in respect of his new wife, he has given up our deep friendship. It feels like someone very, very close to you has died. And you will morne it as so. I believe it would be best to sit down with the x-wife ( if kids are involved) and talk, scream, or cry together. Get it out on the table( if she is willing) you might walk away as best friends yourself, and sit back and enjoy a glass of BRANDI together.

Answer 9

No one likes to be rejected, even if they were the ones to make the mistake that caused the breakup. It feels like you've been "thrown away" or you're defective in some way; but, in any case, should have been given a second chance - pursued like a valuable treasure. When the wronged partner throws up their hands and dumps them, it hurts and makes them angry. A great many people never get over the hurt it causes.

Answer 10

When a marriage ends, it can be very difficult regardless of the reason for it ending. It can make a person feel like failure and that's hard, doesn't give anyone a reason to be spiteful but everyone deals differently, give her time, if there are children involved you have to deal with her regularly make it as peaceful as possible for the kids, if no kids just stay away there is no reason for her to be in your life.

Good Luck.