when i leave the room my baby starts crying wants to be picked up all the time what should i do?

Answer 1

I have had four children, and I made the mistake of holding my first baby every time he cried; this ended up with a spoiled baby that didnt sleep through the night until he was 2. I ended up being tired and miserable all of the time. I vowed never to make the same mistake again! With the following three children, I let them cry. Obviously if their crying gets pitiful, you cant ignore that. But as long as you are confident that they have a clean nappy and have been fed....leave well alone! It is hard to ignore their crying but keep yourself busy and distracted, turn the music up, but dont fall into the trap of picking them up every time they cry!!! Babies pick up very quickly that if they cry you will come running. Dont reward their crys with a cuddle!
All these people who tell you to pick your baby up and give him/her some love, either havent had children or have been blessed with content babies, and do not realise the hell you would go through if you gave in to your baby all of the time. You can give your baby plenty of love during the day. Happy parenting! :o) x

Answer 2

Pick the baby up. A baby who knows you're going to respond to him/her has no need to test that later on. If it's physically impossible for you to hold your baby all day, invest in a sling of some sort (the best kind would depend on your baby's age). Your baby is not crying to manipulate you, s/he is crying because s/he needs something from you (even if it's just you being there because they are lonely). I don't get the rush to make babies independant.. it happens on it's own, believe me. I've never regretted holding my children as much as I did, but I sure have encountered a lot of moms who wish they spent more time just holding their babies.
ETA: You cannot SPOIL a baby (or a child for that matter) with affection and love. You can spoil someone with material things, absolutely, but I do not get the spoiling a baby by picking them up or holding them.
ETA again: I was blessed with two very difficult babies, so I HAVE been there with difficult babies who don't sleep well.

Answer 3

Im going threw the same thing. Hes 6 weeks. He will only sleep in our bed becuase he hates his bassanette. When we try to move him from the bed to the bassanette he wakes up and crys. Sometimes we will let him cry for a few minutes, but that never seems to works. You might want to try it tho. Again,as long as the baby is fed,burped,changed and comfortable you can let the baby cry it out for a few minutes. Than after the baby crys go in there and pick the baby up and rock him/her for a little while than try to leave again. Good luck.

Answer 4

How old is your baby ? If the baby is very young then it is normal for your baby to want to be held all the time. All she has known for 9 months was being all warm and comfy inside you and now she is in this big scary world and just wants to feel safe. I know it is hard in the beginning, but things will get better down the road. Do you have a sling ? Cos that way you could cary your baby around and you can do the things you need to do and she will be warm and comfy in your arms

Answer 5

coming from a mom, unless the baby needs to be fed or changed or isn't bleeding then crying won't hurt it...there is no way to get done what you need to do if you're holding the baby all the time, the only thing you will accomplish by holding the baby every time it cries is to spoil it..so in short see if the diaper is dry, once you've fed it then let it cry..maybe get a bouncy seat and let it sit with you in the room you're in , if this is when you lay it down for a nap let it cry.

Answer 6

If baby is under 6 months, then pick her up - you can't spoil them when they are that young. If older than 6 months then leave baby for a minute, then come back and reassure everything is o.k.. Continue while increasing time away - helps baby to become more independent while letting baby know you are still coming back.

Answer 7

If your baby is younger then 6 months it is because he/she doesn't understand that you are just in the other room. To them it seems like you have left. It isn't until about the age of 6 months that they understand you are just around the corner. If your baby is older then that it is because he/she just wants your attention. Mine does the same thing. It doesn't even matter if someone else is holding her, if I walk out of the room she screams and she is almost 8 months old. I know it makes you feel bad or can get frustrating but if you continue to run to his/her aid then they will always do it knowing you will react. Just let him/her fuss a little, it won't hurt. Goodluck!

Answer 8

This can be really tough on the parents. I had this with my little boy who in now 3 it does get better i didnt pander to it all the time as long as there needs are meet it is ok to leave them to have a little cry.But what i did find help full was talking to my child even when he was really young when i went out the room [momeys going to wash up now i will be back in a minute] things like that helped. good luck.

Answer 9

Do not go back, let he or she cry, always good for the lungs, but if the crying worsens then go back in the room...I made the mistake of every time my son cried, picking him up...Wish I could go back, he is 7 and still sleeps in my bed...

Answer 10

Have you heard of the DVD Happiest Baby on the Block? My neighbor used it and loved it, so when my niece started having the same problem with her baby I ordered it for her and she said it was a God Send. I just ordered her Happiest Toddler on the Block yesterday and she can't wait to get it. They also come in books. The cheapest place I found them was on Amazon.com, they were $15.95 each plus shipping.
Good Luck.