My wife came home from the gym last week and basically attacked me. We had some of the best sex ever. I joked with her saying, what has gotten in to you? She laughed it off saying, "I can't tell you...you'll be jealous." Well, I could tell that it was one of those deals where she really wanted to tell me, so I persisted a bit. Smiling, she said, "You wanted to know. Don't be mad." She then proceeded to tell me that a black guy at her gym, who is a personal trainer, kept approaching her, flirting, and asking to train her. She said that it was just a naughty turn-on and did not mean anything negative toward me at all. She said she is a faithful women and would never cheat on me. She said that he just had a perfect body and, if she were single, she would "do" him. I wasn't mad. In fact, I enjoyed the benefits, sexually. Later, when i asked if she would like to try a big black dildo, she put her pillow over her face and sheepishly said, "Ok!" Is this harmless fun or a slippery slope?
2006-12-08 03:47:44 · 29 answers · asked by Steve B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to her directly.i think she loves you adn not personal trainer
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2006-12-08 03:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
SLippery slope. Her curiousity was there and you feed it. Now she has some idea, but not the real thing. Will she feed it? Next time after sex maybe you can ask her how she would feel about bringing a black man into the bedroom. See what she says?
2006-12-08 04:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's harmless fun, as long as she keeps coming to you and not going to someone else. I don't know why you offered a big black dildo when you can get the job done and probably way better than a dildo.
2006-12-08 03:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a matter of time...and I'm talking days, not weeks until she's f**king him every chance she gets. It's not a matter of "if" but "when". The only sex you'll be having after she's f**cking him is what women call, "pity sex". She won't want you but will let your f**k her just because she feels sorry for you. Dude, she's already sliding down that slippery slope and they ain't no turning back.
2006-12-08 03:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This could be harmless or a slippery slope. You will know for sure within a few months. Keep you eyes open for clues.
2006-12-08 04:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..slippery slope! - take note.. he's her personal trainer. she get's to spend lot's of time with her.
If I were you i'd be worried. I almost cheated on my long time girlfriend once and became very guilty.. so i did her lots of favor - buy her gifts, treat her really nice, etc.
my girlfriend new the girl and was having doubts so i told her things to make her feel better. I told her that she's not my type, just a friend.. stuffs like that.
I may be very wrong, but still.. be careful.
2006-12-08 04:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Taran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the edge of a slippery slope... isn't the view grand? As long as you are both clear on where the bounderies are and you both agree to follow them and you both live up to your agreements, then you could end up having the best time of your lives. If you don't, then you could slip right off this slope. Remember, talk *before* and get all the details figured out. Is it okay if he trains her? She might "interpret" you as saying it is. Is it okay if he says this or that or the other while training? How about touches here or there? How about....
2016-03-28 23:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paint yourself all black and be her personal trainer...You don't want your wife having a fantasy about another man...For a lot of people adultery doesn't have to take place in the physical realm for it to be adultery. It begins with lustful thoughts in the heart and mind of that person. Since you're married, be creative and let her know that you are her special personal trainer minus the sex toys.
2006-12-08 03:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a very fine line between harmless fun and a slippery slope! You should be very careful!
2006-12-08 03:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just think your wife saw a fine black man and fantasizes about making love to a black man and that dildo is the closest thing she will get to it unless that dude give her a one night stand and she doesn't tell.....
I am a black woman and tell your wife not all of them are big and not all of them are good in bed...If the black guy was buff, mostly likely, he's small......don't worry he won't please her if curiosity gets the best of her...
2006-12-08 06:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine. she just has a little crush. I only hope that she is not imagining someone else when she is ******* you. You are pretty accepting of this, and I think you should continue to play it by ear and take it at face value. As long as you two are loyal to each other, I don't see the harm in a little role play or fantasy.
2006-12-08 03:51:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋