My wife has taken my daughter and moved out of state,the courts are telling me to pay $550 per WEEK......I love my wife and daughter....but she turned my daughter against me and she turned on me as well,her mother and sister died in the same month and she is moving in with her other sister and brother in-law.I don't see how I can save my family and live.I know I am a family man now I need A FAMILY. Try to be incouraging.
2006-12-08 03:58:42 · 21 answers · asked by Smith & Jones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry to hear you are going through such troubles. That is not fair of your wife to turn your daughter against you. Parents should never use their children when fighting with their spouse. I believe that is emotional abuse and will scar the children. $550.00/week is quite steep - I would honestly try and appeal it. There is no way you should have to pay that much money for your one daughter. Also, have you tried talking to your wife and explain how much you love her? I think with her mom and sister passing away in the same month, that is so tragic by the way, stress and loss can make people do irrational things. She should go into councelling before making such big decisions in her life.
Were you and her having problems before that caused her to leave like this? I suggest you and her need councilling apart and with each other. If divorce is still going to happen, then she should stop turning yoru daughter against you and you should appeal to the Court for the child support.
Good luck and hope you have a Merry Christmas!
2006-12-08 04:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to "educate" her as if she is a dog!!! first of all, your current situation must me the consequence of something... what has been happening between you two?? haven't you tried to consider that she must be even less satisfied than you are?? you are thinking just about "fingering" and stuff like that when maybe the source of the problem is communication?, empathy? and understanding??? anything else Beyond the mere sexual act? And don't even try to take this situation as an excuse and cheat on your wife now!! That would very selfish and even immature for a man of your age... Try to listen what she has to say and DON'T JUDGE her of having traditional thoughts... im sure there's a lot to save in in your marriage, even more after 22 years!!!!! Good luck and sorry If I spoke strongly but men sometimes are so thoughtless....
2016-03-13 04:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to save your marriage .Seems family mean less and less these days. As for paying well the courts suck when it comes to men and their kids they give them to their mothers charge a man a arm and leg child support so he can never afford another wife are life .and she can just move away and you don't matter anymore , marry again and and live on yours and his income , sorry I am a woman and I can't stand the way court think of men.
2006-12-08 04:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to where your wife is and tell you you love her and your daughter with all of your heart. You both made a lifetime commitment when you got married, for better or worse. Right now this is the worse part. I know it is hard when you loose someone you love and ever more so when you loose two people you love.
She needs to realize that you are in this with her for the long haul no matter what it takes. I seems she wants to be close to her sister possibly afraid of loosing her also. Just let her know that you are also her family and you do not want to be apart.
Best of luck to you. And keep you head up it will get better.
2006-12-08 04:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by brighton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off get a good lawyer. You do have rights since she up & left. Second(and I know your not going to like this) she left YOU, which means get over it & move on. I know easier said than done, but for whatever reason, she doesn't want you anymore. Or she just doesn't know what she wants. You don't say how old you are but if your the family man you say you are, then you will find a woman that shares your interest. Just don't be pushy, be patient.
2006-12-08 04:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by dumbdago 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the same problem as many many other men. You will simply have to go to court and fight for visitation rights, and pay your child support. I went through something like this myself, and I speak from experience.
Also it is very important that you understand that this marriage is over and done with. File the divorce paperwork, get yourself free of her as best you can, take some time to let the "dust" settle, and move on with your new life. Perhaps you will find someone new (as I did) who will really want to be with you.
2006-12-08 04:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did your wife leave in the first place? How were you with them when you had them? A wife just doesn't get and up and leave with a daughter from one moment to the next without cause.
You say you need a family now, what about when you had them? Did you not need a family then?
2006-12-08 04:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up you'll regret it in the long run. If you love your wife and child its worth trying to make things work. Maybe after your wife leaves she'll realize as well that she wants you just as much as you want her. Never back down! Never Quit!
2006-12-08 04:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see how the courts can demand you pay $550 a week while allowing your wife to move and take the kid to another state. You must have had one hell of a lousy lawyer.
2006-12-08 04:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand y u have to pay 550 per week when u dont even get to see ur daughter. maybe she is having a break down due to the fact her mother and sister died around the same time maybe she just needs a little counseling. as for moving out of state i dont think she can do that legally without ur consent. contact a lawyer and see what ur rights are.
2006-12-08 04:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋