whats my problem ?

Question

I know its wrong, but for some reason I continue.....I always go commando (no boxers)..and recently have started to leave my zipper unzipped to expose myself hoping another man will see and comment...i dont touch myself or get erect, just want to act like i didnt know it was undone and to see what if anything people (inparticular, men) will say...why cant i stop ?

Answer 1

just be very carefull not to get caught doing this.......it would be very embarrassing to get arrested for this. if you are serious about just hooking up., try finding some local gay hangouts or hookup spots. if you are hot and live near me send me an email or a pic of it. i will look all you want.

Answer 2

Commando is fine, as long as you can control your penis. An erection without any support can be awkward, and leaks show up clearly on your pants.

Leaving your pants unzipped is dangerous, you can easily get arrested for that if you walk around with it open, and someone sees that you knowingly have it open on purpose. You might not realize that other people do notice. Keep it zipped. If you have pubic hair, and are commando, it will certainly show and be noticeable.

Most guys, even bi's or gays, won't be looking to see if you are unzipped, in fact, it detracts from your basket. If you want to impress a guy, have your bulge noticeable, which might mean you need to wear some good pouch style low rise briefs. But again--ZIP IT UP. If you get caught, you could become a convicted sex offender, even if you don't do anything other than just expose yourself. Then you are on the LIST. Ruins your life.

Answer 3

Commando is fine if your jeans or shorts are nice and soft. But intentionally leaving your zipper open to expose yourself is being an exhibitionist, or perhaps wanting to be solicited. Were you ever punished for being exposed or unzipped as a boy?

Answer 4

Hmmmm... yours just is a psychological problem.
I don't know if in your life you always need acceptation about every thing in general, or if sexually, you believe to be better than others and so it only is a taunt.
Others psychological hypothesis are possible..... the superiority complex, with the pleasure to subdue others men; on the contrary, inferiority complex with the need to like. A latent gayness that is asking to come out even......

Answer 5

Be ashamed of yourself and grow up - Ask Jesus to cure you from this perverted indecency in public.

Also, you must go on a short vacation to somewhere peaceful, where there are lots of green trees, pretty flowers, chirping birds, flowing streams, more trees, flowers, bushes, birds, greenery. I know the change of environment will clear your mind and help you focus on reality and wholesome things.

I know that your father did not give you much love and attention and affection as his son and now you are in pain over this. boys desperately need a father's love and to validate their self-worth and esteem. I blame your parents squarely for this problem you have.

Please contact the poster who posted the long message before mine. He seems like a good guy to help you break this habit.

If the police catch you - it won't be so funny !!!! Remember that.

Answer 6

Dude, you are gay. Find an adult man and 'take care of your needs'.
Don't touch a minor and be very secluded, to prevent the backlash of people finding out you are gay. Good luck. Hope you find a venue to relieve this drive. OH, and you won't be able to change your thoughts, no matter WHAT anyone may say.

Answer 7

Get a boyfriend who can look at you unzipped and exposed in privacy. It's just not right to walk around like this. Or maybe you could become a porn star so you can fullfill your sick fantasy of everyone seeing your junk.

Answer 8

You're a pervert Dude!!!

Keep it up and you will find yourself under arrest for indecent exposure. You will be "very popular" in prison.

Seek professional help asap..

Zip up your pants for the appointment!

Answer 9

i hope ure at least doing this in a place where there are no kids around. but, u need a therapist!

Answer 10

You need some help. By help I mean encouragement and a way to talkout stuf that might be inside you emotionally and you need to deal with. Obviously you Aare lonley and seeking attention. What you are doing seems a way to get it.

Please stop for a while and email us. We will be a friend to you and tryu to help you before you end up arrested or having some disease.

Unfortunately you are only going to get a response form some oen who is also troubled and wanting attentio also. That is not the right person for you to get help form not under those circumstances.

HOw old are you? You say you do not know why you do this?
You say you do not get an erection form doing htis. THat is a good sign of course if you didi get an erectino form it you couldn;t do it becsue it woudl be so obvious that everyone would see it. NOw isn;t that true.

Are you between 13 and 26?

read my other answers if you like to these sorts of questions.

Unfortunately in the western society if a man is gentle nd loving and kind we automatically assume he must be queer.

If a young man wants attention fomr another man then we assume it is a sexual thing. It is not. You are seeking emotional support and encouragement from a male. It doesn ot mean you are bad or wrong. However inour culture it is so hard form men to be real men becaeue they are so busy fulfilling th ideas about what a man is that are out there and whcih have n=been put out htere by men who mostly have something wrong with themself and are trying to take the speck out of the other pereosns eye while they have a log in their own.

Now look. If you are seeking attentino form men you are really seeking true and recognizeable attention from God. It is a good thing you are doing. BUt without osmeone to show you the ropes you are going to take godly desires in you and use them to harm yourself emotionlaly physically and spiritually. DO you belevei me?

Email us seperately. the auto response system will not give us enough room to really give you informatino you need to know.

I am happy to be your frined over th Internet. I will be happy to help you find a good legal and healthy way to get wqhat you are seeking. I will not tell you what to do but I will show you options and ways to look at this so you can handle it.

I understand that this is troubling you and at the same time you want ot do htis and do not want to do it.

YOu are really wanting not to do it but do not seem able to control what you do.

Please tellme about your self. I am interested in you as a human being and if you do email me I am going to if you let me pay a lot of attentino to you. THat is why God put me on this earth to help someon like you. If you want to let me help you.

We will never meet. You can talk honestly to me as msny have done inthe past. Then with your honesty we can try to help you so you will be a responsible human being who aware of your own sexuality and who is in charge of it.

Right now you aree saying you are not in charge of it aren;t you.

HOw old are you?
what is you culture? Wherer do you live?
I do not want you address I want ot know where in the world are you? These things all give me clues to understnadning what you are dealling wiht is it emotional is it cultural..
tell me about yourself and your family. I am sincerely interested. Tell me what you ate for breekfast and tell me who your threbest friends are.

tell me the things you like to do. feel free to talk about non sexual things. Are you an adult? are you a teen? Are you in love wiht some one? have you been? DO yu bhave acne? DIdi you? HOw is your self esteme? Have you evver had a seriouis accident or been sick?

If you could do naything in the world that you wanted to do is there something you would say you wanted to do?

Are you masturbating? how much? how foten? Is it a habit or just something you do.

Whaat do you thinnk about and dream about when you do if you do. Not every one masturbates in spite of what they say.

If you are an adult are you working? In what field?
Tell me about you so I can try tobecome a frined and so then we can try to figure out if this is an emotional thing or a spirituyal thing or a physiological thing.

Are you cut or un cut. DO you think you are well hung?

What do you think your sexual orientaion is?
The world is lost in its opinino about this subject. They do not understnd history or the true nature of the human race so they have set boxes for these things that do not reflect reality they only reflect the reality of current popular opinions.

There are many men who have no interest in women but htat does not mean they are all gay. Htere are many men who GOd or nature has casued not to be interested in women as a protection to prevent them form having sex with anyone else before they meet the person ( of the opposite sex who is their exact match. THe one GOd or nature ( if you do not want to belvie in god) nade for them.

I do come form a very conservative approach but I am not a biggot or homophobic. I will once we get to be true friends debate hard woith yo against thinjgs you might insist to be true about yourself in the hopes of opening you r mind to better understnad your self and your true thoughts and desire.

YOu need ot be able to discuss this wiht som eone you do not know who will try ot be objective and if you do that with me you will ifnd you probably got he rihg tone to help you. I live for this. I have many who are happy now and very happy they engaged me.

You are a precious and special person and that is part of the reason you find yourself with this unusual behavior.

Let us find out the Gifts and talents you were born with and let us turn your value towards things that will build up your self estememand help you to be able to find peace wiht yourself and with our society.

If you are having any strong desires to do any thing pleaase just resist and do not do them We are on the edge of a break through for you so do not let anxious ness or restlesness make you go out and be more rambuxious than you are doing. Please. Beceu this is goign to be a case wher ewe are goign to be able to fix you before you get fully broken That is always the bets kind of fix thaat is the most rewarding to everyone involved. When we prevent problems instead of cleaning up afte the mess the problems make when they are not prevented.
Ihope you are encouraged and comforten by this response. email me [e-mail] do not use the automatic response email me from an emai laccount. MAnyset up one annomous accoutn just to chat with us thorugh. We do htis part time to help our neighbors so sometime you need to be patient and we get back to you. We can have a good godly back and forth and we can try to see how to encourage you in a way that works for you.